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Feeling like a failure

camdensmom32camdensmom32 member
in April 2013 Moms
I just feel like I'm doing everything wrong as a mother! I love my son to death but I feel like I have the fussiest baby ever!! Other moms talk about how their baby is so happy or how they hardly ever cry. Or the moms who talk about how their LO's sleep through the night. My DS is not happy most of the time and certainly does not sleep through the night!! I try to read stuff about how to help with naps/bedtime and I just get overwhelmed and feel like I'm really doing everything so wrong!! Ugh...just needed to vent!!! I guess I'm trying my best as a FTM! He's healthy and growing like crazy so I must be doing something right.
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Re: Feeling like a failure

  • ClandestineXClandestineX member
    edited August 2013
    I think it is one of the phase things that all babies go through, some shorter or longer than others. I say Connor's crankiness is because of his teething because when it is really bad and I give him tylenol he gets a little less cranky, but still not his happy self that he had been since being born. He still smiles and laughs a lot.. just he whines most of the time now. I tell everyone he is teething and they give me this look of "Poor girl I am so sorry." 

    You are not a failure, your baby is growing and I know he is happy sometimes, hopefully he will get more happy for you soon... but I am willing to bet he will probably be one of the happiest boys when he gets a bit older! =)
     
     
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  • MandmeeshMandmeesh member
    I'm with @letranger...those moms are liars. You are not a failure. You and LO are both figuring life out together. It will get better! And FTR, M isn't happy all the time. I walked around the grocery store like a crazy person making all sorts of noises and faces to keep him happy while shopping yesterday. Lol
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    Mandmeesh said:

    I'm with @letranger...those moms are liars. You are not a failure. You and LO are both figuring life out together. It will get better! And FTR, M isn't happy all the time. I walked around the grocery store like a crazy person making all sorts of noises and faces to keep him happy while shopping yesterday. Lol

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  • camdensmom32camdensmom32 member
    Thanks ladies. You have made me feel better!! It's just tough some days! Some days I read on here how other moms are talking about how great and happy their babies are and I'm like man what am I doing wrong?! Haha! DS is happy sometimes just seems fussy most of the time...which I know will eventually pass...I hope! :)
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  • suedellsuedell member
    Let me tell you, my ds1 was the crankiest baby in the universe! I used to feel the same way. It too us a while to find out groove and we also needed a lot of sleep training. He's still needs lots of sleep to be his best and he's still intense sometimes, but what 3 year old isnt? Ds2 is much happier and overall a lot less moody so I am not lying when I say that ds2 is a happy baby. But try not to compare your baby with others. You are doing the best you can and I can tell you from experience it gets a lot better!!
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  • jss1482jss1482 member
    Don't beat yourself up, that's why they coined the phrase, 'kids don't come with a handbook'- I am a FTM too and have spent many a nights laying awake, worrying about if I am doing the right thing or comparing Paige to other kids I know or read about... Then don't even get me started on the ole evil google that really makes me second guess everything, I am slowly but surely letting myself roll with the punches. Do the best you know how, love your baby till no end and try to shrug off the comparisons and as the others say I believe it gets easier... Hang in there momma, your a great mom and your son is beautiful!
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  • Lhyacinth888Lhyacinth888 member
    My parents and mil seriously thought there was something wrong with my baby and still might... lol because she cried so much. She always seemed miserable. I felt like she started to get better at 4 months. You aren't a failure. Every baby is different and some are more vocal than others. I felt that my DD had an immature digestive system and she was not processing foods quite effectively. She had such bad gas and stomach problems. She has gotten so much better lately though. Hang in there, you can do it! Luckily too he won't remember any of this time and won't be damaged for life or anything. Sounds like you are doing the best you can and that is all we can do.
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  • Erin10408Erin10408 member
    JSS1002 said:
    You are loving and taking care of your son -- that means you are a WONDERFUL mother!  You're not doing anything wrong. Babies go through phases-- some are long, some are short. This too shall pass.

    (however, I don't like the "those women are lying" accusation. That's rude.)
    This totally. And I also thing the "those women are lying" accusation is uncalled for, and untrue. Hang in there...you are a great mom
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