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DH and I held a newborn....

hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member
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at our friends' house, left, and got in the car and were like, "We are so done having children.  Never again". LOL!


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  • Arcadia1114Arcadia1114 member
    We had the same experience this summer. The affirmation is nice!
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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member
    Right?!  Besides the awwww cute factor, because they're so itty bitty and you can hold them forever...  I really did not like that stage.

    I like my sleep thanksverymuch.  Plus, I like my talking kid.  The newborn non-talking thing made me mental, trying to guess what she wanted, why she was crying, what was wrong.  This talking gig is kinda cool ;)  (I mean, sometimes.  It's not as cool when she tells me she wants to kiss Harry from one direction.  Or when she says she doesn't like me, and slams her door).
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  • mac&chip1mac&chip1 member
    I'm so glad I'm not the only one who isn't a fan of the newborn stage. Blah.
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  • hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member
    edited August 2013
    Chapter79 said:
    Right?!  Besides the awwww cute factor, because they're so itty bitty and you can hold them forever...  I really did not like that stage.

    I like my sleep thanksverymuch.  Plus, I like my talking kid.  The newborn non-talking thing made me mental, trying to guess what she wanted, why she was crying, what was wrong.  This talking gig is kinda cool ;)  (I mean, sometimes.  It's not as cool when she tells me she wants to kiss Harry from one direction.  Or when she says she doesn't like me, and slams her door).
    I held her for literally 3 minutes and then dumped her off on DH.  It was the exact opposite of how I thought I would feel but I was completely uncomfortable holding her!!!   And too, too funny on what DD is saying :)  So it begins....

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  • DivallynDivallyn member

    My best friend is due for her second in February and when we bring them supper after the birth I forsee myself feeling the same way. I did not enjoy the newborn stage at all. The PPD and PP insomnia was killer. BUT, I am terrified I won't feel that way and I will leave want another.

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  • hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member
    Divallyn said:

    My best friend is due for her second in February and when we bring them supper after the birth I forsee myself feeling the same way. I did not enjoy the newborn stage at all. The PPD and PP insomnia was killer. BUT, I am terrified I won't feel that way and I will leave want another.

    I went into it thinking, "Crap, we are going to come away wanting another".  

    Held her for 3 minutes and realized how needy and fragile she is and I was totally over it.  I looked at my hearty, walking/talking 15 month old and felt complete.

    I had horrible PPA, so huge hugs for the PPD and insomnia.  

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  • =Lee=B=Lee=B member

    I used to nanny for a family with 4 kids.  At the time they were 5,3,1,1.  They tried for a third and final child, they got twins.  The men in the neighborhood (very close knit neighborhood) all panicked and most got snipped, no families ever had a 3rd after the twins came lol. 

    Anyways, one day at school drop off the dad tagged along.  A new mom stopped by with a newborn.  The dad held it and was like "wow I want another".  Then, with a panicked stricken face he turned to me and said "did I say that out loud?  Please do not tell Jill (his wife)"

    It was impressive.  The dad, of 4 kids aged 5 and under, in a house that was chaotic at best wanted yet another child when he held a newborn.  He had twins that were not yet walking and were so needy, and he wanted another.

    I grew up thinking I'd have many, many kids.  Then I started nannying for numerous large families.  I soon realized that one child has many, many positives.  I soon learned that I felt the positives outweighed the negatives of an only!  After working for numerous families with twin infants I feared we'd end up with twins.  I was so scared that when we gave birth a second would pop out and yell "surprise".  We have one.  We're done. Couldn't be happier!

     

     

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  • madmoizailemadmoizaile
    The same here, we didn't like so much the newborn stage.
    I love being with kids but I feel also great to come back home with just mine ;)
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  • eyenigheyenigh member
    I don't care for newborns at all and, other than my own, don't like to hold or handle them. I'll play with an older baby/toddler all day long (and never want another one) but ill pass on newborns!
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  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member
    Needing to get over having to do the newborn/infant/early toddler stage is a big reason why we may only have one.  And the whole nap/sleep and not wanting to nap/sleep thing.  
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  • missymomissymo member
    I'm late to this, but YEP. I should have known I was not great with tiny babies when I didn't even want to hold several friend's newborns while I was still pregnant!

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  • NicoleNielsen59NicoleNielsen59 member
    Yeah, the sleep/nap time thing is huge.
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