Anyone not want to be a SAHM?

eyenerd · December 2008

I always thought that i would definitely be a SAHM. I am crafty and like to cook and do all the mom type things......

but I found out after 4mo. of being off that I love my job too! It wasn't an option for me to SAH, so lucky for me that the transition hasn't been nearly as awful as i heard it would be.

I am fortunate to work 4 days a week only now, and we only need daycare for 2.5 days. Ideally i wish i had off one more day a week, but I think I would go crazy if I didn't have my job as an outlet.

Anyone else like working too?

JGirl2005 · December 2008

I plan to return to work, but I always could change my mind. I like working.

I feel guilty because we don't really need the money. I could be a SAHM if I wanted, but I make nearly as much as DH.

face090906 · December 2008

I'm not back to work yet but I'm really enjoying staying at home. If I could I would like to work 3 days a week and SAH the other 2 but it's not an option for us :-( I guess I just wish I had a choice and wasn't forced to work.

ela81 · December 2008

I never thought I would want to give up my career. I always thought it would be cool to work part time but these past 2 months have been so awesome I do not want to go back to work! I'm lucky to have my mom near by. Dd screams almost everytime we are in the car so if I have a lot to do (outside the house) I take her to my moms, my mom loves it and I get done what I need to! Having my mom close keeps the stress way down. I need to win the lotto!

candm · December 2008

For me, I think the perfect situation would be to work 2 days a week. I WOH 4 days a week now and will drop to 3 soon. Between my and DH's schedules we only have a 2-day/week nanny, which isn't perfect, but not the worst thing either.

JillRock96 · December 2008

I love my field, and I really like my current job (my internship to finish my masters degree). I am also really craft, love to cook and do "domestic" things. And of course I love spending time with Ava. Even though it will kill me to leave her in a few weeks when I go back to work, I am also looking forward to the adult interaction and, like I said, I love what I do. It wasn't an option for me to stay home since we need my income, but I do think that my working will benefit both me and Ava. I love that she will have interaction with someone other than myself and my husband every day. The nanny that we are going to hire (I'm doing reference checks right now) is so energetic and creative -- I know that Ava will really bond with her as she grows.

mcppalmbeach · December 2008

I am beginning to wonder. After a lay-off, I took "early" maternity. I was planning on taking at least a year off after the baby comes and making my decisions from there. Obviously w/out the baby being here it's hard to say how I will feel, but I do kind of miss working (CANNOT BELIEVE I am saying that). What I pray for is that I continue to have the option to make whatever decisions make me and DS happiest. We shall see...

Mr.&MrsS · December 2008

I was just like you...I always thought I would want to be a SAHM. But we really couldnt afford for me not to work. But now that I am back I actually like it! I think I would go a little stir crazy if I was home 7 days a week. Thankfully I work from home 2 days a week and DS only has to go to day care 3 days a week, so it is kind of the best of both worlds. Of course there are times I get stressed at work and wish I could stay home with DS and not have to worry about other things...but I really dont mind going to work. (But if we hit the lottery I would quit and stay home in a second!!)

trinny · December 2008

I think I'd feel better about going back to work if I liked my job. It is going to be really hard to leave my baby (who I know I will LOVE) to go to a job I HATE! Fingers crossed the economy won't be so horrible this spring when I'm trying to find something else.

jsusann · December 2008

I wish I could work but having three kids (soon) will not warrant me to work. And to be honest, my daughter is 2 and a half right now and we are best buddies. As much as I miss the working world and making money, I don't think I'd have the heart to tear myself away from her. We have too much fun together and I'd feel like I was missing out working 40+ hours. I do work a little bit for my BIL's businesses but it's not in an office with other people. I miss my coworker's that used to make me laugh so hard I would cry...but on the other hand I don't miss the corporate bullsh*t and not being appreciated. Being at home with Lilly can't compare to being in an office everyday. My husband and I talk about how the time will fly with the three of them, very fast. It won't be long before they are all in school and then I'll have time to work again. As much as I miss work, I couldn't give up these precious years with my babies.

roaringrock · December 2008

for now I have to work but when DH FINALLY starts practicing he would like for me to be a SAHM. my thoughts? no way. I've worked very hard to get my name established in my industry and I love all (most of) my clients. I enjoy having my own business and independence. I'm happier too when I'm working.

I also like all the "mom type" things. in a perfect world I would work 2-3 days a week but I'm not so sure this is possible. clients can be very demanding. we shall see what happens when we bring in child number 2.

to be continued.

