The things people say... Vent!

Alicia1111 · September 2013

I am so tired of the comments people keep making about my LO!!! I am very pale with blonde hair, my husband is not as pale (but close) and has light brown hair. My 2 year old is a mini me! Her hair is white blonde and she's very pale.... My LO has black hair (so did my oldest when she was born) and because of jaundice she has a yellow skin tone. I am so sick of the "mail man jokes". My husband and I laugh them off but it's getting old! My mail person is a female!!! Any comments your getting tired of?

cinderin · September 2013

My DH is part Japanese, I am blonde/blue/burn-in-the-shade-pale. LO doesn't look a lot like me (which I expected).

Whenever someone says something about how he looks like DH, I say "I am hoping he will *act* like me!" and smile.

I think you just have to have a sense of humor about these things.

The other day, I was out with LO and got to thinking - I wonder if anyone will think I adopted him because children adopted from China are pretty common around here. It doesn't really matter what strangers think, LO will know who his parents are :-)

laabeja · September 2013

DS has blonde hair and blue eyes while DH and I both have dark hair and eyes. We *always* get comments. I've tried the humor thing and I've tried to explain how genetics work when I get tired of rolling with the punches. My usual response is, "if he didn't look just like DH otherwise it would have me wondering, too."

CBiggs85 · September 2013

"Is she sleeping through the night?"

She is a month old...seriously?!

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

Hes so dark are you sure hes not c he looks hispanic like c.

Thanks for calling me a whore but xh and i were seperated for a month and hadnt had sex in three when i got pregnant.

This is the other one i hate with a firey passion. You must be sad he looks like bio dad and not you.

Why should i be sad about that? Hes got my big greyblue eyes and hes a strong healthy little man whose growing like a weed.

BlondieBia21 · September 2013

Directed at me-- "She's really pretty, are you sure she's yours?"
Or
"Her hair has a reddish tint, what's the mailman look like?"

danadane75 · September 2013

I got "oh she must be new she has that rash on her face"...then "your eyes are all red you must be tired"..thanks lady arent you full of compliments!

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

danadane75 said:
I got "oh she must be new she has that rash on her face"...then "your eyes are all red you must be tired"..thanks lady arent you full of compliments!

God people are an observant bunch arent they. Earlier my sisters mil was holding my ds was he was crying hysterically for the bottle i was making him and she kept cooing at him about how the poor baby isnt getting enough to eat. Bil responds. Trust me he gets pleanty he eats four to six ounces every two or three hours.

LiylaRae · September 2013

I hate how SO's I guess stepdad?, is always like ooooo that's just like her grandma, she is going to act just like her grandma...blah blah blah.

Thanks but my child is just like herself, she has her own personality, and quite frankly it is nothing like mil.

Or I hate when people comment, "oh she has a pacifier, I never gave my kids one because they came into this world without it so why would they need it." It's like thanks for the comment but LO loves her pacifier and I'd rather not be a human pacifier myself, but good for you. Oh yeah and babies come into this world without alot of things, does that mean we shouldn't dress our children? I don't think so.

Vent over!

kmichln · September 2013

My MIL saying DS2 is fat... are you kidding me. He is only 8 lbs. My baby is not fat.

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

kmichln said:
My MIL saying DS2 is fat... are you kidding me. He is only 8 lbs. My baby is not fat.

Isnt 8 on the high side of average?

kmichln · September 2013

LAMuehlen said:

My MIL saying DS2 is fat... are you kidding me. He is only 8 lbs. My baby is not fat.
Isnt 8 on the high side of average?

He is almost 3 weeks old. I don't think so. I think it is around the middle of the percentiles. He was 7 lbs 11 oz when he was born and is now only at around 8lbs 5 oz

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

kmichln said:

LAMuehlen said:

kmichln said:
My MIL saying DS2 is fat... are you kidding me. He is only 8 lbs. My baby is not fat.
Isnt 8 on the high side of average?

He is almost 3 weeks old. I don't think so. I think it is around the middle of the percentiles. He was 7 lbs 11 oz when he was born and is now only at around 8lbs 5 oz

I wouldnt call an 8 pound baby fat ever. But i also think chunky babies are adorable. Im excited mine is getting his chunk on lol

kmichln · September 2013

LAMuehlen said:
I wouldnt call an 8 pound baby fat ever. But i also think chunky babies are adorable. Im excited mine is getting his chunk on lol

Lol I think it is cute too. I think she is calling him fat because his face is fuller than when he was born. At least you know he is eating well. My MIL is just kind of a douche. She finally came to see LO and that is pretty much all she had to say. I said he isn't fat. She said oh really you don't think so? Well I think he is getting fat. -_-

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

kmichln said:

LAMuehlen said:

I wouldnt call an 8 pound baby fat ever. But i also think chunky babies are adorable. Im excited mine is getting his chunk on lol

Lol I think it is cute too. I think she is calling him fat because his face is fuller than when he was born. At least you know he is eating well. My MIL is just kind of a douche. She finally came to see LO and that is pretty much all she had to say. I said he isn't fat. She said oh really you don't think so? Well I think he is getting fat. -_-

What an ass hat!

coraggiosa · September 2013

LiylaRae said:

I hate how SO's I guess stepdad?, is always like ooooo that's just like her grandma, she is going to act just like her grandma...blah blah blah. Thanks but my child is just like herself, she has her own personality, and quite frankly it is nothing like mil. Or I hate when people comment, "oh she has a pacifier, I never gave my kids one because they came into this world without it so why would they need it." It's like thanks for the comment but LO loves her pacifier and I'd rather not be a human pacifier myself, but good for you. Oh yeah and babies come into this world without alot of things, does that mean we shouldn't dress our children? I don't think so. Vent over!

