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mac&chip1mac&chip1 member
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Just want to introduce myself (as well as surround myself with other OADers).

I had my daughter in January 2012. Several days later, I was diagnosed with post-partum cardio myopathy. I won't go into lots of medical details, but I had pregnancy-induced congestive heart failure, my heart still isn't functioning normally and another pregnancy would most likely kill me. Even if I did fully recover, I'd still be at risk, and there's no way I ever want to go through that again. So, my husband got a V, and we've been preparing ourselves for the OAD world ever since.

Most of the time, I am really excited about the OAD family structure – all the opportunities it allows my daughter, as well as the freedoms it allows me. Plus, even if I was healthy, I don't think my marriage could survive a second. 

There are definitely still rough days, but they are thankfully happening less frequently (several only child books have helped greatly with that).

Looking forward to getting to know you ladies more. While I know being OAD is fairly common, it isn't where I'm at – so it's nice to be in a group where we dominate.
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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member
    Hey there, glad you joined us.
    I'm sure it's more tough when the decision is sort of made for you, but I'm glad it's gotten better with time.  How scary for you!

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    (+ hers and his, ages 13 & 8)
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  • MAtoNCMAtoNC member
    Welcome! That sounds really scary. I know what you mean about being in the minority. We are where we live, as well. 
    Married 4/12/08 DS born 11/17/2009 via c-section at 39 weeks. 11/12/2011 BFP #2!! m/c 7w5d. 2/28/2012 BFP #3 Beta #1-12dpo = 18; Beta #2-16dpo = 185; Beta #3-18dpo = 505. EDD 11/10/2012. Ectopic discovered at 5w4d. D&C followed by methotrexate.
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  • firewife9278firewife9278 member
    Hey! I know you :) Welcome to OAD!

     
    A+S | Met 8/24/06 | Married 9/27/08
    Started TTC 12/2008 | dx PCOS 5/2009
    6 failed clomid/femara/TI cycles, 1 failed clomid/ovidrel/IUI cycle
    Successful Cycle: 5/12/11 - 1000mg Metformin + 100mg Clomid(late response) + TI = BFP

    2/13/12 - We proudly welcomed our daughter, Hadley Teresa!
    Lots of Luck to all of 3T/IF

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    Welcome!

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  • mac&chip1mac&chip1 member
    firewife9278 said:
    Hey! I know you :) Welcome to OAD!
    Hello fellow 212er. :)
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  • legalbeagle1legalbeagle1 member
    Hi!  Welcome!  I can't imagine how scary that must have been, but good for you for starting the path of embracing the OAD lifestyle. I completely understand not thinking your marriage could survive a second.  I am pretty sure mine couldn't either.
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