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How to deal with this neighbour?

LilywildcatLilywildcat member
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We have next door neighbours who are annoying me. They are up at crazy hours, and make noise, waking neighbours up. They are constantly asking to borrow things (weed trimmer, lawn mower, ladders, car jack etc and even ask to 'borrow food' and don't offer to replace it) and hold on to stuff for ages. I have started to say no when they ask to borrow stuff because i don't think it's fair, plus I shouldn't have to supply them so they don't have to buy things of their own. They planted trees in their front yard about a month ago and cut my buried cable lines causing me to be without cable/ phone/Internet for a week. They say they didnt do it even though the technician said it was obvious, the lines are under their plants. They are the type that think they never do anything wrong and every one else is the problem. They had extra hardwood from their Renovations and the hubby burned it in the fireplace! the whole street was filled with smoke that stunk so bad! Last summer they drained their hot tub water into their backyard, flooding my yard in the process. There is a section of fence that was in good shape that has fallen over onto our side because their Rottweiler jump up the fence to catch squirrels.

My hubby picks up scrap metal for extra cash and the neighbours are always asking for things off his trailer which most of the time he gives it to them. I have told him to tell them NO because he constantly gives them stuff which takes away from his revenue. They had the gall to give my hubby a list of things they wanted him to pick up ! Things like patio stones, floor tiles, extra bricks, kitchenwares for the wife's friend at the women's shelter, a bike for the mom and daughter, etc. he laughed and said nope, he just picked up scrap metals.

Today I was so freaken mad. The wife asked to borrow our ladder because the roofer they had over didn't have one (wtf). My hubby tells her it's not on the fence where it is supposed to be. Then he sees that her hubby has it. He just reached over our fence and grabbed it and didn't even wait for an answer.

How I do I deal with them? how can i say NO tactfully when they ask to borrow stuff, especially things they know we have? Although they are annoying, I don't want problems with them.
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  • MrsCodeMonkeyMrsCodeMonkey member
    Gently give them the cold shoulder and hopefully they'll get it. You don't want a big confrontation or more tension. Good luck!
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  • melissashoganmelissashogan member
    Thats tough I do not have the patience for neighbors who are rude and would probably just tell them no and not to ask again. Rather have an angry neighbor who ignors you than one who won't leave you alone. Our new neighbors have been bringing their dog in our yard to go to the bathroom and leaving the mess there a big problem for us since our yard is clean. My husband is planning on scooping it onto their porch we are not super polite when it comes to people disrespecting us like that. Aweful I know but effective.

     

     

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    melissashogan said:

    Thats tough I do not have the patience for neighbors who are rude and would probably just tell them no and not to ask again. Rather have an angry neighbor who ignors you than one who won't leave you alone. Our new neighbors have been bringing their dog in our yard to go to the bathroom and leaving the mess there a big problem for us since our yard is clean. My husband is planning on scooping it onto their porch we are not super polite when it comes to people disrespecting us like that. Aweful I know but effective.

    Lol. We had considered doing that before. Our dog goes in the back yard and we enjoy keeping the front yard nice. A neighbor's dogs used to go in our front yard. I never had the guts to redeposit the poop by their door. I wanted to, though.
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  • jorkz821jorkz821 member
    Can you just say the next time they ask, "to be honest, neighbour, we'd rather not lend you things anymore because..." and list the stuff you put here. Might be uncomfortable at the time but at least they might stop bugging you.
    As for the noise, call the cops or bylaw enforcement.
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  • wiggyslilsiswiggyslilsis member
    I think the noise is the only thing you can legally do anything about and I would call the cops. Maybe look up the noise ordinance in your area and call if they break it. Other than that I think you are just going to have tosay no. You could use the lliability excuse or tell them the real reason. Honestly I don't see any reason to continue having a civil relationship with them.
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