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Need advice-quickly!

fastcarsandfreedom3319fastcarsandfreedom3319 member
in August 2012 Moms
I have been putting this off for a while but I just don't know how to do it.  I am supposed to be a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding at the end of April 2014. The wedding is here in AZ.

Since I accepted, over the last few months, my husband and I decided that we are going to sell our house and move cross-country, to be with our families. Our house is up for sale now and we are hoping to be out of here before winter.

Today I am supposed to go and be fitted for my bridesmaid dress and pay for it, but I will need to step down from being in the wedding because I know I won't have enough money to fly back here, or be able to take time off from a brand new job (that I don't even have yet) to make the trip. 

How do I even go about telling her this?? I feel awful.  She already knows we are going to be moving but I don't think she understands my timeline, or if she knows how difficult and expensive it is to move across the country.  Help!
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Re: Need advice-quickly!

  • CourtneyEepsCourtneyEeps member
    To be honest, I wouldn't have been too upset if a friend bowed out of bridesmaid duty if there was a huge reason like moving across the country.

    I would just ask her to coffee or lunch and explain that you feel awful, but you just won't be able to make the commitment because of financial reasons.

    I'm sorry you're in this position but how exciting that you'll be moving closer to your family!
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  • fastcarsandfreedom3319fastcarsandfreedom3319 member
    Thanks ladies. It was tough and I definitely broke down crying but I did it. :)
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  • SJandVASJandVA member
    What a hard decision to make. How did she take it? I hope well
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  • fastcarsandfreedom3319fastcarsandfreedom3319 member
    SJandVA said:
    What a hard decision to make. How did she take it? I hope well
    She seemed ok I guess.  I don't know if she is going to try to replace me or not. It was pretty embarrassing because the other 2 bridesmaids were there too and the lady who was taking our measurements. I could barely get any words out because I was trying to choke down the tears.
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  • bigbootyjudibigbootyjudi member
    I wouldn't be too upset about it. There's nothing you can do and it's not like you're going to postpone your family plans (/doing what's best for your family) for her wedding. If she's that good of a friend to you, she'll understand and move on.
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