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TJ1979 · September 2013

I should have waited. In a way, I'm glad I went and got the u/s and got a guess at a due date, and saw that there actually was something in there. But he measured the bean at 5 weeks even, not 5 and a few days like I guessed from my O date, and there was no fetal pole or anything, just a black sac. I promised myself that I knew what I was going in there for, and I wouldn't get upset about any of it. And I'm still thrilled that I got to see something in there and get a preliminary EDD (5/15!) But I was sort of hoping to see a little more, and when he reminded me that the miscarriage rate at this point is 25% (no, not that the success rate is 75%, but that the mc rate is 25%) it just brought back all that old fear. I was doing so much better when I could be blindly, blissfully, naive. I should have held onto that for another week.
So is 6 weeks 0 day too early for a hb? He wants to see me back in exactly one week, but now I'm hesitant. He said he really thought we'd see one.

kmc84 · September 2013

((Hugs)) it's so hard! It's possible at 6 weeks to see a hb, but that's pushing it. We saw a hb at 6w2d and the tech was a little surprised that we saw one. It sounds like most RE's wait until 7w because there should be a hb by then. I would try and wait a little more than a week for the next u/s. I wish you had gotten a little more reassurance. It sounds like the little bean probably implanted an the later side.

CallMeAl · September 2013

I'm sure everything is fine, TJ. It's fine for the bean to be a few days off in either direction, and the rest of it sounds normal to me for measuring 5 weeks.

I agree with KMC that 6 weeks is early to see a heartbeat. Maybe you could split the difference and schedule at like 6 weeks 3 days? Even then, if you didn't see one, it wouldn't be unusual.... I've seen ladies on TB not see one until 7 weeks and go on to have perfect pregnancies.

Big hugs! Try not to stress too much... easier said than done, I know!

IBackBevo · September 2013

I'm sorry you didn't see more, but really there is pretty much no way you should have seen more. Your betas are strong so that is good! I am sure everything will be fine.

I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks 0 days with number 1. At that time, they told me there was a 50/50 chance of seeing a heartbeat. We saw it, but it was low. It had likely just started in the prior day or two.

itsmevkb · September 2013

You know, seeing a fetal sac is a good thing! This early on the measurements are so small that saying he measured you at 5 weeks instead of say 5wk2d is such a small, small, small difference. I had an ultrasound in my 5th week with Sully and all we saw was the black circle and it was hard not seeing a fetal pole but you just have to hang in there. I can remember each week I'd go in for an ultrasound and I'd just stare up at the ceiling until the doc said there was a heartbeat. It was agonizing and then joyful and then the panic and worry would set in again. All you can do is hope and know that you're doing what you can (which is very little) to have a healthy baby. What will be will be and no matter what the outcome you'll get through it. I hate that I know that but I do and I believe it's true for both you and me.

Huge hugs and I'll be praying for a nice strong heartbeat at your next scan.

Robeano · September 2013

Hugs!! Sorry the u/s didn't turn out as expected. Don't give up hope!! You had good betas!

JBDamonM · September 2013

Don't be discouraged TJ. you have had solid, fantastically strong beta's. I am sure it's just a little early.

HUGS!

mcgeeva · September 2013

Hang in there!! Were they not able to check heart rate? I know I went at 5 wk 4 days and we couldn't hear the heart but they were able to see the heart rate at 170. They should definitely be able to see it next time. Happy thoughts!!

TJ1979 · September 2013

@mcgeeva No they couldn't check the heart rate, there was nothing inside the sac yet.

mcgeeva · September 2013

Well hang in there!! Let's think possitive. It still could just be way to early to see. You just hit 5 weeks so just let this week hopefully pass fast so you can get to your next apt!

pb_bride · September 2013

This stage of the waiting game is just awful! GL to whichever decision you make. I personally would wait until after 7 wks...

mdiblasi10 · September 2013

I don't know if this will make you feel better, but this was Grayson at 5 weeks. Not much at all! Just a gestational sac. Not much more at 6 weeks and we didn't see the heartbeat until my 7 week appointment. Try not to worry! Hugs!

amd1982 · September 2013

hey TJ - at our u/s at 6w 2d we saw the heartbeats but our RE was pretty surprised. She had already warned us we may not see a whole hell of a lot. I agree w/ PPs - I think you're still early on so I am thinking positive thoughts for you! Don't get too down yet...I know it's hard. But very happy you got to see the sac..I still think that's a step in the right direction.

