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Sleep Lady- MOTN Wake-Ups

mschocokittymschocokitty member
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This is our fifth night following the Sleep Lady Program. After the first night of a solid hour of crying, he has gone down for bed about 7:15 without tears and within 15 minutes. Naps have been successful about 80% of the time, which is better than the 10% of the time before we started. However, the middle of the night is still a major problem. Every night between 12-1, the time when he used to come into our bed, he has woken up and been inconsolable for about an hour. I've tried following the same steps as the going to bed soothing routine, but nothing seems to help. It becomes a matter of waiting it out, which is agonizing in the middle of the night. Last night I couldn't take it any more, and I waited it out on the couch instead of in the room. He seemed to quiet soon after I left, so maybe I'm better off not staying with him for MOTN wake- ups? Have I missed something in the program? My sleep deprived brain cannot seem to problem solve any more. 
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  • abenson3abenson3 member
    I don't follow The Sleep Lady Program; however, my LO wakes about the same times are yours most nights.  I usually wait it out about 15 minutes before going into her room and about 90% of the time she is silent before the 15 minutes is up.  I just chalk it up to sleep crying.  Are you giving and wait time before going in.  A lot of times, if I were to go in before the 15 minutes, I just wake her up.  Don't know if that helps.
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    I'm trying to follow the suggestions of the program(at least I'm hoping I'm interpreting them right),which is to go in as soon as you hear crying and soothe without picking up and remain in the room until he falls back asleep.  The problem is that after hearing him scream bloody murder for a while, I pick him up, rock etc. Now I'm being inconsistent and probably making a whole new set of sleep crutches. At this point my confidence in my instincts  is at about a 0 and I feel so frustrated. 
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    We followed the sleep lady program about 2.5 months ago (when LO was 6.5 months) and it worked great for nap times and bedtimes. Like you though, we found that MOTN wake ups were much different. Honestly, I just decided that where we were was okay - she goes to sleep at nap and bedtime very quickly (usually) and wakes 1 - 3 times/night. Either DH goes in and can comfort back to sleep quickly, or if that doesn't work, or it's been a while since her last feeding, I go in and feed and put her down quickly. I found that once the bed and naptimes got better, I could put her down after feeding her in the MOTN much more quickly. I'm planning to night wean (and will follow the sleep lady program) around 10 months or so. I realize this wasn't that helpful, but just have confidence in your own instincts. You're doing fine and this too shall pass. I do agree w PP that consistency is key in sleep training, but also remember that you'll all be okay and this won't last forever. Now, all that said, I do remember West saying in the book that some moms find that their presence is more disturbing and that if that is the case, you should listen to your LO and just do timed checks. I don't know. I think given what you've told us, I would wait a few minutes before going to him (like maybe 3 - 5 minutes) just to make sure he really is waking up. Then I would go in, rub his back, maybe pick him up briefly, tell him "shhhh, it's sleepy time. Mommy loves you." and then put him down and go out. Then give him some time before you go back in there. try this for a few nights. I think sleep training is a balance between consistency (giving things long enough to see if they truly work) and recognizing when something isn't working and not being afraid to follow your instincts when you recognize that. Good luck!
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