Community› The Bump Message Boards› Working Moms
Working Moms
New Discussion

Desperately needing internet stranger advice ;)

jewels1199jewels1199 member
in Working Moms
LOL ok ok this is my first post after lurking for a bit and this will be half rant ( been a tough week ) and half needing serious impartial ,non-family advice.

I had been a SAHM for 3 years with my son. I recently completed a medical program that took 6 months and re entered the work force. At first I worked for the local large hospital but ended up leaving after a month due to severe anxiety after getting attacked and also being stuck my a dirty needle. I am now working in the private sector, love the job, but am getting NO hours and have to be on call everyday from 5am to 11am. I have to wake DS up at 5am everyday and get him to daycare IN CASE my job calls so I can start at 630am. My position is such where I am considered causal on -call. There is no possibility of changing that in the near future.

My DH is a police officer and works in a specialty squad where sometimes he works every day for months on a case. Right now were in the middle of one of those sprees.and hes been gone 15 days straight.

What I need advice on is , Ive been esentially throwing away $750 a month for DS to go to daycare and been earning very little income. There is no where else for me to work in this profession and DH and I are TTC #2. How long would you stick it out in a job where you were earning essentially no income and spending money to sit at home ? Perhaps I should just call it a loss and SAH until baby #2 comes.

I feel like a dummy for taking this program in the first place !! So frustrating that there just is no work in this field.
The kicker is DH wants me to stick it out a couple more months and see what happens....thats another couple thousand $ down the drain !!

BAH !!!!
IAmPregnant Ticker
Image and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPic
All our babies :) xoxox


Report Reply to Post

Re: Desperately needing internet stranger advice ;)

  • mommymegan831mommymegan831 member
    do you have any SAHMs in the area that would be interested in babysitting as an on call option?  I always thought if I had the opportunity to SAH I'd offer emergency child care service so I wasn't strapped down to something everyday but could make extra money.
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    Definitely agree with PP's suggestion.  Also, is there any kind of drop-in daycare near you that you would only pay if you actually used it?
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
    Report Reply
  • StayingSecretStayingSecret member
    Really?  There's only 2 places in your city that you can work at?  One being a hospital and one being a private practice?  There HAS to be other options that I'd explore for employment.
    DS/LO #1: Born March 2012 DS/LO #2: On his way! Due October 2013 image
    Report Reply
  • dufferoodufferoo member
    edited September 2013
    Im a lurker too over here, but your story kind of intrigued me. As an internet stranger, I obviously don't know the details of your getting attacked and stuck with a dirty needle (yikes!), but if that was a random freak accident, I would maybe seek treatment for the anxiety and consider eventually going back to that stable hospital job. Heck, that would even be something you could work on while you are sticking it out at this current job! If you are indeed going to stick this out, I would do what PPs suggested and get some on-call babysitting. If neither of those 2 are viable options, and there are truly no other jobs in your field out there, then I would just f it and stay at home. Just seems like a waste if you were earnest about wanting to go back to work, you know?
    Report Reply
  • jewels1199jewels1199 member
    Sorry for the late reply ladies , went to a bachelorete last night...Im getting to old for those ! LOL

    Ok so to answer the question about daycare, I HAVE to be available 7 days a week at work, I get 2 days off but I never know when they will be. There is NO drop in daycare in our area , we have to pay for a full time spot to guarantee that DS will have somewhere to go IF I get a call. Also since there is no daycare at my place on weekends my mother has had to reserve every weekend just in case she has to take care of DS. I have looked into EVERYTHING to minimize costs in that area, but nanny on call would cost about the same bc they want to be paid for the days they have to wait around for you ( rightfully so ).

    Here in Canada BC the laboratorys are only in 2 sectors- public ( hospitals ) and private ( 1 lab has purchased all the private labs in BC ). So when I say there are only 2 options I seriously mean that. At least at the hospital there was a schedual not this on call BS.

    Going into this feild I envisioned working in the Hospital and when that all went to hell in a handbasket Im stuck doing this.

    As for TTC #2 we are in a very stable place right now. We own our home and have savings , we also get 1 year paid maternity leave. Also with the amount DH works we can afford #2.

    If youve read this far you are a super hero ;)

    Anyway....DH and seriously dont see eye to eye on what I should do. He has no problem sending DS to daycare everyday and just having me work whenever. Im bored to tears and HATE HATE the uncertainty of never being able to plan anything or sched a day off due to no sched in advance. ( I get my on call sched 3 days in advance thats it, and its only for the 1 week at a time. )
    IAmPregnant Ticker
    Image and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPic
    All our babies :) xoxox


    Report Reply
  • whynotwhynotwhynotwhynot member
    Could you provide on call daycare?  It sounds like you may have found a niche in your area that is under served.
    Report Reply
  • StayingSecretStayingSecret member
    So you work 5 days a week, but you just don't know which 5 days a week those are?  You said you get 2 days off/week, so I assume that you're working the other 5.

    I guess I'd keep working then if DH wasn't on board with you SAH.  And I'd really look into an in-home daycare or a college student who would be "on call" for the weekends to let your mom have a life.  Or can DH take the weekends?  What is his job like?
    DS/LO #1: Born March 2012 DS/LO #2: On his way! Due October 2013 image
    Report Reply
  • Bat_Ish_CrazyBat_Ish_Crazy member
    It sounds like you are comfortable with the amount you are paying for childcare, but you prefer not to leave your child on days that you are not working.  Instead of waking up at the butt crack of dawn to take the kiddo in every day, why don't you wait to see if you get called?  Drop the babe off at daycare on days you're called to work & keep the babe on days you don't get that call. 

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker


    Image and video hosting by TinyPic

    Me: 28, DH: 33
    Conceived DD in <1yr w/o assistance
    TTC#2 since 11/2013
    DX: PCOS
    Benched pending conf of Rubella immunity
    Next Cycle: CLOMID round 1

    Report Reply
  • daisy662daisy662 member
    Since you are paying for the daycare regardless and you say you feel guilty about putting you LO in there, why do you take her the if you aren't working that day? I'd wait for the call and then take her in.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"