New to Board - SAHD - Feeling Sad

yalllow · September 2013

Hello, I was wandering over here. I'm the working mama with a SAHD to an 20 month old. He does an amazing job and I'm quite blessed. As I sit here working over missing my kid... he sends a video of my baby saying "CHEESE!" Feeling sad. Missing my babe and all the little things he keeps learning. Feel like I'm cheating someone or something... maybe I'm cheating myself.

some days I do really well... I'm super glad that we have this arrangement even though money is so tight... then days like this where I haven't seen him at all I struggle. :sigh: just needed to vent!

jc&cat · September 2013

It's tough and I can certainly empathize with you! DH is a SAHD and yesterday took the kids to this amazing park and sent me some video of the kids and I was bummed to miss it. When I first went back to work after leave, i was hardly able to look at the pics he was sending b/c I was sad.

There are ups and downs to both roles and sometimes I am glad to have a little bit of an escape with work. Per PP, enjoy the time you have together and the fact that your little man is getting such great time with Daddy. Looking back now when DS was your DS's age, they really bonded and thats so great.

The kids have recently started lining up their chairs at the front door when I come home. It's priceless

82Sonia · September 2013

It's okay to be sad and even jealous. Try to focus on how great it is that your child gets to bond with daddy though. I stayed at home with my dad, and tagged along while he worked on his graduate thesis, when I was 4-5. We never got to spend that much time with each other after he finished all of his schooling so it's really great to remember that I got that much one-on-one time.

yalllow · September 2013

thank you all... i went home after my long day and my baby boy came running and screaming to me. He cuddled all evening... so I was feeling much better. The fact that you all can relate means so much. Thanks again

kristennd · September 2013

I was sitting on the floor right in front of LO, and he rolled over for the first time when I looked away for two seconds. Even SAHMs miss that stuff.

Our (planned) situation all along has been that DH is home during the weekday while I'm doing a standard M-F, 8-5, and then he works evenings/weekends. So I get plenty of of my own solo time with LO. Which then makes me very understanding of things like the dishes not getting done!

CarrieB. · September 2013

My DH and I work opposite shifts, so he is home w DD during the day. At first it was really hard and now that she is doing so much stuff (at 2 1/2) it can feel difficult again.

I try to focus on the positive. I think it's great that she gets so much time w her dad and I get to be a lazy mom who doesn't have to worry about daycare drop offs or packing her lunch.

costa2011 · September 2013

I can relate. I'm a full time working mom. My husband works full time too but he's a firefighter so his full time is two 24 hour shifts and then he has the rest of the week off to spend with LO. I'm completely jealous of him and am constantly texting him to send me pics of DD throughout the day. I try to take comfort in the fact that if she's not going to be in my hands, there's no other better person she can be with.

Kmartinrvt13 · September 2013

I'm a FT working mom. DH is a full time working dad...but he works from home so he spends so much more time with her. I do get jealous but like a PP said, I'm not SAHM material. I love my job and know what I do makes a difference, even though it keeps me out of the house long days most days I work. I just spend as much time with her when I'm home and it makes up for it! Keep your head up!