Crying themselves to sleep

Madisonwiggins · September 2013

How do you moms feel about laying your child down and just letting them cry till hey fall asleep? Everyone is telling is that this is what we shoul be doing. We've tried it the last two nights and I feel horrible. I feel like I'm neglecting my LO..

MommyKristin88 · September 2013

Ahh the cry it out method. I hate it and refuse to try it. Seems very cruel to me, especially for a newborn! To each his own though...

CBiggs85 · September 2013

NOPE

MommyAmes2 · September 2013

Wayyyyy too young to cry it out. At this age it's just cruel.

BlondieBia21 · September 2013

How do I feel about it? I feel like it is a terrible thing to do to a person who is still adapting to a whole new world and learning that she can trust me.

ETA- I think anyone who allows a young baby to CIO is selfish. (that is directed to a young baby, at some point I do know that they will have to learn to comfort them self.) The crying won't last forever, so IMO you do whatever it takes to console them and let them feel safe and comforted.

coraggiosa · September 2013

Don't listen to them - listen to your instincts and pick up your baby.

CaliforniaDream87 · September 2013

My son is 4 weeks old. That is WAY too young to CIO. They are unable to soothe themselves at this age. I will be picking up my baby.

plunderb · September 2013

Not even people who agree with CIO recommend it for little babies. They just can't soothe themselves yet.

Do what feels right for you. Any type of sleep solution is about maximizing everyone's happiness. If it feels wrong, don't do it. Cry it out never felt right to me, but some people swear by it. But not for a newborn.

TurtleMomma · September 2013

This thread will not end well...

kwhite27 · September 2013

Listen to your instincts and the cues your baby is giving you. My LO is 5 weeks and I can already tell a difference between her cries. I would never let her scream and cry because I know she needs something. Other times she lets out this adorable fake cry (and yes it's fake- she is a total diva) and I know that 9 times out of 10 she will stop after a minute or two. Although I typically still pick her up because she is just so damn cute.

I go with my instincts and not what someone else is telling me though.

LJUTCMommy · September 2013

Even those that support CIO don't recommend it for newborns. Even those who do it at the earliest time wait until their LOs are 6 mos old.

Doctors did use to tell people to let thei newborns cry it out, get them on a strict schedule, formula feeding is best...etc. The people telling you this probably raised babies at that time. It's outdated advice now. Follow your instincts.

Soleil3 · September 2013

You feel awful for a reason. Listen to your instincts.

Critter015 · September 2013

I keep getting this suggestion as well. I can tell that DS isn't ready to self soothe though because if he's sleepy and crying, if he falls asleep before he calms down he wakes up still crying a few minutes later.

We did end up doing cry it out with DD when she learned to stand in her crib because she would stand up and cry after we put her to bed. She cried for maybe 15 minutes one night and put herself to sleep nicely every night since.

lydsyjane · September 2013

I don't have the heart to let her do this. Plus my sanity only lasts for so long when she's screaming. Usually she's crying for a reason, so I just tend to it and hope for the best.

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

I couldnt do it. It breaks my heart to hear him cry and i have to soothe him. There are days i wish i could since i dont have a partner to help when i get stressed but i still dont do cio.

JNoelleE · September 2013

I too think its too young to do CIO, and it isn't my favorite method, but I understand the need of doing it, eventually. I tried a couple times when my son was 7 months, but let me tell you, he didn't seem to be able to "self soothe" at that age either and cried so hard he threw up, so I don't quite understand how it's all of a suddenly 'okay' once they reach a certain age. Still seemed awful to be doing it then! So we weren't able to follow through with it. But now we have a soon to be 17 month old that needs someone to sleep with him through the night. I'm planning on cribbing these two early and hopefully just laying them down drowsy but awake will be enough. But if I were you, I'd wait a few more months at least before trying this again.

magdalina.h · September 2013

It's not recommended until baby is 4 months. Self soothing is NOT something they know how to do yet.

Ruger04 · September 2013

Don't have it in me. I think it's awful at this age. Only time will tell when she gets older how I feel about it but right now I say no.

LEMSA · September 2013

Nope. If he's kinda whiney, ill rub his back till he's asleep. If he doesn't fall asleep, i pick him up. There's no way I'm little my little man lay in a cold, lonely crib wide awake crying.

lkobriant · September 2013

WAY too young right now! You're baby is learning how to trust right now, as in they're learning to trust that you'll be there to take care of them when they need something. When you let them CIO this young you are teaching them that they can't trust you to care for their needs. I would wait until AT LEAST 6 mo. We'll be waiting until 9 mo - 1 yr to even consider it.

girlmama83 · September 2013

Seriously? You would do that to a newborn? Good job neglecting your infant the past two days.

henderson1026 · September 2013

go with your instincts and pick up your baby - CIO is cruel.

Michelle N · September 2013

Crying it out is for older babies that are fed, clean, and burped. I don't know why people don't understand that it's not for young babies, and it's not to "train" babies to skip feedings, etc. So sad that this is such a common question. It makes me think of that thread where the woman was giving her 3 week old rice cereal in her bottle to help her sleep through the night, and wouldn't take care of her when she cried.. that post completely haunted me.

amandarins · September 2013

The people that told you that are flucking morons. When an infant cries, it's because they need something. They have a lot of growth and development to go through before they can manipulate you.