Prob something silly to worry about...

Hannie3 · September 2013

FTM may relate more to this. But for you STM + what are you all most worried about?

Personally mines not labour and birth I pretty much never think about it, if anything I'm quite looking forward to the experience I know it will be hideous but I'm 100percent aware of that and believe in my body .... I'm most worried about the sleepless nights and the crying , I like to think I will be fine as my baby girl will be crying cos she needs something and I will of corse be there for her.. But I worry that I will stress out over tiredness and I can be very moody.. I feel bad just thinking about it!! I know it's normal how do you plan to deal?

frankierokx · September 2013

I'm a FTM and I won't lie, I'm scared of the thought of labor, that I won't be able to BF my LO or my relationship with DH will suffer.

I've come to the conclusion that my body will do what it needs to do to get my LO here safe and sound. If I can't BF it's not the end of the world, and I'm just sure I'm being paranoid about our relationship. We have spoken about how we are going to deal with this, and one night a week we will have our date night. Even If that just means a pizza and a good film.

sabriel1 · September 2013

STM here and the thing that I am the most afraid of is how my DD will react to the new baby. She will only be 2 at the time and won't be old enough to fully understand but she will be old enough to understand that she is now sharing me. I am just afraid of her feeling hurt.

Lyzza350 · September 2013

Labor and delivery. And being a good parent as the kid gets older. Not when they are little and the things I need to do are concrete and clear. Feed the baby hug the baby change the baby etc. But when the kid is older and good parenting takes work and its easy to be lazy. When the decisions are not so clear and concrete.

cammyisagirlsname · September 2013

I worry about the sleeping thing too. So I'm sleeping (or at least trying to!) as much as possible now, while I still can!

notkateanymore · September 2013

I'm most worried about how the baby will disrupt everybody's sleep in the house. Our rental house is small and has paper thin walls and DH and I don't usually sleep together bc he snores, so this will be interesting.

Hannie3 · September 2013

Glad I'm not the only one... See I'm up during the night anyway due to needing the toilet and oh my lord don't even get me started on the pain in my back!!! Anyway I just know it will be diff as I can't just get up and go back to sleep I will have to then cater for a crying baby!! I pray I can manage okay and I'm just being paranoid

tatianaazulay · September 2013

I am most worried about the sleep too... I'm used to having a lot of time to myself and I know things will change... Of course I am super happy about the baby , but that doesn't make me less scared!

MurMom1028 · September 2013

holly1416 said:
STM here and the thing that I am the most afraid of is how my DD will react to the new baby. She will only be 2 at the time and won't be old enough to fully understand but she will be old enough to understand that she is now sharing me. I am just afraid of her feeling hurt.

This is my biggest fear exactly.

crazyblessedmamma · September 2013

holly1416 said:
STM here and the thing that I am the most afraid of is how my DD will react to the new baby. She will only be 2 at the time and won't be old enough to fully understand but she will be old enough to understand that she is now sharing me. I am just afraid of her feeling hurt.

This. We were at a family gathering yesterday and I was holding my cousins 5 week old baby.... my son didn't react very well, tried pulling the baby off my lap and had an all out tantrum on the floor. We ignored it and when he was done he got on my lap with the baby, but just put his head on my shoulder and clung to my arm with his back to the baby. We have some fun times ahead of us I think....

Edit to add, my son will be 20 months when his brother arrives

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

I'm worried about getting another non sleeper. Our first was a nightmare. Never more than 3hrs at a time and no naps during the 1st 18 months. It was stressful on DH and I and our marriage. However I hope if we do get that again we will be more prepared and will be able to deal with it.

MissyC979 · September 2013

I'm nervous about the lack of sleep. I don't do we'll with less
Than 7-8 hours. I'm also nervous about making time for DS when I'm busy with a baby. Oh and $$ to a certain extent for daycare, college funds, etc

mamaj1220 · September 2013

I'm worried about just not knowing. As a FTM I feel like I have so many questions and I'm not sure what's going to change other than the obvious

amgreiman · September 2013

MurMom1028 said:

holly1416 said:
STM here and the thing that I am the most afraid of is how my DD will react to the new baby. She will only be 2 at the time and won't be old enough to fully understand but she will be old enough to understand that she is now sharing me. I am just afraid of her feeling hurt.
This is my biggest fear exactly.

This times a thousand.

KFiori1 · September 2013

Third time mom here. I am most worried about how DD1 will react. DS was 2 when she was born and we had 0 issues with him adjusting. It was great. But DD1's personality is complete opposite. She's quite the demanding/needy child and is 100% obsessed with me, so I don't think she is going to handle things very well. But it is what it is. We will see!

