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I have the weirdo baby

musicalmama5musicalmama5 member
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I'm all about AP, bedsharing, babywearing, nursing to sleep, all of it. But my weirdo baby is not! He wakes constantly if we bedshare, and he won't just nurse back to sleep. He has to be walked around then put back in his crib. DH was like, "why don't you just nurse him in bed all night?" I WISH I COULD. He doesn't like to be worn unless I'm on a walk. And only about 50% of the time will he nurse to sleep. He'll finish nursing and then look up at me like "wth? why am I still awake?" Gah. I feel like my life would be so much easier if he would just nurse to sleep and let me wear him all day in a carrier. But alas. I have the crazy baby.
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  • MommyPhoenixMommyPhoenix member
    edited September 2013
    Aww, not a weirdo, little man is just probably trying to find his comfort zone. How old is your LO? Have you tried lying down/side-lying to nurse? Could you try a different carrier? Do you have any "association" routines that you might try to use for sleep queues? Sorry, lots of questions :) but we had a similar situation with our DD. I find nursing her lying down helps because I don't have to disrupt her once shes fallen asleep. She hated the Moby and sling but loves the Ergo. I also started singing the same lullaby since birth for bedtime while she nurses - It took a while but I think she associates it with bedtime now along with a white noise app we use. She falls asleep at bedtime and for naps pretty quickly like this.

     

        

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  • erbearerbear member
    meh. All babies are different and part of AP is responding to your baby's needs and wants. So listen to him :)
    "Hello, babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. At the outside, babies, you've got about a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies. God damn it, you've got to be kind." - Kurt Vonnegut
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  • cgregory81cgregory81 member
    edited September 2013
    My DS isn't a big fan of being worn either. He's fine if we're constantly moving and only for about 10 minutes or so. Never in the house though. Once he's done, he starts thrashing like a cat trapped in a paper bag!

    ETA: He's 5.5 months old and I think he's just too nosy and on the move to be stuck to me in a carrier.
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  • ReeceFamilyReeceFamily member
    DD never liked being worn unless I was moving (vacuuming or taking a walk). Although once she hit about 6 mos I discovered I could wear her for long periods of time...if she was facing OUT. Advisories aside, I often wear DD facing out in our Ergo. I put a little towel in to keep her butt lower than her knees. I know it's supposedly "cruel" because she is too exposed or whatever, but this just isn't true for DD, at least for now. She laughs and chatters and watches my hands. If I'm in the kitchen I'll give her a wooden spoon to hang onto or slobber on. In the grocery store she likes to touch boxes or cans. She loves it if I dance, especially in mirror. Works for us!
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    ReeceFamily said:
    DD never liked being worn unless I was moving (vacuuming or taking a walk). Although once she hit about 6 mos I discovered I could wear her for long periods of time...if she was facing OUT. Advisories aside, I often wear DD facing out in our Ergo. I put a little towel in to keep her butt lower than her knees. I know it's supposedly "cruel" because she is too exposed or whatever, but this just isn't true for DD, at least for now. She laughs and chatters and watches my hands. If I'm in the kitchen I'll give her a wooden spoon to hang onto or slobber on. In the grocery store she likes to touch boxes or cans. She loves it if I dance, especially in mirror. Works for us!
    Tell me more about out-facing Ergo. I always thought that was a no-no. How do you do the towel? Under her knees?
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    musicalmama5 said:


    ReeceFamily said:

    DD never liked being worn unless I was moving (vacuuming or taking a walk). Although once she hit about 6 mos I discovered I could wear her for long periods of time...if she was facing OUT. Advisories aside, I often wear DD facing out in our Ergo. I put a little towel in to keep her butt lower than her knees. I know it's supposedly "cruel" because she is too exposed or whatever, but this just isn't true for DD, at least for now. She laughs and chatters and watches my hands. If I'm in the kitchen I'll give her a wooden spoon to hang onto or slobber on. In the grocery store she likes to touch boxes or cans. She loves it if I dance, especially in mirror. Works for us!

    Tell me more about out-facing Ergo. I always thought that was a no-no. How do you do the towel? Under her knees?

    If you don't mind buying another carrier, you could try the Beco Gemini. It allows for a facing out position. One of my girls only likes to be worn if she can see out (she twists herself halfway around in the Moby!) so I bought the Gemini specifically because it has a forward facing position.
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  • JJ_13JJ_13 member
    Another vote for the Beco Gemini. We do outward facing, inward facing; it also has capacity for hip carry and back carry (although the back carry seems very awkward with it - still working on that one).
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    Thanks, ladies! I will definitely have to check out a Beco Gemini. He definitely is the kind of baby that needs to see everything. I hope they aren't too expensive though. Our car just died and we're about to buy a new one so money's tight. (and I also want to buy a king size bed so that bedsharing will be more feasible...)
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  • PumpkinAndThePeanutPumpkinAndThePeanut member
    musicalmama5 said:

    Thanks, ladies! I will definitely have to check out a Beco Gemini. He definitely is the kind of baby that needs to see everything. I hope they aren't too expensive though. Our car just died and we're about to buy a new one so money's tight. (and I also want to buy a king size bed so that bedsharing will be more feasible...)

    They're $130, new, so a bit pricy. Maybe you could find a gently used one though?
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  • ReeceFamilyReeceFamily member
    musicalmama5 said:
    ReeceFamily said:
    DD never liked being worn unless I was moving (vacuuming or taking a walk). Although once she hit about 6 mos I discovered I could wear her for long periods of time...if she was facing OUT. Advisories aside, I often wear DD facing out in our Ergo. I put a little towel in to keep her butt lower than her knees. I know it's supposedly "cruel" because she is too exposed or whatever, but this just isn't true for DD, at least for now. She laughs and chatters and watches my hands. If I'm in the kitchen I'll give her a wooden spoon to hang onto or slobber on. In the grocery store she likes to touch boxes or cans. She loves it if I dance, especially in mirror. Works for us!
    Tell me more about out-facing Ergo. I always thought that was a no-no. How do you do the towel? Under her knees?
    I'm not sure that facing out in an Ergo per se is a no-no.  I know that the pelvis position with the out-ward facing Baby Bjorn is supposed to cause hip problems (although I've seen that refuted in a number of places) and any out-ward facing wearing at all is considered wrong by some:


    In any case, if I put a little towel under LO's knees, she is in a rounded-back position with her knees out and above her butt.  I'm sure some would frown at this!  Sounds like the Beco is more recommended for outward facing? I do know that there is a baby-wearing consultant who posts on this board...but I can't remember her name.
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    @Subliminalrabbit I went to a Babywearers meeting in my local area and some very experienced ladies told me to tie a scarf around the baby's knees in the Bjorn for added support.  I ended up getting a Mei Tai anyways once I got more into babywearing because it seemed more versatile, but for the first 2 months I used the Bjorn. 
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  • bingbongsmamabingbongsmama member
    I say do whatever works. Do what makes life easier on you and makes you lo happy and don't worry about fitting into any specific type of parenting.

    I didn't plan on being AP, I didn't even realize I was AP but in listening to my DDs needs that's just how it turned out. She's a kid who prefers to be held and to bed share, but if the next one is happier being independent then that's cool too.
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