Leaving LO

LisaLisa1980 · September 2013

My H informed me that we have dinner reservations for our anniversary and that his Mom is babysitting DS. I'm not ok with this. Nothing to do with her... It's the time of night (5:30) that he gets cranky/tired and when he cries, it's a full out purple cry.

It may end up being fine (she had 4 kids of her own & DS has fallen asleep on her before), but I'm really scared that he's not going to enjoy himself. Ughhhhh. Stressed now.

oandmplus1 · September 2013

Honestly, DS gets cranky sometimes in the evening and cluster feeds but he does this whether I am with him or not. I can't see how old your LO is, but if you are confident in your MIL, which it sounds like you are, go out and have a good time. A few hours away will be fine. As long as he is fed, dry and cuddled, he will be just fine whether he enjoys himself or not.

Bensmom13 · September 2013

I think it's really important to have time alone with your DH, away from baby. You need to focus on each other sometimes too in order to keep things strong for LO.

Baby will be just fine with grandma for a few hours. You said it yourself- she raised 4 kids of her own! And like others said- if he's clean, dry and fed, even if there's a little fussiness, he'll be just fine in the end.

Go and happy anniversary!

monkeybutt61612 · September 2013

It's really important that you and your husband take time for each other. Every mother needs time away from her baby to save her sanity. Your baby needs time with other caregivers too. Enjoy your date!

jonesie2010 · September 2013

I know how you feel. We have plans to leave LO with a sitter for an evening next week and then again overnight next month. I'm already getting anxious, especially about the overnight one. I completely trust the sitter and she has two kids of her own so she's a way more experienced parent than me. But it's hard to turn over responsibility to someone else even for a few hours when I've been LO's number one person since day one. I just keep telling myself that DH and I need this as a couple and I need it for my sanity. Before I got pregnant I totally judged someone I knew who hadn't left her one year old with a sitter EVER. Now it's time for me to put my money where my mouth is!