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Working moms...how do yall do it?

emilyjc14emilyjc14 member
in August 2012 Moms
My LO just turned 1. I just now getting back into working and may be offered a teaching position soon. It was fine all week, mon-thurs...but this morning she was crabby and wanted to rest her head on my shoulder and I had to go....

I need motitvation....words of encouragement.
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    AmySmolosAmySmolos member
    DS was the same way this morning. He didn't want me to put him down and just stood beside me saying mama all morning. It makes my day start off horrible but its Friday!!! I gave him all the cuddles I could, learned how to do almost everything with one hand do I can hold him when he's like that, and tell him we have all weekend together. It sucks. But when I get home he always crawls as fast as he can to me and I love that! Working mom guilt sucks.
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    shakinrosshakinros member
    Some days are harder than others. As amy said, the greeting at the end of the day is something I always look forward to! I try to think about the fun she's having on the playground at daycare and all the toys they have that we don't. Good stuff is happening for her during the day and my working is making that possible ( not to mention her college fund, our ability to take vacations, the camps she can go to one day, etc)
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    rjacquesrjacques member
    I agree with both PP! Working mom's guilt does suck but the happiness and excitement on my DS's face when I pick him up at the end of the day is what I look forward to! Hang in there momma! 
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    TechieGirl1TechieGirl1 member
    I understand what you're going through. I miss lo during the day a lot, but when I pick him up after work it makes it all worth it! Also I second the doing everything with him on my hip! Its amazing what I can do with him on there!

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    BluepointToastedBluepointToasted member
    I think the way to do it all is to lower your expectations.  For housework, homecooked meals, etc.  If it gets done, great, if not, oh well.  I'm finding that if I plan a lot on the weekend, my weeknights are more laid-back and we can spend more time playing and less time getting ready for the next day
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    BatDaughter4EvaBatDaughter4Eva member
    Some days are definitely harder than others. I work weird hours (4pm-12:30am) so I don't even get to see him when I come home. I just spend whatever time I can with him before I go to work, and I cherish my two days off.

    Just remember that by working you're making a good life for your family. That's what I tell myself.
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    sdlaurasdlaura member
    I think if you have childcare that you trust, it is a lot easier.  I think my daughter really enjoys going to daycare and seeing her friends and playing with different toys.  And I think I'm a better mom and appreciate her more when I'm not with her 24/7.  We get plenty of quality time in the mornings, evenings, and on weekends.
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    MeredithMLMeredithML member
    BluepointToasted said:

    I think the way to do it all is to lower your expectations.  For housework, homecooked meals, etc.  If it gets done, great, if not, oh well.  I'm finding that if I plan a lot on the weekend, my weeknights are more laid-back and we can spend more time playing and less time getting ready for the next day

    This all the way! You can't do it all. House work, cooking complex meals, laundry all get put on the back burner. When I get home it is all about Wyatt until he goes to bed. Then I do all my chores.
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    BatDaughter4EvaBatDaughter4Eva member
    I agree woth everyone else, too. Sometimes I put off housework, or opt for a ten minute shower if it means twenty extra minutes with him.

    My house isn't a wreck, but it's not spotless.
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    lynde129lynde129 member
    It is definitely much easier if your child goes to family daycare!! Last year I left for work before DS got up ( DH took him to daycare- my MIL's) which made it super easy!.  Now I switched schools so I actually get to see DS in the morning and drop him off at MIL's.  It is harder for me to see him in the morning and have to leave him- but since DS is so comfortable with his grandparents he goes right to them and waves bye-bye to me which does make it easier to leave! I love picking him up at the end of the day though!!!
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    vic8504vic8504 member
    My mom comes to my house to watch DD and 99% of the time DD is still sleeping when I leave so that helps out a whole lot. I still feel guilty some days because I feel like my mom is raising her instead of me. I am actually still struggling with going back to work and not being a SAHM.


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    AprilAngieAprilAngie member
    I think sometimes we just have to do what we have to do... I have four kids so trust me I feel it's hard but what choice do we have
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    jodegaardjodegaard member
    Awww, HUGS!!!!! @LiliDragon

    How long have you been back at work? A few weeks?

    Has it gotten any easier?

    I'm so sorry. I know how badly you were dreading this. :(
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    BatDaughter4EvaBatDaughter4Eva member
    @lilidragon I've been back for 8 months, and still cry sometimes. :(
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    mmknightlymmknightly member
    I've been back to work for a year and I still cry at least once a week. It's hard. I never got a chance to be a SAHM and it bums me out that I might be missing milestones.
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    fastcarsandfreedom3319fastcarsandfreedom3319 member
    I hate that DS is in daycare for 12 hrs a day. They see him awake more hours than I do. It hurts a lot but he has a blast there and being around the other kids has really helped him learn so much. I'm hoping after our move that he will be in daycare a lot less because we will have family to help us.

    In terms of weeknight meals, I consider it a victory if I cook once a week and then we eat leftovers for the rest of the week.
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