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Feeling Guilty Leaving Daycare... Long

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My husband and I moved to a new city this summer, and the city, while not small necessarily, has a very small-town feel. My son was in a small center for a year and when we decided to move, we started looking into options closer to our new home. Through word of mouth, we were able to find a small, in-home daycare for my son that came highly recommended. We were actually "interviewed" by her to make sure that my husband and I would be a good fit to work with her. Apparently we passed the test ;) My son (14 months) has been at the new daycare for about a month now and is doing great. The daycare provider is great, but more reserved/quiet with parents, or maybe just with me? (I get the feeling it's not that she's cold but more that she is shy with parents.) 

Anyway, just before we started at the new daycare, we found out we were [semi-unexpectedly] expecting our 2nd child. Over the last month my husband and I have talked a lot about it and for a number of reasons (primarily financial), we've decided that I'm going to stay home with our two kids. Because it'll be a big adjustment for me to stay home full time, I'm going to start staying home a few months before the baby is born so my son and I can both get used to it before adding the new baby into the picture. All this to say, I'm feeling incredibly anxious to tell our new daycare provider that we are no longer going to have my son enrolled with her come January. I plan to give my employer 8+ weeks notice and will give our daycare provider the same notice, which is much more than the 2 weeks she requires. Is it dumb that I'm feeling so guilty, like we were lucky to get my son a spot with her and now she's going to be mad that we're leaving after only 5 months? I completely get that this might sound weird (and know that pregnancy hormones just *might* be at play here ;). But I'm looking for [hopefully] reassurance that I'm not doing anything wrong...

My husband says he gets where I'm coming from but that ultimately she runs a business and we're not doing anything wrong. We didn't sign a contract that we'd be there for X amount of time and didn't know we were pregnant and planning to leave quickly when we initially met with her. Anyway if you made it this far thanks for listening to my hormonal outpouring :)

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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    I think it is sweet that you feel guilty but honestly would not be that worried about it.  If she is that great/in demand, she will fill the spot pretty quickly anyway.  And it is not like you are leaving to go to another DC - you are quitting to SAH and giving plenty of notice.  I don't see how she would have an issue with any of that.

     

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  • MNmama7112MNmama7112 member
    *sparky* said:
    I think it is sweet that you feel guilty but honestly would not be that worried about it.  If she is that great/in demand, she will fill the spot pretty quickly anyway.  And it is not like you are leaving to go to another DC - you are quitting to SAH and giving plenty of notice.  I don't see how she would have an issue with any of that.
    OK good. Thank you! I just would hate make her think that we didn't feel fortunate to get our son into a great daycare that doesn't seem to have much turnover whatsoever (which is probably another reason I feel bad too- it seems like she's used to kids being with her until they go to school). I'm sure I'm over-thinking it but wanted to hear from other moms (my husband tends to be very business-minded vs. interpersonally-minded) :). I appreciate the feedback!

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  • jlaOKjlaOK member
    Don't feel bad at all.  Like PP said, it's not like you are leaving her for a different daycare.  I'd offer to be a reference for her and tell her that you'll recommend her to other people.
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  • LoCarbLoCarb member
    Leaving DC to be a SAHM is a valid reason-nothing to feel guilty about. You are giving her more than enough notice and it's very generous of you. BTW-Congrats!
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  • jbatchjbatch member
    I run a daycare and there would be no hard feelings.. Tell her if you ever need care again and she has space she would be the first person you'd call..


    I have a Daughter born 2/26/2013. She is pretty much amazing!


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  • shakinrosshakinros member
    I'd probably feel bad too because that's the kind of person I am, but objectively, you're not doing anything wrong. You're giving more than enough notice. Frankly, I wouldn't give more than a month. She and her business will be fine!
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