What the hell kind of reasoning is that? SMH.

LiylaRae · September 2013

coraggiosa said:

LiylaRae said:

I hate how SO's I guess stepdad?, is always like ooooo that's just like her grandma, she is going to act just like her grandma...blah blah blah.

Thanks but my child is just like herself, she has her own personality, and quite frankly it is nothing like mil.

Or I hate when people comment, "oh she has a pacifier, I never gave my kids one because they came into this world without it so why would they need it." It's like thanks for the comment but LO loves her pacifier and I'd rather not be a human pacifier myself, but good for you. Oh yeah and babies come into this world without alot of things, does that mean we shouldn't dress our children? I don't think so.

Vent over!

What the hell kind of reasoning is that? SMH.

That's what I'm saying! The things people say are ridiculous! I thought pregnancy comments were bad, but parenting comments are by far the worst!

rooftop · September 2013

DD looks a lot like me but there's some of DH too. I feel bad when people says she looks nothing like him. He'll never admit it but I can see it hurts him when he hears that.

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

I agree parenting comments are worse. Yes i let my ds cosleep after 7. Yes he has a passy, yes he is formula fed. You can accept my choices as a parent or we can talk about what you do wrong since you think your so perfect.

That goes out to the childs right activist i know. She is so offended i am open to spanking, but im offended she smokes around her daughter.

vintageutopia · September 2013

My two older kids don't even look like siblings, but they are. Their looks make "sense" when you see DH and I with them. We have received comments too...no big deal. It isn't worth the stress.

lydsyjane · September 2013

My least favorite thing is when LO is screaming in public and people are like "oh I love that sound!" I'm like ugh.

cinderin · September 2013

LAMuehlen said:
I agree parenting comments are worse. Yes i let my ds cosleep after 7. Yes he has a passy, yes he is formula fed. You can accept my choices as a parent or we can talk about what you do wrong since you think your so perfect.

That goes out to the childs right activist i know. She is so offended i am open to spanking, but im offended she smokes around her daughter.

Tell me you let your 7 year old sleep in bed with you, he still uses a pacifier and you give him formula, because that is hilarious!

LBib · September 2013

At 11:00 pm as DH pulls up the covers, rolls over, and looks at me sitting in bed nursing 10 day old DS2: "sleep well"

Yea no.

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

cinderin said:

LAMuehlen said:
I agree parenting comments are worse. Yes i let my ds cosleep after 7. Yes he has a passy, yes he is formula fed. You can accept my choices as a parent or we can talk about what you do wrong since you think your so perfect.

That goes out to the childs right activist i know. She is so offended i am open to spanking, but im offended she smokes around her daughter.
Tell me you let your 7 year old sleep in bed with you, he still uses a pacifier and you give him formula, because that is hilarious!

Omg7 seven was supposed to be seven in the morning. Thats embaressing. Ds is only six weeks old

lydsyjane · September 2013

AndreaVilla said:

lydsyjane said:
My least favorite thing is when LO is screaming in public and people are like "oh I love that sound!" I'm like ugh.
Somebody actually said that??!!

Many people have said this! They miss the sound of a crying newborn, apparently. That's definitely not something I would miss.

wifeyvana · September 2013

CBiggs85 said:
"Is she sleeping through the night?"

She is a month old...seriously?!

Yes! This one drives me crazy too! Or "sleep while the baby sleeps". I have a 3 year old, I can't just sleep when the baby sleeps.

azzy1206 · September 2013

Same here my LO has bright red hair and is white as can be! Nothing like my husband at all except she has his nose, the comments are getting old!

beachyma · September 2013

My same ass hat neighbor who told me he was tired first thing when he came over when DS was 5 days old also immediately chimed in when other neighbor asked one of us to take in her trash can while she was on vacation how he couldn't do it because he was getting teeth pulled and would be "dead to the world". Ok guy...I just pushed a baby out of my vagina and haven't slept in months, but I know getting your teeth pulled must be rough. Lazy sot.

MinnesotaMomma91 · September 2013

beachyma said:
My same ass hat neighbor who told me he was tired first thing when he came over when DS was 5 days old also immediately chimed in when other neighbor asked one of us to take in her trash can while she was on vacation how he couldn't do it because he was getting teeth pulled and would be "dead to the world". Ok guy...I just pushed a baby out of my vagina and haven't slept in months, but I know getting your teeth pulled must be rough. Lazy sot.

I went dead to the world after my epi. And again when the nurses took ds for his after birth tests. I was gone.

Ive had teeth pulled twice and oral surgery twice. I couldve moved a trash can on the first day inbetween trips to vicodin land.

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