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New to Toddler daycare

silvie25marsilvie25mar member
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Dd is 17 months and she and we, were lucky enough to have MIL look after her from 12-17 months. Now it's time for daycare 3xweek because it was getting too much for her to handle.
Dd has just finished her transition to daycare which is in the same office building as me and she seems to really like it. No crying (yet) and seems to like being around other people her size. I'm just concerned because she's not really eating the food that they give her. She isn't an overly picky eater but when she doesn't like something there is no forcing her. I have asked the daycare staff if I should bring some of my own food in in case and they said no for now. That usually babies will adapt and follow the other kids as they fully transition in. Is this true do you think? I'm a bit of a nervous mom and I do tend to go peek in on her to see if she's okay. But I have noticed some weird things like her nose was all runny and nobody had wiped it. I know it's not the same level of care as one on one but still. LOL. I also wished that they provided a little report card because I'm OCD and want to know everything she does all day... I know over time my overbearingness will subside but in the meantime help.
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Re: New to Toddler daycare

  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member
    Overall you really need to lighten up :). you say that all signs point to your child adjusting well. Food aside, but that will likely resolve in time. If you continue to be nervous Nelly your child will pick up on that and then you'll be dealing with a child who doesn't want to go to daycare but she senses...from you...that something is wrong. or worse you'll allow her to manipulate you because she'll play on your fears. Children are smart!

    my daughter has a runny nose all the time. I look past that the teachers don't wipe her nose as often as I do. It isn't harming her and it isn't like there is a day's worth of boogies caked on when I pick her up.

    As for providing detailed daily written reports,personally I'd rather the teachers focus be on the children then on filling out paperwork.
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  • silvie25marsilvie25mar member
    I think it's much easier for people to tell you to lighten up. You have to remember that first time moms go through stages as well and adjust to different routines just as babies do. So when you're not providing 100% care all day long of course you're going to wonder what's happening in the daycare and if your child is being 100% attended to. This is just being human. Of course I don't show her I'm nervous, I'd like to think I'm encouraging. The nervousness will pass over time, but in the meantime my question was just a curious one about other people's experiences since this is my first time.
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  • LoCarbLoCarb member
    I agree she will adapt to eating the provided food. Runny noses happen. I bet the DCP wipes but the nose drips again. It's not a huge deal. I would ask about a daily sheet. Create your own and ask them to complete.
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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    I am sure she will begin eating the food over time. She may be too distracted by all her fun new friends to notice she is hungry. DD's teachers provide a daily report, and I find it very helpful. Speak up about the runny nose if it bothers you.
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    silvie25mar said:
    I think it's much easier for people to tell you to lighten up. You have to remember that first time moms go through stages as well and adjust to different routines just as babies do. So when you're not providing 100% care all day long of course you're going to wonder what's happening in the daycare and if your child is being 100% attended to. This is just being human. Of course I don't show her I'm nervous, I'd like to think I'm encouraging. The nervousness will pass over time, but in the meantime my question was just a curious one about other people's experiences since this is my first time.
    Well, I think *you* have to remember that we've all been first time moms going through exactly what you're going through.  It's not meant as a dig at you but being further along in the experience, more experienced mothers can kind of let you know what is and isn't worth getting upset about.  She's letting you know that what you're experiencing is normal and it's no big deal so take a breath and let it all settle.  It WILL settle and you'll find your battles to pick and you'll one day be further along and tell some mother not to sweat a runny nose :)
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  • groovygrlgroovygrl member
    Ditto the others, it is just something that you'll get over but you have to have realistic expectations... I will tell you both my kids eat just about everything daycare serves them (they're 4 & have been in DC since 5 months old) and they will not eat some of those foods at home, like ever. They also behave way better at DC than they do at home and they truly do stop crying within 1 min of us leaving (we've spied & checked, it is true).  She probably picked up a  new germ quickly & got the cold/runny nose, and unless your LO has never had a cold before, you probably know that it just keeps running, you have to wipe it constantly esp at that age when they can't wipe it or sniff themselves so I"m sure they wiped it but they can't wipe one kid's nose every minute of the day, you probably just walked in when it had been a little while.
    Re the daily sheet, when you say you want to know everything she did all day, I'm not sure what your expectations are. Do you mean you want them to write down what toys she played with, every 'activity they did (this craft, that game, played outside, etc)? If so, that is definitely not realistic unless it is a really small DC, think about keeping track of it and writing that type of thing down on all those different kids! More realistic at her age is seeing when/for how long she napped, what she ate & how much (by  how much I mean- a little, a lot, etc, not actual quantities), maybe a comment about her disposition that day and some special thing she enjoyed or something at most. Do you not get any kind of report? I would think you could request something about food & naps. I can't remember when the diapering details stopped on our daily sheets...definitely after age 2 but I can't remember before that.

    Good luck, it's an adjustment for everyone but she'll do great and so will you.
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