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At the end of my rope

christinasullie37christinasullie37 member
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DD is 1.5 months old and for a while things were going great.  She slept fine, ate fine, and was overall generally happy.  Then she started crawling, teething and ow walking and has to be the most miserable baby ever.  She doesn't eat, doesn't nap, and sleeping at night is pretty much non existent.  This has been going on for three months now and I am just done.  My hubby and I argue all the time and everything is a constant struggle with her.  All she wants to do is walk all day and night.  Like last night, woke up at 3 am and has been up ever since.  I am to the point I don't know what to do anymore.  Sorry for the rant!
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Re: At the end of my rope

  • dufferoodufferoo member
    I'm sure your own sleep deprivation is making things seem more terrible then they are. Wth my daughter, when the going got rough, I would pour myself a glass of wine, put in earplugs if necessary, and repeat to myself "This too shall pass this too shall pass this too shall pass..." ...And it really eventually will!!
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  • mamaHippo23mamaHippo23 member

    How do you handle the night wake-ups? If she is fussing, babbling, or moving around then I would let her be and wait for her to calm down on her own. My son often wakes for 4am parties in his crib and if I ignore it he always falls back asleep eventually. I put 2 small stuffed animals and a blanket in there, so he has things to snuggle with and that seems to help too.

    If you are feeling this overwhelmed, then it's time for you and your DH to agree to some strategies on how to improve things. Three months of constant arguing would put serious strain on any relationship. Bring up specific issues and be willing to compromise. If you have access to a reliable sitter, plan some alone time to get out and have fun together.

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  • pb_bridepb_bride member
    Months and months of sleep deprivation will get to anyone, even the most patient parents!  

    my question is, have you done sleep training?  Do you have a routine/schedule during the day that you follow?  Does she seem tired but fights to sleep?  Does she know how to fall asleep on her own?

    It's hard to give any advice without knowing more specifics.  Obviously a sleep-deprived baby will be fussy all day and won't want to eat either.  I find that with DS, if we stick with a similar schedule on a daily basis, he'll learn to be sleepy at his nap times and he won't fight as much.
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  • BBhopes15BBhopes15 member
    Hugs to you! I know the feeling. We are going through something similar. Ever since our little turned 8 month and started crawling, then standing and trying to walk things have gone to the crapper! But hang in there. One thing that has helped us is this: if its bedtime or nap time and LO won't sleep but stays in crib playing I let him. On hard days I catnap! One of us has to sleep right? Don't feel bad if you have to let her cry either believe that at this age they know what they are doing! My son screams at me. He stands on his crib and screams, doesn't cry but screams! It's frustrating but if I don't go up he lays back down and eventually goes to sleep. Do try whatever you are comfortable doing but try it for a few days to see if it works. GL
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  • snoopy4283snoopy4283 member
    I'm sorry for your troubles and I feel that I can relate (to some degree).  I my LO is 9.5 months and constantly on the go - all she wants to do is crawl around, stand herself up, and play with toys.  When you try and sit her down she just screams!  

    I think it's important to remember a couple of things:  1.  This will NOT last forever.  2.  Kids feed on your frustrations, anxiety, etc.  You need to relax and regroup.  With my super active infant I make sure to let her play and wear herself out.  At some point she WILL get tired!  When I see the rubbing of the eyes I change her, give her a bottle, and then put her in her crib.  Sometimes shes cries and it takes her awhile to go to sleep but she eventually does go to sleep.  3.  I have found that isolation helps to settle her down.  There are times to watch tv and have lots of noise and stimulation and then there are times when quiet is key.  I have started feeding her in a quiet room with no tv, the dog is not allowed, and all she can do is focus on eating - this has helped a ton! 

    But remember this will not last forever and things will get better!  Try not to stress yourself out too much - it only makes things harder!
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