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What are the odds my email went to SPAM re: mediation

bebe11bebe11 member
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Last week I replied to an email that my Ex had sent me, in that email I detailed out the date, time, address and phone number that my Ex needed to call to confirm our mediation appointment.  The appointment needed to be confirmed YESTERDAY.  I get an email at 5:15 a.m. today from my ex. This is what his email said. " This went into my spam and I didn’t see it until this morning so obviously I didn’t confirm nor can I attend at that time. I can’t attend anything until Oct 18th"<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

He had been emailing me all day, on the day I sent him this email.   I find it odd that my email went to spam.  My email came from my work email, which I tend to you for 80% of the emails I send, and he gets all the other emails, but not this one? 

The relationship (if that is what you want to call it) went from just ok, to really really bad, so because of that I feel this is part of his controling game.  So now do I just file the OSC paperwork and have him deal with the court, or accomodate him and have him pull this stunt again?  I am leaning towards just filing the paperwork and going from there, I am at the point where I don't think he is even worthy of am email from me.  He is such a prick and I don't post everything that goes one, but he is right around the same level as douche as Wendi's ex.

 

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Re: What are the odds my email went to SPAM re: mediation

  • SueBearSueBear member

    Does accomodating him help you at all?  Save you money?  If yes, then wait for the 18th.  However, if you gain nothing by mediating then I would just file the paperwork.

    Are you the only person who had access to the mediation information?  Could he have accessed it on his own?  You are not his secretary. 

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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    Call the mediation office and see if he's bothered to contact them and I say you still show up at the scheduled day and time.  Then when he doesn't show up, file the paperwork.  Filing the OSC paperwork will get you a mediation date regardless of his games, and then there will be a Court date set to get things handled in case an agreement isn't met in mediation.  You can take the OSC off calendar at any time.  But filing the paperwork will force you and BD to go to mediation and face a Judge just in case.

    And I side-eye his claims that it went to spam and that he actually found it.  I don't believe I have EVER checked my spam folder.  Ever.  Maybe I'm the minority though.
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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    SueBear said:

    Does accomodating him help you at all?  Save you money?  If yes, then wait for the 18th.  However, if you gain nothing by mediating then I would just file the paperwork.

    Are you the only person who had access to the mediation information?  Could he have accessed it on his own?  You are not his secretary. 

    Accomodating him doesn't help me, I am sure it is just one of his controling games.  He leaves work early all the time to go and coach his gf's dd's soccer practice and I know that his work is very flexible and the excuse he can't go until 10/18 is bs.  I gave him all the mediation information in my email.  I gave it to him the same day that I received it. All he had to do was call the phone number that I provided him and confirm the appointment by 9/10 (appt. is on 9/17).

     

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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    Call the mediation office and see if he's bothered to contact them and I say you still show up at the scheduled day and time.  Then when he doesn't show up, file the paperwork.  Filing the OSC paperwork will get you a mediation date regardless of his games, and then there will be a Court date set to get things handled in case an agreement isn't met in mediation.  You can take the OSC off calendar at any time.  But filing the paperwork will force you and BD to go to mediation and face a Judge just in case.

    And I side-eye his claims that it went to spam and that he actually found it.  I don't believe I have EVER checked my spam folder.  Ever.  Maybe I'm the minority though.
     
    I am going to get the forms ready and planning to get them filed.  I am done accomodating his schedule.
     

     

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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    @jobalchak our IT guy at my office said the odds are very slim that the email went into his spam folder. 

     

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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    bebe11 said:
    @jobalchak our IT guy at my office said the odds are very slim that the email went into his spam folder. 

    See?! What a lying jerkface.
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  • 10-4LilBuddy10-4LilBuddy member
    Our BM uses this as an excuse all.the.time. I sent her an email once with a read receipt, got the receipt, and still got that lame excuse.
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  • SueBearSueBear member
    Also, your stbx did not ask you a question.  There is no reason to return an email.  Detach....detach....
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  • KTdiditKTdidit member
    Sounds like something BD would do. So very unlikely that he got ALL your other emials except the important one. File the papers. Let him deal with it.
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  • nattyncbridenattyncbride member
    Just to answer the Q: chances are very low it went into 'spam' if you replied to an email he sent you.  The chances are higher relatively (but still low) if you started a brand new email.  But if a system knows you are responding to an email that the originator sent you, it will not consider it spam.
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