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FFF Specifically Pros and Cons of being a SAHM
This post is for encouragement and support for all of us SAHMs who need reminding of the good parts of SAHM and to not feel guilty about not enjoying everything that is a part of SAH.
I will start. I've been a SAHM now since August 2012, since DS1 was born and I am expecting DS2 in October. I enjoy being able to stay in my PJs all day, not gonna lie. Especially being SO pregnant and uncomfortable. I like having the option to nap when DS is napping, I could sleep all day and still be exhausted. I worked for 8 years prior to this and its nice to not have the stress of a job for a change. I love that I'm not missing any moments with DS. And the fact that I can do pretty much anything I want to do with my days! We can go to the store, visit family/friends, watch movies, cook/bake, clean, go grab a coffee and muffins. Okay, so all of that makes me sound TOTALLY spoiled. Here are the not so enjoyable parts..
Often feeling like I'm not contributing. Yes, I know I do A LOT taking care of a LO but when those bills are due I wish I could help. DH is looking at taking a second job so I feel guilty that I get SO much time with DS and DH is gone a lot. Along the same lines... most days I am the caretaker of DS from waking until bedtime again. It can be repetitive and sometimes I would like a break...or at least not have to change yet ANOTHER poopy diaper. I kno I probably have plenty to add but my arm is tiring from trying to hold DS off from the computer and it takes foreverrrr to type one handed! lol so I will leave the rest to you.
I will start. I've been a SAHM now since August 2012, since DS1 was born and I am expecting DS2 in October. I enjoy being able to stay in my PJs all day, not gonna lie. Especially being SO pregnant and uncomfortable. I like having the option to nap when DS is napping, I could sleep all day and still be exhausted. I worked for 8 years prior to this and its nice to not have the stress of a job for a change. I love that I'm not missing any moments with DS. And the fact that I can do pretty much anything I want to do with my days! We can go to the store, visit family/friends, watch movies, cook/bake, clean, go grab a coffee and muffins. Okay, so all of that makes me sound TOTALLY spoiled. Here are the not so enjoyable parts..
Often feeling like I'm not contributing. Yes, I know I do A LOT taking care of a LO but when those bills are due I wish I could help. DH is looking at taking a second job so I feel guilty that I get SO much time with DS and DH is gone a lot. Along the same lines... most days I am the caretaker of DS from waking until bedtime again. It can be repetitive and sometimes I would like a break...or at least not have to change yet ANOTHER poopy diaper. I kno I probably have plenty to add but my arm is tiring from trying to hold DS off from the computer and it takes foreverrrr to type one handed! lol so I will leave the rest to you.
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Re: FFF Specifically Pros and Cons of being a SAHM
I've been home for 2 years and have a 2.5 year old and a 2 month old. I love our crazy busy days. We do fun activities like story time and trips to the zoo. I enjoy getting to make my own schedule and spending time watching my littles grow.
I also miss working. I enjoyed my job. I don't get a lot of time away from the children and I don't have hobbies anymore. I spend a ton of time ckeaning.
The pro? I get to cook, clean, and play with my daughter all day! She's a little sponge and it's amazing to help her grow and learn new things.
Sorry if I contributed to the stabby, I'm a gushy first time mom still in the honeymoon phase of this staying home thing!
Cons: Being home with my daughter
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Yeah...not so much for me.
If your dh has the time to get a second job, you can be the one to work at those times instead of him...
Ditto this. Or you could work at a place like the y /gym daycare where you can bring your kid to work with you.
Yup. Why would you allow your dh be a stranger to your kid? I would give up cable, Internet, dinners out and any sort of luxury before I'd make my dh work a second job if I couldn't clear enough to justify daycare. Obviously if you have money to go out you can make changes to make this happen...
Yup. Why would you allow your dh be a stranger to your kid? I would give up cable, Internet, dinners out and any sort of luxury before I'd make my dh work a second job if I couldn't clear enough to justify daycare. Obviously if you have money to go out you can make changes to make this happen...
This exactly.
i cant believe this is for real.
Yup. Why would you allow your dh be a stranger to your kid? I would give up cable, Internet, dinners out and any sort of luxury before I'd make my dh work a second job if I couldn't clear enough to justify daycare. Obviously if you have money to go out you can make changes to make this happen...
I don't "let" my husband do things. I support his decisions. Also I am 37 weeks pregnant I came exactly go up to mc Donalds and start working. Again my income would pale in comparison to what he can make. He's wanted me to SAH with our kids from the time we first started dating 5 yrs ago. Its mutual and were both doing what we can to make that happen but if it isn't possible I will be looking for a job and trying to find reasonably priced, safe childcare
Yes, but pregnancy is a temporary situation. If things were so tight why were you out blowing money? Also there are TONS of job opportunities for moms to earn income without having to use childcare that hire for night and/or weekend work. I waitress two evenings a week when dh gets home from work. Outside of the restaurant business there's retail, call centers, grocery stores, hospitals, real estate offices, apartment complexes, etc etc. honestly, if my dh volunteered to work a second job, if be concerned about his relationship with his children.
but ok OP, really. If you were looking for someone to share experiences with, this isn't the board. The women here are hard working, strong, self respecting mothers and wives/so's. This board is a good place to encourage each other and give reassurance that people are in the same boat as you when you're having a hard day. We also fight/argue, but that's ok too.
the reason you got sassed is because you're bragging about staying in your PJs while your husband works his ass off outside the home. Its not fair for him and your children to miss out on quality time so you can stay home. They need him more than they need you to stay home.