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• playball13 member

  September 2013

  No CP or MC here but we did try for #2 for about 18 months. We had the "maybe it just isn't meant to be" coversation 2 days before my BFP. Good luck and I hope you are here soon.

  

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• wendylouwhoknew member

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  I'm 44. We experienced a chemical pregnancy and early miscarriage on July 4th.  I waited for my period in August and started back up with the temp monitoring and ovulation predictors.  Funny thing though, my temp NEVER changed and not one of those kits gave me any indication I was going ovulate.  We still did the dance according to when I was most likely to ovulate.  I didn't keep track of anything after the second week because I figured I wasn't going to ovulate for some reason...never know what your body is going to do after a miscarriage.  LMP was August first and by the twenty-fifth, I knew I was pregnant and had it confirmed a couple days later.  You hear it all the time, it's when you don't think about it that it happens.  For us, that was the case.

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• Excitedmum35 member

  September 2013

  My husband and I were TTC #2 for about 9 months. I was desperate to get pregnant as I was 35 and I couldn't understand why it hasn't happened as last time we got pregnant straight away. My dr referred me to a fertility specialist as she said if I was over 35 and trying longer than 6months that's what we needed to do. I made the app. And then I cancelled it as I found out four days before I was pregnant, now 15 weeks!!! Yay!!
  I know how frustrating and upsetting it is though. Good luck, if it doesn't happen soon ask to go to a fertility specialist. Hopefully u can cancel the app!!!

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• Guennie member

  September 2013

  I am so sorry for what you've been through and I can relate to the heartache. I hope my story can give you some encouragement.
  
  I am 40 years old and 29 weeks into my first successful pregnancy. This is the 6th pregnancy for me and the only time I even made it past the first trimester. I lost two when I was very young. The first I had to abort for medical reasons and the second I miscarried at 6 weeks. Then 2 years ago I got married and we lost 3 pregnancies within a year. The first was twins, I lost first one and then the other followed. I had to have a D&C. The second was a blighted ovum. I tried to miscarry naturally, waited it out for 2 agonizing months with weekly ultrasounds but my body just wouldn't let go. We finally decided to try meds to induce a miscarriage but after enduring 9 hours of contractions and passing a giant blood clot, everything else was still there. In the end I had to have another D&C since it didn't work. The third I miscarried almost immediately after we discovered I was pregnant so I didn't even have much time to be hopeful.
  
  I know the rollercoaster all too well. What I went through both emotionally and physically I would never wish on anyone. It was so hard not to give up hope. By the time I joined TTC35, and you are right they are such a supportive group of ladies, I was completely lost. My husband wasn't able to give me the support I needed. I couldn't get him to say he wanted to try again yet he told me I didn't have to give up. The rare times we were intimate I felt like he was holding back. It was a very lonely and confusing time.
  
  I finally took a referral from my dr to see an RE. After our first appointment everything was mapped out for my husband and I to do testing. I was waiting for af to show to call and schedule an hsg. But surprise surprise, I started spotting then it stopped and all the ladies on TTC35 told me to test so I finally did and it was a bfp.
  
  I won't say the pregnancy itself has been easy, but it is a very healthy pregnancy and my little girl is beautiful with a strong heartbeat. I don't know why this was the one that worked, but it did. If I had given up I would not have this miracle growing inside me. I will never be more grateful for anything in my life.
  
  You still have so much time. You are still young. I know it doesn't feel that way with the whole AMA stigma but it's true. I hope you will see an RE if you haven't already to rule out anything which might be causing your losses. But even if you can't find a reason, don't give up hope. That one sticky bean just might not be ready for you yet. Look at me, I'm 40 and I really thought maybe it was just too late. Now I'm sitting here smiling at my little Ninja baby as she kicks me in the bladder.
  
  Big hugs to you, I send you the very best wishes for a miracle baby of your own. Keep the faith.

  Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.

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• FutureMrsB. member

  September 2013

  Aw! Thanks ladies!  You just all gave me the warm and fuzzies.
  I actually have an appt with my OB today and he has mentioned going to an RE before so I'm sure he'll point me in that direction again today.  My DH just submitted a specimen sample (he was thrilled   ) last week so I'm hoping we can at least see if it's all good on that end today and move forward from here.We are not giving up! It's just getting harder and harder to ride this emotional roller coaster, which has had more downs than ups.  I'm so happy for all of you! You are giving me hope and at this point, it's what I need to keep "pushing" forward.
  Thanks again!!!
  

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• psychgalbride member

  September 2013

  I had three miscarriages between DD1 and this pregnancy.  All were in first trimester and considered "flukes."  I miscarried all three naturally so we did not have the opportunity to do testing to rule out a genetic issue.  We fought fertility issues (PCOS/MFI) to have our daughter and 2 of 3 miscarriages were medicated, fertility cycles.  This pregnancy was a complete surprise BFP on a rest cycle.  Please don't lose hope.  Every loss was absolutely devastating and I had to hold on to hope that our miracle would come. 
  
  Good luck... I hope to see a BFP post from you soon! 
  

  
  
  
  

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• tfkre8ive member

  September 2013

  I'm 39 years old and 18 weeks 3 days pregnant. We've been TTC for nearly 5 years during which time I had two early miscarriages and too many many months of failed fertility treatments with an RE. I finally had surgery for endo and a D&C in February. I got pregnant naturally in May. It happened for me, but not without bumpy roads and a lot of heartache along the way. I'm thrilled now that everything seems to be going well this pregnancy.

  Baby #1 due 2/10/14!
  

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• bargainbabe75 member

  September 2013

  I m/c at 36 years of age with #1 pregnancy and we tried for two years after that. I'm now 38 with #2 pregnancy and am 27 weeks

  
  

  
  

  
  

    

  
  

  
  

  
  

  (Always in our hearts baby Erwan 22/03/11. 22w + 5d)

  
  

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