LilSurferGirl · December 2008

I was actually looking forward to going back to work after 6 months at home. I love my boys, but I was going a bit stir crazy and missed the adult interaction. I'm lucky to have a job I like and a company that has been very flexible with my hours since I returned. We have a great nanny that the boys love - but lately I've actually been thinking more and more about wanting to be a SAHM. I have to work for now while DH finishes law school and studies for the bar, but once he's done and working, I'm really debating whether I could stay home full time or if I'd go crazy. Ideally I'd like to work 2-3 days a week, but that's not really an option with my current job and I'd hate to have to work somewhere else I probably wouldn't like as much. So I'm pretty torn right now.

gymrat · December 2008

I like going to work - not necessarily to do my actual job, but I like the people I work with and I need a break. Ideally, I wish I could work part time but we need the money.

bmf8140 · December 2008

I wish I could job-share and work half days. I think I'd go nuts at home all day w/o adult interaction, BUT I'd love to be around for all of the milestones.

Luckily I do get summers off!

Amy Schramm · December 2008

Me. ?I definitely could not stay at home. ?I also could not work full-time. ?I've got a good situation, I think. ?I am going back to work 3 days/week in January when DS is almost 5 months old and we have inhome nanny care for him. ?

I thought I could stay at home but I need adult interaction and like my job. ??

krissybegs · December 2008

If I could work 3 days a week, I think that would perfect. I work 5 days a week now (company going through a transition and not the time to ask to go to fewer days a week) and it is too much. I don;t need to work for the money - I need to work for my own sanity and DH's. I was a crazy person waiting for him to come home so I had someone to talk to.

pirate-elle · December 2008

I'm going back to work 3 days a week in January. By then, I'll have been off for 14 months as a SAHM with DD. I miss the adult interaction and intellectual challenge of my job, and I know DD needs the interaction with other kids that her daycare provides her. I also didn't want to give up my income, and the things it lets us do. I'm very lucky and think I've found the perfect situation for us.

Amy720 · December 2008

I don't have the option to stay at home. We need my paycheck. I'm a teacher and I have a teaching degree and a BA in English. I went back to school to get my Master's and Specialist Degree. I feel like I need to put them to use. Also, I've been teaching for 9 years and because of my degrees, I make twice as much money as I did when I started.

My mom and husband takes care of Ben while I work and I'm home by 3:45-4:00 every day, plus I have a lot of breaks and all summer off.

macschic · December 2008

Me! I never wanted to be a sahm. I am on maternity leave right now and have actually have gone into the office for a few meetings. My career is very rewarding to me and would be hard to give up.

rach1015 · December 2008

First off, your siggy pics are precious! ?

I never thought I'd want to SAH, but then I had DD and went back to work and it was so hard even though my mom had her 2 of the 5 days a week that I was working. ?It just didn't seem like we were getting much time together because of the drive home from work , picking her up, getting home and trying to get dinner and bath in, and then it was time for her to go to bed. ?

I have been fortunate enough to work it out with my job to where I am now hourly (didn't affect any benefits as DD and I are on DH's insurance) and only go into the office on Mondays and Fridays and WFH on Tues, Wed, and Thurs. ?I save working until DH gets home on those days. ?We have taken a loss on my income because I'm not getting 40 hours every week, but we aren't paying anyone to watch her those 3 days and we're also saving by me not having to drive the 50 miles per day for work. ??

desabean · December 2008

Well, I wish I was at home today but generally speaking-- I think I will want to go back to work. I am not going to speak in absolutes, I realize lots of people make plans and having that baby makes them reconsider (though I'm not sure we can afford for me to be a SAHM and still have the same lifestyle we have-- not that its anything special). However, I am proud of the work I do and I don't think I would be able to make up the time missed out of the workforce when I chose to go back and I might be resentful of that. Honestly if I were to sah, I would think it would be more valuable to my kids to have me sah after they started school so I could know what they were getting into, help them get to practice, etc., know who their friends are, etc.

AudNicole · December 2008

I won't be a SAHM. I worked hard to get where I am, and, well, frankly, I make more than DH. There is a good possibility he'll be a SAHD at some point.

Rose.9.6.03 · December 2008

I stayed home for the first year and half, but I was ready to go back after 3 months.

I'm very blessed to be able to work part time (20 hours) with a flexible schedule. I have a very nice family/work balance right now.

kathy34 · December 2008

I wish more companies would look at part-time workers, job share and work from home situations. I don't want to work 40 hours a week with a young child. However, I know I would really miss the adult interaction and work I do. Like most people who responded I would LOVE to work part-time with a flexible schedule. There just aren't a lot of options out there for that right now.

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