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Completely overwhelmed

Flamingo86Flamingo86 member
edited September 2013 in Adoption
I spent the afternoon researching agencies online and am feeling very overwhelmed. It seems like every time I get a good "vibe" about an agency I find at least one scathing review of it later.

I am signing up to receive info packets and am hoping to sign up for few more info meetings, but I am sooo overwhelmed.

How to you keep from being so overwhelmed at this point in the process?

Edited for typo.

Started TTC July 2012. Missed m/c & d&c 9/12 11w. Natural m/c 1/13 6w. Chemical pgs 3/13 & 8/13 around 4w. Currently TTA while saving for adoption.

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller
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Re: Completely overwhelmed

  • maryoosamaryoosa member
    There is always going to be one scathing review someplace. I say if the majority of reviews are solid, then go with them.
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    We had long conversations with the 2 agencies we were most interested in. That went a long way in determining who we went with.

    Also take reviews with a grain of salt, but don't be afraid to ask questions about them. Our agency was dropping out of doing international adoptions, and that created a bottleneck and some confusion as they transitioned. That's when the reviews were more mixed. We asked specific questions about our biggest concerns based on reviews, and liked what we heard from our agency.

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  • aligrossaligross member
    As my husband always says... you'll see more negative reviews online than positive becuase when you're mad and upset what do you want to do? Tell people about it... when it's a positive situation you don't find yourself going to the BBB and writing a great review for a company! Just remember that! And also, a lot of people are willing to write a heck of a lot of "filler" adjectives when they can't be seen through a computer screen! 

    On the other hand, we went with our gut. We talked to the director at 2 agencies and I knew instantly which one was meant to be our agency. We are so happy that we went with our gut versus what a negative review online told us. 
    Began the Adoption process 4/2013
    Home study Approved 12/2013
    .... and the wait begins! 

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  • sgb721sgb721 member
    Our agency provided referrals to couples/BM's they had previously worked with as well that we could ask questions to about the process.
    TTC since June 2010
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