So BM got mad at DH for telling SS he had to do his homework, after BM told SS he didn't have to do it. SS told DH (in a snotty attitude) that his mom said DH wasn't the boss of him. SS is obviously repeating what he was told, but he is also 10. How do you teach (or attempt to teach) a child he has ro be respectful when the other parent undermines it purposely? We are torn because he is obviously a young kid still, but we don't want him to think he can be disrespectful to DH just because his mom is always nasty. Any sort of repercussions wouldn't be until a week and a half away since we only get him EOWE. We don't want SS to get away with being disrespectful but we also know it wouldn't be timely. I'm not sure if we will do anything but you ladies always have good ideas so I thought I would ask. Thanks!
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Re: How would you handle this?
DH was there with him when he was told to do homework? How did BM find out and get mad? SS told her after the fact? I'm just wondering how BM found out while/when SS was supposed to be doing homework.
We actually have a similar problem with K. BM doesn't allow her to bring her homework over to our house during the week because God forbid me or DH help her with it. Now DH just emails the teacher every Tuesday and pops in the classroom every Friday morning (we have K Tues and Thurs nights each week) and lets the teacher know that K did not have her homework and that's why it's not completed. Arguing with BM does no good, so DH and I (at the recommendation of the therapist) have started putting the responsibility on K. It sucks at the age of 7 that we have to expect her to either stand up to BM or bring extra homework to our house when I pick her up from school, but at some point K needs to figure out what is best for her, not what makes BM happiest.
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