chickening out

ilysarahd · September 2013

I planned to start sleep training tonight but I've chickened out! I know she's ready, I know she needs it. but I can't do it(not tonight). DD used to STTN but now she wakes up 1-2 times. My goal is also to get her to fall asleep on her own. I'm gonna need to suck it up and do it soon though.

Drea926 · September 2013

I really didn't want to sleep train and I finally caved last month and did it. It was a rough few days but it made a huge difference so IMO, it was worth it in the long run! Good luck Mama!

ilysarahd · September 2013

thank you!

musicalmama5 · September 2013

I totally chickened out when we had "decided" to sleep train a couple weeks ago. Still haven't done it. Don't have any plans to.

holly321 · September 2013

I considered it, but DS passes out during his bottle every night, so...fate says I shouldn't.

theimpossibleastronaut · September 2013

We did it. It was hard but led to good results for us. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

nikkisun54 · September 2013

As all the PPs say, it can be hard in the beginning, but the results are worth it. Allow yourself a few more nights to cuddle as much as you'd like, and then pick an amount of time to commit to. I told my DH that if after four nights we weren't seeing an improvement, we weren't going to continue - this is what Ferber recommends to do anyways, so I felt confident in that gameplan. Each night got subsequently better and everyone in the house is so much happier! But beware - the one thing I have experienced is that teething can set you back a bit. But as with anything else, you'll never know unless you try. Good luck!

mcmullena · September 2013

This is me! I need to do it but scared. What type is sleep training did you all use?

CocoR04 · September 2013

Good luck! We followed the Ferber method for a good five nights and it didn't work. We will try again in another month or so.

wifeofadam · September 2013

Every day I talk to DH and say - I am going to do it tonight. She is going to start the night in her crib. Period.

Then the house gets quiet and all the other kids are asleep. I nurse DD2 and realize I haven't really had a chance to snuggle her uninterrupted all day, so I end up just letting her sleep in my lap until I go to bed. I'm such a sucker.

Every once in a while there will be an evening where I want to do something fun with DH and the baby in my lap sort of puts a damper on things. I think about heading back to the crib and just putting her in there to fuss for a while, but I can't do it. My heart breaks thinking about it.

amparker1984 · September 2013

So what do u do when the go down fairly well but wake up 2x a night. Do I let him go for a while? How much time?

It's a lot easier the first time he goes down.

DublinMama · September 2013

We had the four month wakeful turn into three months of bad sleep. It became a wonder week, then teething, then milestones...to the point where I think DS just got into the habit of waking up. And then it was waking up and staying up. Then it was waking up and staying up multiple times. So one night we decided to do it, and it so sucked. DS stopped crying, but never went back to bed and he would alternate between quiet and fussing for two hours. So I fed him and felt like a craptastic person for keeping him up for essentially nothing. But then the next night....he slept through the night. I have no idea what about that awful night helped, but something clicked. He still has one bad night a week where he gets up around 3 and will fuss around for 45 min. to an hour and I have to go in and settle him back down. But most nights, he goes 11 hours. It's glorious.

But I would say I was on the luckier side of sleep training in that it seemed to work very fast. It can be a process, and if it's one that you're just not ready for, then that's that. Don't beat yourself up about it one way or the other. If you do it, it's going to be ok. If you don't, it still will be.

ilovecade · September 2013

amparker1984 said:
So what do u do when the go down fairly well but wake up 2x a night. Do I let him go for a while? How much time?

It's a lot easier the first time he goes down.

I would love to know this. We did Ferber and my DD goes down in the middle of the night but wakes up and won't put herself back to sleep!

theimpossibleastronaut · September 2013

So what do u do when the go down fairly well but wake up 2x a night. Do I let him go for a while? How much time? It's a lot easier the first time he goes down.
I would love to know this. We did Ferber and my DD goes down in the middle of the night but wakes up and won't put herself back to sleep!

Are conditions in the room the same when LO goes to sleep as when LO would wake up in the middle of the night? I read Jodi Mindell's book, and she said that it was key for things to be consistent. For instance, if LO goes to sleep with music and then the music stops after 20 minutes, LO will have a sleep association with the music and need it to put him or herself back to sleep. It's just a thought, but maybe there's a sleep association there?

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