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Thanks for the visit mom....NOT!

mishka29mishka29 member
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I always think it will be nice for my mom to come visit for a couple of days...then she gets here. She is the queen of 'you know what you should do' or 'I would do it this way if I were you'. We had a two hour outing to Ikea then she complains that I wouldn't stop anywhere else bc LO had to get home to nap. There also wasn't anywhere she actually wanted to go. And always with the, if shes tired then she will just fall asleep. Umm, no she wont, shell just start screaming. AND if I have to listen to her say that she used to vacuum under our cribs when we were sleeping one more time ill scream! When the naps are only 40 mins to begin with I'm not going to make it shorter with a vacuum. I feel like sometimes she think a moron and i don't know how to take care of my kid. When I try to explain why I do things a certain way that might be different from 30 yrs ago when she had babies, she says you probably read that on the Internet you should check with a doctor. A lot of this stuff is common sense I don't need a doctor for that. Getting into a debate with her is not worth it bc she never sees when shes wrong. No real point to this, just venting
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  • wifeofadamwifeofadam member
    My mom always says she vacuumed under our cribs while we were sleeping too.  I think sometimes mothers have selective amnesia and they only remember the glory days, not the stressful, horrible times. 

    I have a feeling there was one time when one of my sisters or I were really sick and zonked out, and my mother was able to vacuum under the crib.  She remembers it because she was so excited that she was actually able to get something done while we were sleeping, forgetting the 11,679 other days where she did nothing but hold napping children all day long.

    You've gotta love a mother.  I'm sure we'll do it with our children one day too!
        
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    +adamwife+ said:

    My mom always says she vacuumed under our cribs while we were sleeping too.  I think sometimes mothers have selective amnesia and they only remember the glory days, not the stressful, horrible times. 

    I have a feeling there was one time when one of my sisters or I were really sick and zonked out, and my mother was able to vacuum under the crib.  She remembers it because she was so excited that she was actually able to get something done while we were sleeping, forgetting the 11,679 other days where she did nothing but hold napping children all day long.

    You've gotta love a mother.  I'm sure we'll do it with our children one day too!

    I can confirm this. When I was pregnant, my mom swore up and down that I started sleeping through the night consistently around six weeks. Then after DD was born and she started reading through my baby book, she was like, "Oops, sorry, I lied. You STTN the first time at six weeks, but you went through a bunch of phased where you woke up in the middle of the night and wouldn't go back to sleep."

    I guess the advantage of having a mom who meticulously documented what seems like every detail of my first year of life is that her selective amnesia can be corrected and she doesn't hound me about stuff like that. ;)


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  • carriesu2003carriesu2003 member
    Yeah, the napping wherever thing is totally annoying.  Obviously the healthy habits book wasn't around when we were babies.  So I'm pretty sure most of us were crashing, hence allowing some vacuuming under the beds.  My favorite comment by MIL was "It's really easy juts give the baby a bottle and they sleep through the night." um seriously?
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  • DublinMamaDublinMama member
    My mother insists I had colic. But then every time I talked to her about Jackson needing a nap around 4 or 5 p.m. or he goes to bed at 6:30 some nights she used to suggest I "keep him up" so he'll sleep better at night. It has since occurred to me that I probably was never colic. Just ridiculously overtired for the first few months of my life where my wake time was low and my mother was "keeping me up" lol.
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    DublinMama said:
    My mother insists I had colic. But then every time I talked to her about Jackson needing a nap around 4 or 5 p.m. or he goes to bed at 6:30 some nights she used to suggest I "keep him up" so he'll sleep better at night. It has since occurred to me that I probably was never colic. Just ridiculously overtired for the first few months of my life where my wake time was low and my mother was "keeping me up" lol.
    This is my mom's suggestion too.  *facepalm
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  • tanj212tanj212 member
    my mom is always trying to force feed my son. I am sooo tired of her saying ''your breastmilk is not enough for him, he needs to eat more solids''. She started saying this when LO was 5 months old, and now I have to hear this at least 10 times a day (plus from dad and DH). A few days ago, my son became so irritated he won't open his mouth even for an empty spoon, that's when I fully took matters over my control (it's pretty hard as I'm living with my mom right now). But she still tries to feed him when I'm not present. And she totally doesn't (or maybe just doesn't want to) understand the importance of nap, so here I am, witnessing a lot of naps disrupted by the grandmother.
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  • Karla CSKarla CS member
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    I actually DO vacuum under my kid's bed. I don't do anything different when she's napping than when she's awake. Never have, and she's an excellent napper. If you train your kid to ONLY nap in ideal pristine conditions, that's the only conditions they'll ever nap in.

    And for the person commenting that obviously they didn't have the Healthy Habits book back in the days, the book is not a bible. And it hasn't been around that long. In the span of time, even books that have been around 30-40 years, are 'new.' If the prior parenting techniques were so awful and wrong, it's a wonder that the human race survived as long as it did. 
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  • mishka29mishka29 member
    Karla CS said:
    I actually DO vacuum under my kid's bed. I don't do anything different when she's napping than when she's awake. Never have, and she's an excellent napper. If you train your kid to ONLY nap in ideal pristine conditions, that's the only conditions they'll ever nap in.

    And for the person commenting that obviously they didn't have the Healthy Habits book back in the days, the book is not a bible. And it hasn't been around that long. In the span of time, even books that have been around 30-40 years, are 'new.' If the prior parenting techniques were so awful and wrong, it's a wonder that the human race survived as long as it did. 

    You are lucky to have such a great sleeper but not all of us are that fortunate. LO has been a crap sleeper from day 1 and while I dont try to create an ideal pristine environment for sleep, Im not going to vacuum under her crib while shes napping. Since she only take 3 30-45 min naps a day there is plenty of time to vacuum when shes not in it.
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  • Karla CSKarla CS member

    mishka29 said:
    You are lucky to have such a great sleeper but not all of us are that fortunate. LO has been a crap sleeper from day 1 and while I dont try to create an ideal pristine environment for sleep, Im not going to vacuum under her crib while shes napping. Since she only take 3 30-45 min naps a day there is plenty of time to vacuum when shes not in it.
    I don't know any one who had a baby that slept well from day 1. I don't think it's so much a literal interpretation of vacuum under the baby, but rather to continue to go about your daily activities. Babies adjust. 
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  • mishka29mishka29 member
    Karla CS said:

    mishka29 said:
    You are lucky to have such a great sleeper but not all of us are that fortunate. LO has been a crap sleeper from day 1 and while I dont try to create an ideal pristine environment for sleep, Im not going to vacuum under her crib while shes napping. Since she only take 3 30-45 min naps a day there is plenty of time to vacuum when shes not in it.
    I don't know any one who had a baby that slept well from day 1. I don't think it's so much a literal interpretation of vacuum under the baby, but rather to continue to go about your daily activities. Babies adjust. 

    No, we were litteraly talking about a vacuum cleaner here. And I realize that babies adjust however some do it much better than others. Im all for going about my business but bc my LO was, is and continues to be a poor sleeper I dont feel the need to make exessive noise during her short naps just because I can.
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  • wifeofadamwifeofadam member
    Not all babies adjust, just like not all adults adjust.  Some people need silence and pristine conditions (like my lap, apparently) to sleep in.  lol
        
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