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Guilt for voluntary 2nd csection?

laurenluckettlaurenluckett member
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Has anyone else with a repeat section have someone or more than one someone try to make you feel guilty for having a repeat section? My dad thinks that drs prey on young moms into having csections so they can make more money. Some girls I know also pry as to why I don't want to have a vbac this time. I didn't have complications with my first just they thought my dd was going to be huge. Now my dr and I discussed a repeat and I don't really have any interest in a vbac this time. Anyone else feel guilty for having a "voluntary" csection?
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  • Kim22Kim22 member
    I did not feel bad at all. I had no interest in a VBAC. I recently had a friend who had a successful VBAC suggest I change doctors for a VBAC2C, no thanks! I know the risk of rupture is small but I would have a heck of a lot more guilt about that then a c section. I did not comment at all to this friend when she chose VBAC because it was none of my business so I don't know why she is so worried about my choice. You do what you are comfortable with.
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  • Brandyjean30Brandyjean30 member
    I have been thinking about this since I had my last c/s. I got a lot of grief for having a c/s even though in really didn't have a choice (dd was breach and went into labor before turning her was decided). MIL had a vbac and thinks everyone should. My C/S went so smoothly, my recovery was easier than SIL who had a vaginal delivery, and I get to know my exact due date. I feel like a RCS is my best choice and I'm not going to let anyone make me feel guilty for it.
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    Your dad is wrong. My dr made the same amount whether I had a cs or vaginal birth.
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  • clrgrdfrkclrgrdfrk member

    My sister was going to try for a vbac but ended up with a second cs due to a plecental abruption.

     

    I will most likely opt for a second cs rather than try for a vbac but idk for sure. I know my ob would push for a cs but if I found a doctor who was supportive and reassuring with a vbac approach I might reconsider.

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  • cmytutucmytutu member
    I elected for mine and I'm no less of a parent for it.  Tell everyone else to shove it.  It's your body and your decision.
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  • bingbongsmamabingbongsmama member
    edited September 2013
    I thought about doing a vbac but the risks to me and the baby aren't worth it to me. Nothing to feel guilty about
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  • SuperSecretStatusSuperSecretStatus member
    Nope, no guilt at all. I wish they would have listened to me with my first pregnancy and given me one then instead of making me go through labor unnecessarily.
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  • MA&CBMA&CB member
    I don't feel guilty at all.  I'm not a good candidate for a VBAC, but even if I were, I'd still be having a repeat c-section.  My hospital doesn't do VBAC's so I'd have to travel.  I also just can't stand the thought of having another terrible  36 hours of labor only to end in a c-section again, emotionally I wouldn't tolerate it well.  My c-section recovery was easy, and I like knowing when the baby is coming for work and to plan for my son. 
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  • WorcbrideWorcbride member
    Fortunately no--I walked into my OB office and immediately said "I don't want a VBAC so don't ask" :-)  I had a great experience with my first C-section.  I had people ask if I was going to have a repeat and my response was "hell yes."  I have a strong personality so maybe they criticized me behind my back but no one did it to my face--everyone is entitled to their opinions but ultimately it was my and my DH's decision.
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  • Eleventy11Eleventy11 member
    SuperSecretStatus said:

    Nope, no guilt at all. I wish they would have listened to me with my first pregnancy and given me one then instead of making me go through labor unnecessarily.

    This. The first thing out of my mouth to my doctor with #2 was "Can we go ahead and schedule my c-section?" There is no way in hell I would ever attempt a vaginal birth again. I had great c-sections with super easy recoveries.
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