RoseHQ12 · September 2013

I think you will have much better measurements etc. next u/s TJ. I had heartbeats at 6w1d with my last pregnancy & 6wk2d this time. I hope they pick up a heart tone at the next appointment & if you can maybe delay it a day or two so you get past 6 weeks.

Saraevh · September 2013

I saw a heartbeat with my daughter at exactly 6w0d, 6w2d with my son and 6w3d with this baby but if you want to not even risk it, wait a couple of extra days when you know there will for sure be something there. Make the appointment for Monday when you'll be like 6w4d instead of exactly 6 weeks. I'm confident it's just too early. I had a scan at 5w3d this time and they just saw the sac with the start of the fetal pole. Very nerve wracking, but at least you know there is something cooking where it needs to be

amandaleigh1 · September 2013

Hang in there. Sounds like things are on track. My RE would not do any ultrasound before 7 weeks to ensure that when the first one happens that there is a heartbeat. Then there was another one about 2 weeks later, then release to OB. I think weekly early ultrasounds would have driven me crazy. Though I did spend a small fortune in pee sticks while I was waiting for that hearbeat ultrasound.

TJ1979 · September 2013

mdiblasi10 said:

I don't know if this will make you feel better, but this was Grayson at 5 weeks. Not much at all! Just a gestational sac. Not much more at 6 weeks and we didn't see the heartbeat until my 7 week appointment. Try not to worry! Hugs!

Thanks @mdiblasi10, that helps!

Dragonfly1226 · September 2013

I know it is scary, but you saw what you are supposed to have seen. I did see a HB at 6 weeks with DS and with K&A but all three times it was super slow like it had just started beating. In fact, the RE said iwe probably wouldn't have seen HBs on K&A if the scan had been just a few hours earlier. I think 6 weeks is okay but I would keep it in perspective. You are pregnant!

pinkmickey24 · September 2013

Hang in there! It is possible to see a heartbeat at six weeks, but I think that is the earliest it can be seen. I had my first u/s at 6 weeks 4 days with C and D and we saw their heartbeats then.

ELF4321 · September 2013

Ugh, sorry TJ. I agree with the others that 6w0d would be really lucky to see the HB.I would definitely put it off until 3-4 days after that.

imoverit · September 2013

I would suggest to go back at 6 weeks 3 days. You will definitely see a heartbeat by then. Hope the week goes by fast until your next ultrasound. Hang in there mama. Your betas were great and you saw what you should see a 5 weeks just keep thinking of that. I know its easier said than done.

Mrs.AmyDylan · September 2013

We saw J's hb at 6w0d, but we knew with 100% certainty of her date. Honestly, I would just call and switch the appointment for two weeks 7w0d). If he says something say you had a big thing at work and couldn't leave. If you can't see the hb at 6w, you will be super worried. At 7w, you should see the hb. Hugs!

Cwhitaker27 · September 2013

Hang in there TJ! It's still early and everything at this point is going as expected. I agree with waiting until 7 weeks to do another US. Either way, today you are pregnant.

kbeach82 · September 2013

My RE always had me wait until at least 6w3d to have my first u/s because that is the earliest she expected to be able to pick up a heartbeat. Hang in there, TJ! I know this part is hard.

TJ1979 · September 2013

Thank you all for your thoughts and your support. I'm feeling better already, I think just being at the RE's office again brought back all that fear and doubt. Plus MH keeps telling people, and I started buying newborn diapers, and I keep thinking I'm jinxing myself. Haha. Stupid IF. But really, thanks for all the support. I don't know what I'd do without you ladies.

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