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Frustration - normal? excessive?

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DD is getting more and more frustrated lately.  I know at this age (23 months) they don't really know how to deal with it very well, but it just seems kind of excessive to me since I don't really have anything to compare it to.  I've seen the whole fall to the floor and cry / scream thing, and that's what I think of when I think of terrible 2's and tantrums.  But, recently, DD has begun yelling, like - serious yelling, NO, while making a crazy angry face and almost whole body shaking.  She looks so aggravated!  And I get that she doesn't know how to express her anger, but I feel like this might be a bit too much frustration for such a little tyke!  Do your LOs do this; any tips for helping her better handle her frustration, or do I just let her get it out now and know that it will pass as she learns and experiences more? 
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Re: Frustration - normal? excessive?

  • blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member
    We get "Stop Mommy" or "Stop Daddy" with his little hand out and tears streaming down his face.

    They're working out the kinks.  I let him be frustrated when he needs to be.  If he needs help calming down I'm there for that too.  This morning it was because DH went to walk the dog without him.  He went running down the hall, and when I tried to follow I got the "stop" hand and then he threw himself on the floor, crying.  I told him that I would let him be, but if he wanted me, I'd be in my room.   DH and I rarely do this kind of behavior, so I'm pretty sure it's something they grow out of as they develop.
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  • KaylaC0514KaylaC0514
    Sounds normal. I agree that the best thing is to not react to it. I would try to teach them to talk about what's upsetting them or ask for your help calmly and that you basically won't listen to their screaming so hopefully they will see that it gets them no where and they won't continue.
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  • bumpuser9353653bumpuser9353653 member
    We haven't gotten to that stage yet, but it sounds normal to me. Whenever DD starts to get frustrated with something and start a tantrum, we just try to reinforce what she's feeling by saying something like "I know you're frustrated because that toy is too heavy to pick up" or "It makes you sad that you can't have that cookie, doesn't it?"  That way she starts to understand what she's feeling and hopefully it helps her in the long run.
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  • AlmostMrsIAlmostMrsI member
    Totally normal.  We've got all that plus head-banging as an added bonus when he gets mad.  Not fun at all, but MIL said it best "there's a reason they call it the terrible twos and not the adorable twos or the sweet twos".  She says DH was a holy terror at that age and she sees a lot of him in DS.  LOL
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  • ns1ns1 member
    Thanks a ton for the replies! It's nice (not for us I guess) to hear we're not alone. Good ideas too. I pretty much do a lot of that. But I should probably stick to it more!
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  • &orchid&&orchid& member
    Out of curiosity, anybody try the happiest toddler on the block methods? I read the book at it makes sense but my 1 year old isn't quite there yet.
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