HerbanMom · September 2013

Third timer here, eh I still have minor little labor and delivery worries here and there but I just try to focus more on my hypnobirthing stuff and tell myself I've done it before I can do it again. My fears definitely have to do with my two boys and their adjustment to everything. They are so sweet but they don't understand the family dynamics and how different they are, they talk about taking the baby to their grandparents house on their fathers weekends (ex lives with his parents). They know that the baby is SO and my baby but I don't think they wrap their heads around everything. And I don't ever want them to feel left out or that I don't love them just as much.

peitri · September 2013

DH and I have talked about when LO is here, as FTparents, what it's going to be like going from each other's #1 person in life to #2. It's not something we can even imagine right now, but we both know it's going to happen when we hold our little girl for the first time. That's what I am worried about the most.

ladameperdue · September 2013

Is it weird that I am actually looking forward to experiencing labor? (STMs feel free to laugh, totally fair). But it's such a unique experience to being a woman and and something I have wondered about since childhood. What I am scared about is the pain of breast feeding. I remember my mother sobbing in pain and my baby sister screaming. Not a good memory.

ladameperdue · September 2013

peitri said:
DH and I have talked about when LO is here, as FTparents, what it's going to be like going from each other's #1 person in life to #2. It's not something we can even imagine right now, but we both know it's going to happen when we hold our little girl for the first time. That's what I am worried about the most.

Oh no - that would scare me, too. DH have promised each other we will always be the other's number 1. Even if the baby needs more attention for the first few months, I always want to love him most.

PamMcManus · September 2013

I'm worried about going back to work after baby. I'm so afraid that she will be with my Mom so much, that she won't want to go home with me. I work 5 days a week, anywhere from 8-12 hours a day. The thought of missing out on so much makes me sick to my stomach.

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

To ease FTM worries: 1. If or when you go back to work baby will still want you at the end of each and every day! I promise. 2. Sleep, you will be shocked at how little you can function on. It's really quite impressive, you will adjust, yes you'll be tired but you won't be falling down. 3. As far as SO worries, it can be trying but just remember that you are in it together.

jax63081 · September 2013

I remember when DS was about 8 weeks old and going through a growth spurt. He was up just about every hour to eat. I remember sitting in the glider crying to my husband that I needed help. But I got through it. It will be tough but you will be fine.

KFED103 · September 2013

The only thing I'm worried about is C/S recovery while chasing DS. That and containing him during those long newborn nursing sessions. It doesn't keep me up at night though...zillions of moms do it and I know I'll just figure it out as I go along

jmb527 · September 2013

I worry about how DD will adjust, how we will adjust to having 2 kids, I worry about going back to work and who will watch the baby (last time my job allowed for part time work and my Mom watched DD those 2 days, but this time I have a different job).

And like KFED said, I worry about recovery from c/s with my 3 y/o at home with me and baby. It wasn't hard last time, but I was able to sit and rest when baby did or was feeding.

sportsmomma · September 2013

holly1416 said:
STM here and the thing that I am the most afraid of is how my DD will react to the new baby. She will only be 2 at the time and won't be old enough to fully understand but she will be old enough to understand that she is now sharing me. I am just afraid of her feeling hurt.

This exactly except I have a son. I'm really starting to get worried about this, but deep down know he'll be an awesome big bro and a sibling is the best gift we could ever give him.

grannyweatherwax · September 2013

I am also worried about how DD will adjust to having a sibling. I am worried about sleep or lack of sleep. I am worried about post-partum depression, I had it last time and it sucked. I am also irrationally worried about being in the hospital on Christmas and DD not getting a good Christmas or missing out because of it.

Ansleyturner · September 2013

@sailortink do you have some kind of account with an e book store or a kindle or something? I was looking for this on my IPhone and can't find anywhere to buy books.

I'll be honest, I'm a FTM and we live with my mother right now before we find a house. I'm worried that the stress here will be a lot on me (me and step dad don't get along), that she will get too attached to baby and think its 'hers', and that we won't have enough room for everything. Once we get the house I worry about bring alone all the time (DF works nightshift).. Also that with getting the new house that we will be so stressed on money and/or won't have enough to get married.. That me and DF will fight all the time or he won't help with baby enough. And that I will have anxiety attacks/PPD.
I think I win the worry wart award!

blainethetrain · September 2013

I'm scared of losing my hair again. Last time I had legit bald patches that are just recovering now. I'm worried about DS feeling less loved with a new baby around. Also scared that I dodged the bullet with DS as far as temperament and sleeping and that the bill is coming due.

Aycul18 · September 2013

I'm actually a bit frightened for L&D. I think I'm most worried about having everything we need though? All of the necessary products seem quite a bit overwhelming to me!

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