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My 16 m/o is a pincher and hair puller!

erindawnerindawn member
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Ugh. All of the sudden my little guy is gleefully attacking other kids. He does it to my 4 year old somewhat but immediately goes for strangers at the park, play dates, etc. it's super embarrassing and all I do is chase him and pry his fingers out of kids' hair and off their screaming bodies. My older boy never did this.

I get the sense he's just liking the reaction and he doesn't seem to understand he's being naughty.

Anyone have experience with this? How do I make this stop?!
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Re: My 16 m/o is a pincher and hair puller!

  • DiveFrogDiveFrog member
    edited September 2013

    DD (15months) does this to me, DH and my Mom who takes care of her while we work. She doesn't pull hair, but does pinch and bite. Luckily she doesn't try to do this to strangers or kids.

    Honestly, my response has always been to pinch her back (not very hard, but hard enough that she reacts) and say something like "Ow, hurts Mommy....We don't bite/pinch M, it hurts Mommy". My Mom handles it the same way so we are consistent with our responses. At 14-16months they are establishing/learning they are their own person, separate from you and others.

    The biting/pinching that DD does is not in any way frustration/anger/lashing out which is more common around 2-3. 

    I think I would handle my response very much the same if DD was doing it to other people, the problem that I think you want addressed is how to make sure your DS doesn't do it in the first place...especially to strangers. I am really no help there. I am doubt at 16months your DS would understand and follow through on a reward system for not doing it, or time outs for doing it,  or any other method that will completely stop him form the behavior. It is just one of those things you have to consistently correct until he learns/grows out of it.

    Best of Luck 

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  • LoveTimes2LoveTimes2

    I am new here, HI, but want to say that my daughter pulls my hair a LOT, especially right in the front which renders me powerless and I have to call my DH to come and release her hands because I don't want to lose hair in the process.

    I have seen her GO to bite and I give her a stern NO when i see her going to do it. 

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  • LoveTimes2LoveTimes2
    edited September 2013

    sorry repeat

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