I've been SAH for about a year, looking to go back to work. MH is in retail management so basically makes his own schedule - he can work any day and could do second shift schedule. For financial reasons, and because DD has some special needs, it seems it would be better for us to try to alternate work schedules rather than find outside care at this time.
If you and DH work opposite shifts:
1) What are your professions?
2) What is your schedule?
3) Do you like it/ Is it worth it to you?
Re: Working Opposite Shifts?
I am a dietitan in a hospital type setting and DH is a supervisor in a manufacturing plant.
Honestly, I hate it. I hate doing dinner, bath and bedtime alone every night and I miss my DH, but it is the only way we can get my DD the therapy she needs so in the end it is worth it.
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OP- Make sure you fit in time with your spouse.
We were also already doing it pre-baby, so that removed part of the adjustment. My workplace is open M-F, 8-5, so my hours are pretty fixed. DH's position has always been evenings/weekends. There could be daytime openings in the future but it would pay less than daycare (we're both in warm fuzzy what-we-majored-in fields that don't pay worth a darn) so it's kind of moot.
We have ways of staying in contact with each other. We were already used to opposite shifts and we'd also done a year of living on opposite coasts. So that can be managed.
The parenting without help, however, was much more difficult. The sleep issue alone. He'd come home six hours before I had to go to work and we'd basically each take 3 hours. However, that was the first year and you've already gotten through that.
DH does work fewer overnight shifts than he used to, as we both realized we needed more sleep and more tag teaming time. Also we just have one car, so him working all day both Saturday and Sunday made errands super difficult. Also limited what I could do to keep LO entertained. So now he doesn't go to work Sunday until 8pm. A significant financial hit but the reduced stress was worth it to us.
The biggest advantage has been DH getting so much time with LO. I don't think LO would have been any worse off in daycare, but it's been better for DH, and it's been better for me in terms of ending up with an actual parenting partner who does just as much and who can relate to it all.
Oh, housework. No one ever managed housework. We're just now hitting independent play. But at least we each realized why it wasn't happening because we were both experiencing those days.
It is hard, but worth it for us. DH has always worked at least some evenings since we met, so I'm used to it. And he loves being home w DD during the day. My job is flexible too, so I can work from home or flex hours if needed.