I know I'm not a regular here but I remember some of you from my first go-around tri days. I need some advice/insights on DS (M).
M just started
pre-kindergarten this week. He is young, born Dec 3, but NYC and the
immediate suburbs' cutoff for pre-k and K is Dec 31. Our actual county's
cutoff is Dec 1 but he goes to a private prek - grade 12 that didn't
have any issue whatsoever taking him. (I'm not opposed to him doing two years of pre-k if it comes to it.) Except now he came home everyday
this week with a bad report saying he just won't listen. The teacher
wrote a note yesterday saying that he was sitting on tables, sits down
for a minute and then gets up and she doesn't know what his deal is. Is
it that he's acting out with new everything including sister or is he
not ready for a structured environment. But he was already in a
structured preschool before this with no bad reports. He went to Bright Horizons,
which had science time, circle/reading time, and specials like
gym/movement, art, and even cooking. Never once did I get told he was
really disruptive to the class and I picked him up almost everyday.
I'm starting to think maybe M has ADHD. I always said he was a spirited
child but I'm thinking it's more now. He has always been very hyper and
can't even sit 10 minutes for dinner before he gets up. He had his
first tumbling class the other day and would stand up and run around
after doing one stretch exercise and would not wait his turn for the
life of him. He can't concentrate on anything and I have a hard time
controlling him. As a result, he's had 4 different sets of stitches and
one concussion already (only - I say it like it's NBD
- have two of the stitches been on my watch so it's not like I'm
neglecting him myself). I researched and I think he's exhibiting all of
the signs for ADHD. I made an appt with the pedi to discuss it on Thurs but I
know he's young for full diagnosing.
But I also wonder how much
of what we're going through is him being an almost 4 year old adjusting
to everything, and one that just recently lost his single child status in June.
He's now coming home saying "I'm a bad boy at school" and we talk about
what he can and cannot do. And it's not like he's upset that he has no
friends. This is the child before even introducing himself to someone
will give them a hug. He makes friends anywhere.
Proud Mama to Mickey (12.03.09) and Nemo (06.06.13)