My kids don't like me (whine)

pinkangelmoon · September 2013

Can I whine for a bit? Mostly I'm hoping I'm not alone!

So my parents (mostly my mom) watch the twins during the week while DH and I work. Liam has always been my dad's biggest fan . Lately however, it seems like both babies prefer anybody else but me. When I get home to my parents house, I may get a smile or two. Sometimes a hug or kiss if I'm lucky and only if I ask. If either of them hurt themselves or start to whine they want my mom (even though I'm there). When I come home with the babies after work they both want DH. They rush to the door to greet him. On Fridays I work from home, and they ask for daddy a lot. My mom has never said they asked for me. This morning I dropped them off with my mom and Liam just said "bye!". Never have they cried when I left.

At first I tried not to let it bother me. I love that they love their grandparents and daddy so much but I hate that they seem to not care about me. Just for once I'd like to be the one they run to for comfort. But if either my mom or DH are around they run to them. They only want me to sit next to them when I have food.

Will they hate me forever?? Any ideas? I know DH likes to play roughly with them and they love it but I'm really not like that. I do interact with them but I also allow them independent playtime as long as they are content. Also DH has been gone more often lately since he's taking some classes on the weekends. So maybe they just miss him?

Should I just count my lucky stars that I can pee in peace?

nesenotes · September 2013

Yes be glad you can pee in peace lol.

I dont have any advice I'm just going to say I'm sure they dont hate you. Emery will scream and cry when my sister leaves but if I leave she's all "Byyyyeee" rude. And the minute daddy is home she only wants him. She will cling to me for dear life if I try to hand her to someone she isnt familiar with though.

lewispm · September 2013

K is like this sometimes as well. He LOVES his Mimi and especially his Grandaddy. When I go pick him up I am lucky to even get acknowledged. He also gets really clingy to his daddy whenever he is home since he doesn't see him that often (especially in the past, but will see him much more now that he is done with law school/the Bar) Like he literally cries and clings to him when I try to take him. So basically I get the shaft He is always happy to see me when I get him from daycare though, so I have that! He has only been going for 2 weeks and I pray the excitement lasts. It's all I have left. Mommies are old news.

I think it is pretty normal at this point and nothing to worry about. They obviously love you, but you are their "normal", which isn't exciting or fun or new.

StokedWifey · September 2013

roo1582 said:

I think kids go through stages as to who they prefer. There was a while back where Kayleigh always wanted her daddy. Lately, all she's wanted is me. Give it some time. Enjoy your ability to pee while you can. I'm sure before you know it, they'll be back to wanting you all the time.

This is what I was going to say too. B always rushes to greet my husband at the door when he hears the garage open, but barely smiles at me most of the time. The only time I get excitement is when I pick him up at daycare. I have to remind myself that I see him aaaaaalll the time and he's probably sick of me on occasion. Other times, he can be contentedly playing with MH, but if I leave the room, he flips. He's just a flip flopper.

pinkangelmoon · September 2013

emilypc said:

lewispm said:

K is like this sometimes as well. He LOVES his Mimi and especially his Grandaddy. When I go pick him up I am lucky to even get acknowledged. He also gets really clingy to his daddy whenever he is home since he doesn't see him that often (especially in the past, but will see him much more now that he is done with law school/the Bar) Like he literally cries and clings to him when I try to take him. So basically I get the shaft He is always happy to see me when I get him from daycare though, so I have that! He has only been going for 2 weeks and I pray the excitement lasts. It's all I have left. Mommies are old news.
I think it is pretty normal at this point and nothing to worry about. They obviously love you, but you are their "normal", which isn't exciting or fun or new.

This is what I was going to say. Cam gets SUPER excited as soon as he hears his daycare provider coming to open the door. Often he leaps out of my arms to get to her. Then lately when I get there to pick him up, he usually yells "mama!" and then goes back to what he was doing and cries when I try to leave with him. It hurts a little, but it will pass. And at least I know he's happy where he is all day. I think it would be so much worse if he cried every day and I wasn't sure if he was happy all day or not. You're their mom and they love you!

This is true. It makes it easy to go to work every day. It just makes me sad that out of two kids, neither of them is a momma's girl/boy. Hmmph. I hope you ladies are right and it changes or evens out at some point.

elizdg · September 2013

I don't have any advice either, but Graham is exactly the same way with my parents. It does occasionally make me sad if I stop to think about it, so I just try to be grateful that he has so many people in his life that he loves and who love him. I'm sure it's just a phase they are going through and it'll be over soon. They know mommy is always number 1

OkieMama · September 2013

jfresh said:
I don't really have any advice but I can tell you that you aren't alone : ) Oliver is ALL about my dad. He completely ignores my mom and I know her feelings get kind of hurt. Oliver never bats an eye when I drop him off but the other day when my dad left he had a gigantic tantrum. He has literally punched me in order to get off my lap to my dad. I think they just go through phases, I hope it's over soon for you!

This is us too! He is ridiculously obsessed with my dad. It definitely hurts my moms feelings. He is downright rude to her, swatting her away if she tries to love on him. At church this past Sunday MH and my dad came out of a men's class and LO took off in a full sprint so excitedly and everyone said "aww he missed his daddy"...nope sped right past daddy to grandpa. It makes me wonder if he's sneaking him candy or something, lol.

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