NBR - Need help with wedding invite wording

sentzel11 · January 2009

I am making wedding invitations for a friend and need some wording help. The place that they are having their reception @ allows alcohol, but they cannot sell it or have kegs. They are inviting a ton of people (250 invitations to me mailed) so buying bottles/cans of beer for everyone is not an option. Not to mention that a lot of the people there will be drinking very heavily. So my question is...what is the least tacky way to say BYOB? It will be on a card separate from the invite. I KNOW that it breaches all etiquette rules but it really is necessary.

Please no flames or ways to serve alcohol to people, just wording suggestions! TIA!

ncsubride · January 2009

I don't know if there is way to say it w/out coming off as tacky. Good luck though that is a challenge.

Kerri

LucyGoosey81 · January 2009

There is no non-tacky way. If she can't afford to supply alcohol it should be an alcohol-free wedding.

sentzel11 · January 2009

I should also add that these invites are not going to the type of people that would think this is tacky, we live in Kansas for Gods sake! Besides, I think people would rather BYOB anyways because of how expensive beer usually is at a cash bar (I know, tacky too. But that's pretty standard here.)

So it really comes down the the fanciest way of wording BYOB.

sentzel11 · January 2009

LucyGoosey81:
There is no non-tacky way. If she can't afford to supply alcohol it should be an alcohol-free wedding.

Please read my OP again. I am NOT asking you to tell me that the wedding should be alcohol free. I just need wording for BYOB!

I ALREADY KNOW THAT ITS TACKY!

Please just help me out with some wording ladies! Crying

Mrs.Beans · January 2009

Yeah, that's a sucky situation. It is kind of a tacky thing, but as a guest I'd still much rather bring my own than go dry ... could you put it off on the facility not allowing kegs, like "due to site restrictions we will not be able to provide alcohol but please feel free to bring your own" or something? That's really tough. GL!

Mrs.Beans · January 2009

Also wanted to throw out there ... MH apparently attended a super dry and stuffy family Catholic wedding back in Ohio (before I met him) and one of his uncles threw a ton of liquor, mixers, ice, etc into the trunk of his car and they all tailgated out in the parking lot of the church. Klassy fun!!!

Cytina · January 2009

Mrs.Beans:
Yeah, that's a sucky situation. It is kind of a tacky thing, but as a guest I'd still much rather bring my own than go dry ... could you put it off on the facility not allowing kegs, like "due to site restrictions we will not be able to provide alcohol but please feel free to bring your own" or something? That's really tough. GL!

I like this idea - perhaps "Due to location rules alcohol will not be served, however please feel free to bring your favorite adult beverage."

Erin Mary Ackerman · January 2009

DO NOT put that in an invitation. That is a word of mouth situation. Absolutely not on the invitation.

If you want to be a good friend, have the RSVP's come to you via email or cell phone, and you can drop the BYOB in the conversation when people respond.

And I know plenty of people from Kansas who would be mortified at the idea of a host not properly providing for his or her guests....

baby4dee · January 2009

BrahimBride:

DO NOT put that in an invitation. That is a word of mouth situation. Absolutely not on the invitation.

If you want to be a good friend, have the RSVP's come to you via email or cell phone, and you can drop the BYOB in the conversation when people respond.

And I know plenty of people from Kansas who would be mortified at the idea of a host not properly providing for his or her guests....

Ditto. Not trying to give "advice" (and certainly not flaming) but this is really a situation where it has to be done by word of mouth. If they are as loosey gossey as you say than just put BYOB on the invite.

klink11 · January 2009

I understand what everyone is saying. Please do not word it on the actual invite.

But what about an insert? King of like how people insert directions or registries? Like a die cut of a martini glass or wine glass? Make it fun. I think we can all agree "IT''S TACKY" obviously the bride knows this but is willing to forgo in order for everyone to drink & be merry. I would rather bring my own bottle of good wine that drink a bad glass of chardonnay anyway! Let me think I am sure I can come up with a cute way to phrase the insert if you want me to!

coolburnswedding2014 · September 2013

I know this was posted a long time ago however; for all the brides-to-be out there that come cross this in a search I have some advice:

I too am planning a wedding for June 2014 and will be having an out door reception for 200+ people. My fiance and I have large families and many many friends, Cutting the guest list was NOT an option. We are having the ceremony at a small church and the reception will be a Backyard BBQ style. On our invitations I am saying "Light Beverages will be providing with dinner. If you desire anything specific please feel free to bring it along." We have already set up that it is an informal affair so I hope it doesn't come as a shock to anyone.

Hope this helps!

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