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Recurrent loss ladies

Flamingo86Flamingo86 member
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I've seen from a few siggies that there are other ladies here who struggled with recurrent miscarriage. I can get pregnant but can't seem to stay that way. I feel like I'm in a funny place: I don't really feel like I belong in the IF community, but I can't have a healthy baby either. It's been an enourmously frustrating journey but we are excited to be considering adoption.

Anyone else out there in a similar situation?

Started TTC July 2012. Missed m/c & d&c 9/12 11w. Natural m/c 1/13 6w. Chemical pgs 3/13 & 8/13 around 4w. Currently TTA while saving for adoption.

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller
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Re: Recurrent loss ladies

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    Yep. 3 losses, 2 without medical intervention. Still considered IF IMO.
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  • dholsappdholsapp member
    Only one loss here but with a diagnosis that would pretty much guarantee that any pregnancy would end in a loss. Welcome to the adoption side!

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    01/10- Femara
    03/10- Femara
    07/2010- Clomid with injectables and IUI #1
    08/2010- IUI #2
    06/2011- IVF #1 BFP!
    09/2011- Miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks
    11/2011- FET
    01/2012- Start Home Study process
    03/2012- Home Study approved and now waiting on our child to find us!
    07/2012- matched with a BM who is due in October!
    11/10/12- our son is born!
    11/13/12- court grants us custody!
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  • emcaemca member
    Yup. I've had 9 (maybe 10) early losses......sad that I've lost count. Some were with medical intervention, most without. I used to be able to get pregnant very easily, but would miscarry before anything could be seen on ultrasound. After 1 IUI, 3 IVFs (with genetic testing, one at CCRM in Colorado), we decided it was time to move on, even with 3 frozen embryos in colorado. It's pretty obvious that I will most likely never have a healthy pregnancy. It's a strange place to be and pretty frustrating, especially when you have no answers as to why. Welcome to adoption! If you ever want to message me, feel free. I totally understand!!

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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  • arbutusbridearbutusbride member
    I had 4 m/c while doing IF treatments.  We had always considered adoption but wanted to give IF treatments the old college try.  Little good that did us.  Anyway, you are more than welcome to post, lurk, respond, etc here.  As a PP said, it is hard to figure out where you belong when your heart is healing.  
    Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 
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  • aligrossaligross member
    It's an odd place to be... almost as if you're standing on a rope in the middle of two mountains and just trying to figure out which way to walk! My heart aches for all the losses everyone has to go through! Welcome the board!
    Began the Adoption process 4/2013
    Home study Approved 12/2013
    .... and the wait begins! 

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  • heaven22twheaven22tw member
    I had 5 miscarriages/ 4 years trying to find answers ...so we adopted...my DD was born at 28 weeks I moved out of state w her uuntil she was released from the hospital.... we came home and BAM pregnant w twins and my old Dr closed went to a new one and he figured out I have a clotting disorder in ten min no joke.  I'm due any day now and as overwhelming as it is esp the financial burden...I wouldn't want it any other way:) 
    After three miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy we are currently pursuing adoption. " Born not from our flesh, but born in our heart. You were longed for and wanted and loved from the start."
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  • sumatisumati member
    I've had 3 miscarriages and 2 checmical pregnancies... Then not able to get pregnant at all for the past year and a half... We are in the beginning stages of the adoption process.. We spoke with one agency and are waiting for the next info class for another agency.  Even before not being able to get pregnant for the past year.. I thought of my recurrent miscarriages as being infertility.. My RE categorized it as so as well.

    But I completely understand the not knowing where to fit in.. and the confusion of it all.. the frustation.  I am still healing/coping metally from the past 4 years of TTC..  We always planned on adopting a second child.. but it looks like we will be adopting our first child instead.. I still have hope for a biological child in the future.. 

    Welcome to the board.. I'm pretty new here too.. but everyone here seems really nice and helpful!  :)
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  • JoshKrisAdoptJoshKrisAdopt member
    I was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve after our failed IVF. Basically means I produce eggs like I'm close to menopause. I was told there was very little chance I would ever get pregnant. We started the adoption process and three months later I was miraculously pregnant. Unfortunately our daughter was still born 26 weeks later. Never stopped the adoption process the whole time but we were told expectant mom who are considering adoption want their child to be the focus. They think a PAP will focus more on her biological pregnancy (which would not be the case, they would have been/are equally loved). Nevertheless it slowed down our adoption process quite a bit. Don't expect I'll ever be pregnant again. I love the hope and peace that adoption brings. Welcome! https://joshandkrisloveadoption.blogspot.com/
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  • nrcrossnrcross member
    I have had 3 miscarriages in the last 9 months. I am having my second surgery Thursday to try to remove scar tissue. We are at the same time looking into foster to adopt through an agency. I think investigating the process has reduce the stress for me. I am so sorry for your losses and welcome. The ladies on here have been very friendly and informative.

    TTC Since June 2012 BFP #1 08/01/12, D&C 09/07/12 9 weeks, Blighted Ovum BFP #2 01/01/13 m/c 5 weeks BFP #3 03/02/13 D&C 4/15/13 m/c 11 weeks, 07/19/13 Hysteroscopy for Scar Tissue, 9/12813 Hysteroscopy & Laparoscopy for Scar Tissue, Cleared to TTC October 2013. 

    BFP # 4 11/01/2013 EDD 07/12/14

    Dear God, Since I couldn't hold my little one in my lap and tell him about you, could you hold him in your lap and tell him about me?

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