Very unhappy mommy. UPDATE

RK125 · September 2013

I get discharged from the hospital today. Yay! However, my dd does not. She's getting a course of antibiotics (I had a fever during labor). She'll go home on Sunday. I can visit the nursery any time I want, but I've cried pretty much all day knowing she's not coming home today. Any encouraging words from BTDT moms?

Eta: She could come home today!! I was told this morning that she only has one dose of her meds left! YAY! Either way she's coming home tomorrow. Thanks for all your encouraging words! They really helped the last 4 days go by!

cinderin · September 2013

I am sorry. I cannot imagine how you must feel. :-(

krb03 · September 2013

I'm sorry she isn't going home with you today, I know it is tough! DD1 was in the NICU for 8 days. It was tough going back & forth and trying to be with her and our son. I cried a lot the first few days. However, we did notice one benefit...you will have a few days to recuperate & rest up before she gets home-take advantage of it!

southernmama8813 · September 2013

So sorry. That must be so hard.

tanabeans · September 2013

I'm sorry

I can't offer any advice cuz I haven't been there but def what pp said about getting rest and recuperate

LJUTCMommy · September 2013

So sorry, that's tough. On the bright side, at least you can see her whenever you want. T & P.

MMS88 · September 2013

We went through the same thing with DS two years ago. I know its hard and very emotional to leave without baby but just remember it is what is best for LO. No one should have to leave their LO behind but some just need a little extra help and are in the best hands. And you may be able to "rest" or "sleep" but you never really do.

pb&jojo · September 2013

Silver lining--catch up on some sleep until she can come home

kahlan82 · September 2013

I am so sorry. our LO spent 2 weeks in the NICU for an infection and meconium aspiration. He came home August 18th. It was so hard coming home without him. We went 3 times a day to see him and so I could breastfeed. When I was at home, I pumped so we could take milk up to him and then my hubby and I kept busy. We went out to dinner and had some 'at-home' date nights. Pumping made me feel like I was still providing for him and the date nights helped distract us. Every day it got easier. Hang in there. What I kept telling myself was, "They know what is wrong and they can fix it. He will come home." In that way, we were blessed. There was another baby in the NICU that had been there a month, it helped me keep things in perspective. You will make it through.

studyinpink · September 2013

So sorry!

laurafish · September 2013

I'm in that boat right now. I had DS on Aug 28 and he went in the NICU that night with an infection. Lots of confusion at first as to what was wrong and they told us first it would only be 5 days, then when my placenta tests came back with an infection it turned into 10 days and now it's a full 14 to finish his antibiotics.

He won't come home till Sept. 11

but I was able to get a room at the hospital so I can breastfeed on demand. If too many moms come in to deliver I can get kicked out so fingers are crossed that doesn't happen.

The first three days were rough when we didn't know what was going on. Discharge day was no fun but knowing he is taken care of and where he needs to be is helping. PM me if you need to talk- I get it.

Lovehavinggirls · September 2013

Hugs. Dd1 was I'm the nicu and we went to visit her 3x a day and spent the rest of the time getting things at
home ready and recuperating from my
Csection. Make sure you are taking care of yourself. I know it's hard but just remember she is in the best place and will be home wit you soon.

TurtleMomma · September 2013

Some facilities have family rooms you can reserve that have beds in them so you can stay overnight. Maybe look into that? I stayed in one at our hospital and it was nice being able to roll out of bed and have LO be just steps away.

lydsyjane · September 2013

My LO had to stay an extra three days after I was discharged, but I was able to stay in the same room and get meals, etc like normal. I was just discharged on paper, basically. Is there something like that you could do?

RK125 · September 2013

Thanks ladies! Today was very hard. I got to go back and do her "dinner" feeding. That made me feel much better. My hospital does do a "hotel" program where you can stay if there's room for no charge...also no meals. You get kicked out if e room is needed. I can also nurse in an empty room and spend as much time as I want in that room as well.
I decided to go home and make sure I was comfortable doing every day things due to having an emergency c-section. So I thought it was best for my dh and I to get our routine down while she was still there. We plan on making 3 trips a day to see her.
I was ok with anything that needed to go on at the hospital. I just never planned on coming home without her.
Thanks for the support.

Alicia1111 · September 2013

I am so sorry LO isn't going home with you!! I'm sure that's tough, try to get some sleep while LO has amazing nurses taking care of her

carrotcake06 · September 2013

My boys spent 13 days in the NICU. Going home without them was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I cried the whole way home.

But as pp said, pumping actually made me feel productive an was something I could control. I spent all day there, but had to come home in the evenings to be with my oldest (whos in daycare all day).

They've been home for 8w now and while I'll always have that experience, it gets less and less "raw" every day as I see them get bigger, stay healthy, and I recover from my c/s (and their traumatic birth).

Hoping the days pass quickly for you.

JBrooks315 · September 2013

So sorry

I hope your LO gets better soon. Just know you can see her anytime, and she will be home soon. *Hugs*

MommyBolty · September 2013

So sorry to hear this! She's getting the right care that she needs though. Hoping she doesn't have to stay long!

LilMissScareAll · September 2013

We had to leave our son in NICU for a couple days. Walking out of the hospital without him was one of the hardest and most painful things I've ever had to do.

Luckily, my hospital allowed visits round the clock except for during their morning & evening shift changes. My husband & I would go twice a day to visit. I was pumping at home & using the hospital pump while I was visiting him so after 2 days he no longer needed to be supplemented with formula. The NICU also had a video feed that we could long into and we could look in on him anytime we weren't there, which was amazingly comforting. We were lucky that he only had to be in NICU for a couple days, there were a few babies there that the nurses were saying would be 80-90 days.

Just remember this is only a minor setback in the grand scheme of things. Your little girl will be home with you in no time. She just needs a little extra TLC at the moment. Take this time to get some rest and recover.

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