I just don't understand.

provwife · September 2013

My baby is 5 weeks and I still cannot figure out how mom's get anything around the house accomplished!
She used to take 2 hour naps during the day but now she only naps for about 20 minutes a time and during that time I get to go to the bathroom, eat or just rest. It's exhausting.
When she is awake she wants to be BF or be held otherwise she cries. I do have a carrier that she will sometimes let me put her in long enough to vacuum a room or two, but that's about it. I feel like crap because things need to be done but then again, I feel too drained to even do them when I do get a spare minute! UGH.
When does it get easier?
Vent over.

valstulas · September 2013

It will get easier, I promise. In the meantime, though, try to remember that being her mommy is the most important thing you can be and try to relish the time you have with her. She's only this little for a moment.

KMSonn · September 2013

I feel the same way. The fact that you can even get some vacuuming done impresses me. I blink and it's 5 pm- where did the day go?!?

Sadly- I begged DH last night to let me wash dishes because I felt so bad. Just felt like I should have the house spotless but yet I get very very little done

Lelo2006 · September 2013

They go through a period around 5-6 weeks where it seems like they never sleep! He is 10 weeks on Monday and it is getting better every day. Don't worry, it will get easier!

LauraB1016 · September 2013

I felt the same way on Tuesday. The house was (well still kinda is) a wreck and there was nothing I could do about it. But it did get better LO had a nice long nap this afternoon and I felt like I was on the road to regaining my house.

Hang in there!!

Jasmineeelizabeth · September 2013

You should see my condo right now. You would feel so much better. It's terrible.

sonflower1427 · September 2013

5 and 6 weeks suck massively. It gets better pretty quick, though. DD is 7.5 weeks and things are a lot smoother already. Hang in there!

Melissa0926432 · September 2013

Yeah 5-6 weeks is awful (with week 6 being the worst for us) - it does seem to be getting better though!

rooter84 · September 2013

Dh is home during the morning (he works 2nd shift) so he brings the older 2 to school while I take care if Gavin. When he gets back either he or I will start on housework. Once dh is at work, little gets done around the house.

You will get into a routine and it will get easier. I have been trying to figure Gavin and his sleepy times out. But it keeps changing each day. But we will hopefully have a schedule soon, and things will get a little easier.

EagleWife · September 2013

We're just at 8 weeks today and while it's still hard, it's not nearly as rough as weeks 5 and 6.

Things started smoothing out for us when I got in the habit of feeding her as soon as she woke up from her daytime naps and got her headed back for a nap about 40 minutes after she woke up. Feel free to look at my more recent post history (I feel like I typed it four or five times recently). It does get better!! Hang in there, mama!

andrea0418 · September 2013

I cannot put Tyler down when he is awake. He does not like the swing, bouncy, stroller, crib...
The times he naps and will stay asleep when I put him down, I hurry to do some dishes and throw a load of laundry in. My house is a wreck but I know it's not because I'm sitting around watching soap operas and eating bon bons all day so I don't feel guilty! Someday we will be able to cook and clean again!

summerchild · September 2013

You are not alone! This post is exactly how I feel! DS is 7 weeks tomorrow and I'm so overwhelmed that days are flying by and I can barely change out of my Pj's by 4pm much less do other things. I feel like I'm floundering and so unproductive compared to other moms. I wish I knew their secrets

jemasa33 · September 2013

I had that problem and I reintroduced the swing. He falls right asleep or relaxes for a while in it. He hated it at first though.

[Deleted User] · September 2013

Aw, don't worry about the chores. Just focus on being a mommy. It'll get better soon, I hope!

emandia · September 2013

Yes, yes, yes! Could have wrote this same post!

mslmk11 · September 2013

EagleWife said:

Things started smoothing out for us when I got in the habit of feeding her as soon as she woke up from her daytime naps and got her headed back for a nap about 40 minutes after she woke up.

I felt the same way you did OP, but when I started to see a routine establish for LO, and the above, feeding as soon as LO woke, and not keeping her up more than an hour including feeding, she sleeps between 1.5 - 2.5 hours.

I also think you may be in the first Wonder Week, which may be why LO wants to be near you all the time. Also I'm reading this other book by the Baby Whisperer - she seems to feel that most sleeping problems are actually eating problems, maybe your LO is needing more than she's getting to eat and so she's waking up hungry?

butterflyim1 · September 2013

I'm experiencing the same thing at 5.5weeks. Seeing how much DD is growing and starting to develop socially makes it a little easier to accept that the house isn't to my standards. She needs me more than the house does, and DH could care less - he actually prefers a more 'lived in' house.

geoffandjen728 · September 2013

emandia said:
Yes, yes, yes! Could have wrote this same post!

Me too

provwife · September 2013

i've never heard of the "Wonder Weeks" before! I hope it ends soon

thanks for all the support!

UTQT09 · September 2013

Doesn't it make you wonder how women used to keep the house clean, dinner on the table, and kids alive, all while wearing heels and hair done?? Those women are Heros!

heyhaylee · September 2013

The crockpot is my best friend. That's the only reason we have dinner usually. I just throw it in there in the morning, and do house work while hubby is home (he works nights)
When he is on days, we usually have visitors, or my mom or grandmother comes by and I leave them to hang out with LO and do housework. If I didn't have someone watching her, nothing would get done because she likes to be held. I totally understand what you are saying!

dontgiveupnomatterwhat · September 2013

Um, it took me 17 hours to clean my little 3 bedroom house. I would dust a table, and then baby would cry. Then I would vacuum a room, and baby would cry. Fold a shirt, baby would cry.
You are doing a great job...don't worry about the house now! (I have a dog sitter coming for the night, husband and our families are taking us for a quick beach trip to celebrate my big 3-0 birthday today...or else I would definitely have not cleaned. But I like to pretend our house is well kept when we have guests...)

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