October 2013 Moms

I truly think people lose their filter when around pregnant women

Took my son to Petco today because Basset Hound Rescue of Georgia was having their adoption event. When I was pregnant with DS I used to work the adoption events with them and help with their website, so I figured we would go and I would talk to some old friends and DS could play with the puppies. While there another rescue organization was holding their event too, no biggie, the woman from the other group come over while we are all talking and is asking about the organization and questions about the breed, then she looks at me and says your about to have your hands full aren't you, your big what are you having twins. I said no just one, and she kept on well is your husband big because that's gonna be a big baby, your son is pretty big for his age was he a big baby. I proceeded to ask how old she thought my son was and she's like oh he seems like he just turned two. I told her no he was actually three and her comeback was well he babbles and doesn't talk like what a typical three year old would, sorry and walks away. Really? I have to admit DS does sound younger because of his speech delay but I've never had anyone say anything about it. I went back to talking to my friends and ignored the other group for the rest of the time then it occurred to me what snaps in people that makes them think it's ok to comment on how big pregnant women are, or anything else for that matter. 
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Re: I truly think people lose their filter when around pregnant women

  • Rude! There's a woman at work that tells everyone to look how swollen my face is! I'm like yay! That's exactly what I wanted to hear!
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  • People are awful. I'm mostly sorry she said that stuff about your son, how rude!

  • Omg this is ignorant. I just had a lady ask me if I was dilated while in the "waited to be seated" section at olive garden. And in a nice outdoor voice to make sure I heard her. I'm sure that's what the 12 people around us wanted to hear while thinking of what to order for dinner
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  • I agree, as soon as people know you are pregnant the "were you trying?" questions start and it never stops from there. Um, that's a pretty personal question anyway, it's about my husbands and my sex life! And asking if you are dilated? You are asking about the current state of my lady bits! Hello! A bit forward, IMO.
  • I would ignore the big comments but the comment about your son would have made flip out. There are some things people should just keep to themselves...

    I though it was odd someone came up to my DS today and kissed him. I didn't mind that she was talking to him in straight up French but when she leaned in out of nowhere and started kissing his face I was like personal space lady, I don't know you so don't kiss him.
  • I would ignore the big comments but the comment about your son would have made flip out. There are some things people should just keep to themselves... I though it was odd someone came up to my DS today and kissed him. I didn't mind that she was talking to him in straight up French but when she leaned in out of nowhere and started kissing his face I was like personal space lady, I don't know you so don't kiss him.
    AAAHHH I would freak out. Strangers kissing my kid, that's a big no.
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  • I would ignore the big comments but the comment about your son would have made flip out. There are some things people should just keep to themselves...

    I though it was odd someone came up to my DS today and kissed him. I didn't mind that she was talking to him in straight up French but when she leaned in out of nowhere and started kissing his face I was like personal space lady, I don't know you so don't kiss him.

    AAAHHH I would freak out. Strangers kissing my kid, that's a big no.

    He may or may not have had a full on baby wipe bath right there in the store followed by trip to the bathroom to wash his face.
  • Kudos for not hitting her.

    I'm amazed by the crap people say. A lady a work told me I looked fat and then when I objected, she said "that's a good thing" as if it was OK.

    Then there was the older man who asked how everything was "growing with me" (wtf????) and another who said I was trying to turn the baby into a girl cuz I was wearing pink.
    Daniel ~ October 21, 2013
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  • I got the 'how many babies are in there' question immediately followed by 'you are too big.' And this woman didn't even blink an eye. Do people not realize that at 8-9 months we are carrying a near full size human being plus all their baggage? People get stupid around pregnant women but there's no excuse for commenting on your toddler, that's way out of line!
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  • I seriously don't understand why people think they can say whatever they want to a pregnant woman.  I have gotten, "you're huge" and "you must be having twins" so many times it's ridiculous.  I have also gotten, "don't worry, your face will go back to normal."  Do they think they are being funny?  I have a hard time believing that people are so dumb.  

    BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!

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  • Grrr, it is my third time and I just tune people out or give them the "you are dumb" smile.

    Saying stuff about your son is a jerk move.
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  • Some stranger kissed your son?  Wtf is wrong with people? 

    Someone asked me if my baby was "mixed." Where did that even come from? 
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  • Some stranger kissed your son?  Wtf is wrong with people? 

    Someone asked me if my baby was "mixed." Where did that even come from? 
    I recently attempted to reconnect with an old friend, and when I told him I was pregnant, he asked about the baby's name. When I told him we were naming her Carmen, he asked if she was a mixed baby. What does that matter?
  • Some stranger kissed your son?  Wtf is wrong with people? 

    Someone asked me if my baby was "mixed." Where did that even come from? 
    I recently attempted to reconnect with an old friend, and when I told him I was pregnant, he asked about the baby's name. When I told him we were naming her Carmen, he asked if she was a mixed baby. What does that matter?
    How does Carmen translate to mixed?  Pretty random!
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  • This evening, I had a male in his 30's come up to me and ask me if I had a gynecologist.  

    I was so surprised by his question that all I could do was blink at him.  
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  • I work at one of the Kroger historic sites in the area, so I see a lot of people on any given day. I often get "when are you due? Is it a boy or a girl?" Which are pretty harmless questions. Today, however, an older lady overheard someone else asking me and got really personally offended that I found out that I was having a boy. She told me I had ruined everything and she couldn't understand why I would do that. She wouldn't stop going on and on abouf it! Her friend started trying to calm her down, and honestly, I just turned around and walked away. It was really weird.
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  • My god people are so socially inept.

    I get the 'it must be twins' so much my attitude has become rather hostile in response, because people always protest and insist that one is hiding behind the other. Frack off people our family makes big babies!

    I also REALLY hate when ppl look me up and down when they ask if it's my first. YES I am in my thirties ppl- most North Americans tend to start having kids at this age. I want to poke their judgmental eyes out for those looks.


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  • Some stranger kissed your son?  Wtf is wrong with people? 

    Someone asked me if my baby was "mixed." Where did that even come from? 

    Yes she sure did, no idea why she thought that was a good idea...

    My son IS actually mixed and I get told very often that he is not my child. I've been asked who I'm watching him for. I've also had women (because its usually women) come up to him while he's crying and ask him where his mommy is when I'm standing right there. I could go on and on but I won't since you get the picture.
  • Yesterday DH and I were at Wawa and the cashier asked when I was due. I told her 10/15 and she proceeded to go on about how big I am and am I sure there is just one. I had such a bad day yesterday that I just started bawling about it. I know I should just ignore it, but sometimes it just gets under my skin.
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