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Just Couldn't Do It

jkuhmannjkuhmann member
in February 2013 Moms

Before LO was born, I said he would sleep in our room in the PNP until three months, and then I would move him to the crib in his room.  Three months came and went, and when DH asked why the baby was still in our room, I cited something I saw on the AAP website about it lowering the SIDS risk if he stayed in our room until he was six months old.  So, we got back from vacation last night, and I said I would start crib training tonight.  Except...I didn't.  I couldn't do it.  A big part of me wants my bedroom to myself/ourselves again, but there's a part of me that just can't handle that he won't be nearby anymore. 

Ugh...it's totally me.  It just makes me sad and I don't want to do it.  But at least he did one of his naps in his room today...that's a step in the right direction, right?  Any advice for getting myself over the emotional hurdle?  We have a video monitor that works great (I have used it at practices when LO sleeps in the director's office) but even that doesn't alleviate my discomfort with the idea.  And my mom always reminds me that not one of us spent a single night in her bedroom - we slept in our cribs in our rooms from day 1.  What is wrong with me?!

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Re: Just Couldn't Do It

  • kelly321kelly321 member
    DD1 was in our room until she was 8 months old. When we got back from a trip, instead of putting her back in our room, we moved her crib to her room. The first 2 nights I slept in her room on a mattress next to the bed to ease the transition. Honestly, I don't even think she noticed the change!! There's nothing saying you have to move him out of your room, but if you and/or your DH feel rationally that it's time, maybe you could do something similar and put a mattress on the nursery floor for a few nights as a transition?

    FWIW, we had planned to have DD2 in our room for about the same length of time, but we ended up moving her out when she was 5 months old because the "4-month wakeful" was so awful and lasted so long that no one was getting any sleep.

    BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
    BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
    BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

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  • wifeofadamwifeofadam member
    If it doesn't feel right to you, trust your gut and wait.  There is no sense in making yourself miserable unnecessarily. 

        
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  • stephbethpethstephbethpeth member

    We have DD's crib in our room, and I'm not in any hurry to move her to her own room. Even though it's directly across the hall from our room. My mom had all 3 of us kids in her room until we were 12 months. I agree that it would feel like one of my limbs were missing if I couldn't just look over and see her. I'm not even going to worry about it until her first birthday.

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