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Not to be morbid on a friday but....

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We had a united way campaign meeting today at work.  The video showed different people who united way helps and one was a teenage boy.  He was talking about how his mother was diagnosed with brain cancer and then his father died of cancer so his mother was moved into and home and he moved in with friends.  Very sad.

So I thought my reaction would be his parents should have given him a sibling so he wouldn't have to do this alone. But it wasn't....

My first thought was I need to make sure that we have the appropriate means to support our son if something like this happens to us (disability insurance, life insurance, guardians, etc)

Then i thought about the sibling thing and thought if he did have a younger sibling that might be worse for him because he would be the older child expected to be there and support the younger one.  Depending on how much younger completely caring for the child.

The death of my DH and me is one huge issue for us deciding to be one and done but i feel like this realization today made me lean more towards OAD when I thought it would be the opposite.  I had only thought of the negatives of being alone when your parents pass but this situation made me realize there are positives on both sides.

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Re: Not to be morbid on a friday but....

  • Arcadia1114Arcadia1114 member
    When my mother was dying, having an adult sibling was one of the biggest stresses. Dh and I were expected to pay for three flights for her to visit my mom before and after she passed. I was expected to plan (and pay for) all of the arrangements. My sister was an extra burden. We didn't talk for months following my mom's death.

    Dh and I signed our will this week. This ensures the ds will be properly taken care of is something should happen to us. It didn't cost as much as we feared it would and gives us a huge piece of mind.
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