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My lo only wants his mom

Landon814Landon814 member
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Hey everyone I need some help I'm currently working two jobs so my wife can stay home and bf everytime he crys and I hold him he just gets worse until I give him too her to hold which wrap or sling do you recommend so I can have a little bonging time too
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Re: My lo only wants his mom

  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    Wearing baby in a carrier is a great way for dads to bond with their babies. The motion of you walking and the sound of your voice are calming for them. :)

    My DH likes soft structured carriers (like Ergo, Beco Gemini, and Kinderpack) and mei tais better than slings and wraps, because be likes how fast/easy they are to buckle. But I know that lots of dads like slings and wraps too!

    Other ways you can bond with baby:

    Participate/take over bathtime
    Read to baby
    Change baby's diaper
    Bring baby to mama when he needs her :)

    Good luck!
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  • musicalmama5musicalmama5 member
    Also, try bonding with him when he's not crying. He might still need mom for comfort, but when he's happy (like right after nursing), pick him up and carry him in the sling or carrier then. 
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  • Mrs.AmyDylanMrs.AmyDylan member
    I echo starting with a happy baby. Talk to him, tell him what you are doing. Tour the house, sing, splash in the sink. 

    You don't mention how old your son is, but it is harder for dads in the tiny baby stage. It gets better. Keep trying! 

    And high five for busting your tail to support your family.
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  • cpmichcpmich member
    How old is he? The tiny stage is really hard on dads. One thing to remember is to pay attention to what faces and body language you have. At first my husband, who was working a ton, was really nervous and tended to unconsciously scowl whenever he held our son. Once it was pointed out, he made sure to smile and it actually helped a lot. Depending on your child's age, he might also be going through a growth spurt which means he just needs to eat constantly.

    Also kids go through stages. It is normal to start in a mom stage. He will later go through a dad stage where he cries when you leave for work and your wife will feel really sad because all he will want is you. It is perfectly normal and healthy and has nothing to do with AP, it is just a brain development thing.
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  • ReeceFamilyReeceFamily member
    My husband was so excited to be a dad so he was really bummed when she needed me so much at first. It has slowly changed. Now I even get a little jealous because our daughter ( at 7 mos) thinks he is WAY more fun than me.
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