3rd Trimester

I feel like a bad parent!

I have an almost 5 year old DD and she is driving me NUTS!!!!! I can't sleep, I can't eat, I can't sit....without an attachment to my hip. I'm 35 weeks and slightly over being pregnant. The round ligament pain, the braxton hicks, the inability to roll over at night without excruciating pain,etc etc. the exhaustion has taken over my life and I feel like a bad mommy!!! Despite the fact that this child never seems to be satisfied with anything....EVER!!! Ok I'm done...thanks for listening!

Re: I feel like a bad parent!

  • Don't feel bad that's how it is with my 3 year old dd
    BFP 11/24/2012 - EDD 08/02/2012 - MC 11/28/2012 @ 4w5d
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  • I decided to let others take care of my 11 Mo old when I hit 30 weeks (twins).  I'm glad she is with people who aren't miserable but i hate that she barely sees me:(
    After three miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy we are currently pursuing adoption. " Born not from our flesh, but born in our heart. You were longed for and wanted and loved from the start."
  • Please don't feel bad. Any of us with younger kids completely understands. My 3yr old watches way too much TV, but I know it's just for a short whole longer.

    Hang in there!

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  • I'm a FTM, so I can't really say that I've been there, but don't feel like a bad parent. I don't think that anyone here would side-eye or blame you for being frustrated. 

    Tonight, after she goes to bed, take some you time. It sounds like you need it.
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  • Thank you all!!  

    I needed some understanding support!
  • Awwww give her the attention while u can. Your LO will be here very soon and u will b wishing u have more time with her. She's also probably a little scared about having a new baby take her place
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  • Awwww give her the attention while u can. Your LO will be here very soon and u will b wishing u have more time with her. She's also probably a little scared about having a new baby take her place
    I have that same thought going through my head which is why I push through the exhaustion, but some days (today) it's just too much for my body to handle.  Trying to do it all with little to no energy gets frustrating.  
  • maybe this is a week 35 thing lol. I'm in your shoes with a 3 and 6 year old, I've been so irritable lately and I feel like a jerk for being so thankful that at least the oldest goes back to school tomorrow so things will be a little less crazy around here. 
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  • shit I don't know how I would do it!! this is my first i'm over 40 and kudos for even trying for another one!! you'll be ok none of us are always going to be the perfect mommy all the time. do your best to be compassionate with yourself and that will help your child. you don't stop being a human because you're going to have a baby - somehow I believed becoming a mom was going to change everything but you're still  you struggling in similar ways except now there's another person!! good luck
  • You are not a bad parent!!  That is exhausting.  This time will be over soon and things will be more manageable when you're not carrying a giant bowling ball around inside you.

    You're human.  Your daughter knows you love her, and this too shall pass.


  • ktpaladinoktpaladino member
    edited October 2013
    You can only do what your body can physically handle and you should not be having any feelings of guilt over that. I'm 22 weeks, and the debilitating fatigue that I thought would go away by now is stubbornly sticking with me. I've got an 18 month old constantly tugging on my arm to get off the couch and sometimes I just can't do it. I just try to make sure we get out and do something fun on my good days, like visit grandma, go to the park, or getting a frozen yogurt treat. Usually when we make it out of the house we only stay out for a short while like 30 min to an hour, but it's enough to break up the day, use up some of his never-ending energy, and get some fresh air! Enlist your family and friends to help as much as possible in these last few weeks. GL!

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