so tired of lying!

Re: so tired of lying!

• LilacStar11 member

  September 2013

  Yep, dont want to lie to anyone either but we I am not comfortable sharing just yet due to the complications in prior pregnancies.  I am going on vacation for a week with my parents as well in about a week.  Still not sure how I am going to pull that one off!
  

                           
  

  
  

  

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• mandiroze member

  September 2013

  We are hoping not to tell anyone until about 20 weeks, so I'm going to have to conceal the belly really well.  This is my second pregnancy and during my first, it didn't have an obvious belly until about that point. But they say you show with subsequent pregnancies early, so we'll see!
  

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• railroadRN member

  September 2013

  I don't know if I can hide it for much longer! After stopping phentermine and now having so much bloat and tension in my stomach, it is already hard to try to hide this. 4 weeks ago I was so thin and my clothes were very loose and now it's all I can do to fit into my pants. My stomach sticks out so much, and although I know I'm not "showing" with a baby, I definitely have a bloat bump. After hearing the heartbeat, we may tell people. I know 8 weeks is early, but I was already getting questioned at 4 weeks. I'm starting to wonder if it's multiples.
  

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• map94612 member

  September 2013

  I am 11 weeks and I have started to tell some people, just close friends and family.  I also had to tell my boss because I kept missing work to attend appointments. Also, if something were to happen, these are the people that I would want to know in order to be there for me.  In my job, I have a lot of clients and I haven't told them yet. I'm not sure how I am going to do that yet... but I have been wearing looser shirts and a Bella Band to try to hide it a little while longer.  

  
  

  You are totally right though, the wait is hard!

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• msronzio member

  September 2013

  @Westoe19 I'm so sorry for your loss. You make a very good point. I've had a lot of women say that they wish they'd kept it to themselves, however I haven't heard the other side of the fence. I guess in different social circles it can go different ways. My parents and DH's parents and I are very close so we could NOT keep it a secret. We were acting totally weird already. In our case though, had we lost LO, we probably would have wanted to grieve privately and reveal on our own terms. Best wishes and prayers to you for a healthy LO.

  
  

  

  

  

  
  

  
  

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• Charleyrose member

  September 2013

  map94612 said:

  I am 11 weeks and I have started to tell some people, just close friends and family.  I also had to tell my boss because I kept missing work to attend appointments. Also, if something were to happen, these are the people that I would want to know in order to be there for me.  In my job, I have a lot of clients and I haven't told them yet. I'm not sure how I am going to do that yet... but I have been wearing looser shirts and a Bella Band to try to hide it a little while longer.  

  
  

  You are totally right though, the wait is hard!

  Can you explain how the belly band works? Is it just like spanx for your stomach to try to hide the bloat? Or is it to keep your pants up and wear them unbuttoned? I am totally confused since it is my first and I have no idea what I am doing. My body is like a science experiment lol!

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• emgs83 member

  September 2013 edited September 2013

  We just hit 5 weeks and it's been hard to conceal from our friends and family.  We are super active and social- so when I turn down an offer for a drink- I get the immediate suspicious look.  I've told the rest of my family that I'm not drinking until my birthday (end of September) Then when I'm 8 weeks and have had our first check up- we can tell them on my birthday!

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• dewood04 member

  September 2013

  First time mom here too and 7 weeks along. My DH and I agreed not to tell anyone, parents included, until 12 weeks. It's getting a little hard as my sister is due with her first in November and I want to share things with her. But I know everyone will be so surprised so the wait will be with it. Many of our family and friends are a bit convinced we nixed the whole having kids portion of life.

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• Karinama98

  September 2013

  With my first pregnancy this year we told our families at around week 7 or 8, and then waited til our 12th week appointment to make sure the baby's heartbeat was good before telling everyone else, which we did on Facebook. Five days later, we lost the baby and had to tell everyone on FB again. I had bleeding throughout the pregnancy, so we were aware that there was something going on.

   

  We just told my family and DH's family - we'll be 9 weeks on Tuesday. But this time around we don't plan on telling our closest friends until week 14-15, and if we put it on FB it'll be around week 20.

  But I agree....this bloating thing is annoying. Also, it's aggravated my IBS a lot, which is annoying to deal with on a daily basis.

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• msronzio member

  September 2013

  @emgs83 Haha, that would have been me too, had I not told everyone right away. Not that I'm a huge drinker, but I love a cold beer on a warm night!

  
  

  

  

  

  
  

  
  

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• jkelly41 member

  September 2013

  I'm pregnant w/my third and I'm obviously pregnant. I don't really care about hiding it but anyone with any sense of social etiquette is not going to ask me if I am.  It really bugs me when people drill others about being pregnant.  They just have no idea that something could go wrong.  I've had m/c, so our theory is to tell anyone I would tell the m/c about and screw everyone else.  Let them think what they want or way what they want.  I say I'm just not feeling well or that I ate to much at lunch/dinner.  Hang in there and I hope you feel better!

   

   

  
  

  
  

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