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Anyone else dealing with anxiety issues?

TobieRoseTobieRose member
in November 2013 Moms
My husband just took DS for a walk to the grocery store in the stroller and I am convinced they are going to get hit by a car or something crossing the street. It's ridiculous. I know it is, so I don't tell DH about it, and I try not to let anxiety change my actions, but I can't help feeling it and it sucks. 

We've been going through a LOT of big stuff right now in addition to expecting the twins--buying our first house, dealing with my MIL who has a personality disorder, etc--and between all of that and the hormones, I just seem to handle anything. 
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Re: Anyone else dealing with anxiety issues?

  • LibberDuckLibberDuck member
    I've been dealing with similar anxiety since the birth of my DS. I think a lot of it has to do with the amount of emotion I feel concerning DS... it sounds corny, but I love him more than I ever thought possible. I guess I hadn't realized it would possibly be that strong of an attachment. Suddenly, you are responsible for another little person who you love unconditionally. I'm always anxious about something happening to him, DH or myself. I try to deal with it by putting my mind on something else. Unfortunately that's the best advice I have (aside from talking to a professional, which I don't have the option of doing because of where I live), but I totally understand where you're coming from. It's nice to know that others feel similarly!
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  • IforShortIforShort member
    Sorry you're feeling this way. Emotions are definitely heightened during this time. I would definitely talk to your OB or midwife about these feelings and ask for a referral to a therapist. When I was pregnant with DD I had lots of anxiety as DH was deployed and I was going through all those feelings alone. I mentioned it to my OB and she recommended a great therapist who helped me work through my fears and I already had a resource available if I had needed help with PP depression.
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  • SweetLaura286SweetLaura286 member
    I know it sounds silly but I have been feeling that way about my husband when he takes out our dog. If they've been out walking longer than I expect, I panic she slipped loose and ran away. They had to go out for an errand the other night and I definitely felt concern the whole time that they got into a car accident. Sigh. I never tell him this because I don't want him to think I don't trust him.. Of course I do. But how is it going to be when LO is born?? I love my husband so much and I fully feel like she is his child as much as she is mine, but if my feelings with our dog are any indication...

    I feel awful.
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  • sands42sands42 member
    All the time! A shower is the thing that usually helps me. At least for the time being. My husband works out of town & I have a 3 year old- so I'm mostly on my own. Structure and staying busy are really a big help but I'm bad at that!!!
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  • TobieRoseTobieRose member
    Definitely. I think this is me too right now ... it's just unsettling because while I can't say I don't worry about things, never before I have experienced displaced (and thus totally disproportional) anxiety like this. It sucks!

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  • TobieRoseTobieRose member
    Thanks everyone for your responses ... it's really good to know I'm not the only one experiencing this. (I tried to respond a few days ago and The Bump was being lame and not letting me post.) 

    I've brought it up to DH in kind of a joking way in some specific instances, but I think next time I will talk to him more seriously about it. It will be better than keeping it to myself and feeling like I'm going crazy. 

    (And yes, DH and DS made it back from the store without getting hit by a car or anything else disastrous. :) )

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  • Kfran84Kfran84 member
    I've been having weird anxieties about DH also. It really went into overload when my sister's husband passed away in July (suicide). I got super clingy to DH and worry about something happening to him all the time. He understands and is always very open to listening to me and reassuring me that he is safe when he does X and that he is very careful when he does Z because he knows he has to take care of himself for me and the baby.

    You are definitely not alone. :)


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  • Mr&MrsGlennMr&MrsGlenn member
    I'm glad that you are planning on bringing it up to your DH more seriously. Its important to keep him in tune with what is going on with you so that you can be the best you can be for him, DS, and of course for yourself. If you find it interfering with your daily routine and/or physical health you should really seek professional advice about the anxiety.

     I've been having some lately too, but I have sought professional help for anxiety in the past. My sister in law just lost her baby at almost 18 weeks. It made me really anxious. I know its silly because I can feel him kicking and moving, but because of moving and stuff I haven't heard his heart beat in over a month and I get fits of fear that something is really wrong and will happen to him. I found myself hysterical that I was going to do something accidentally either while pregnant or after that would harm the baby and accidentally kill him. Thankfully I have a very understanding DH who just cuddled me until I calmed down. 
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  • msteph113msteph113 member
    i have horrible anxiety and these weird pregnancy symptoms make it that much harder to deal with because i feel like i'm going to fall over all the time. i miss happy pills more than i miss being skinny
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  • MomtothreeloveMomtothreelove member
    I could have written some of these myself. Ugh. I am a type A control freak. I always keep my shit together, I always have a plan. I keep not only my household, but the rest of my family (3 bros, parents and grandma) set in terms of life decisions and problem solving.
    It hit me yesterday like a train wreck. I can't handle it. I have two healthy boys and a healthy husband and I am overwhelmed that I'm destined for a huge issue. I'm afraid my DD will be ill/pass bc we have been so lucky for so long. I know it is 100% irrational. I know I'm crazy. I cannot get it out if my head. My DS in kindergarten's friend lost her mother to a motorcycle accident and I have a fear that it could be our family. (Car accident, we don't have motorcycles) I cried ALL DAY today thinking that something could happen to us. A girl I knew lost her baby late term a few months ago, my boss, who has 3 kids just diagnosed with cancer at 40yrs old this week, and I cannot shake the crazy notion that we are due for disaster.
    Ugh. I know from my first two that I struggle with post-partum issues, but I never had this prior to deliveries?! It usually takes me a few weeks to mellow after giving birth with some severe anxiety, but this is kicking my ass already.
    Thanks for posting ladies, not that I wish this on anyone, but it helps to know I'm not as crazy as I think.
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  • cagoldicagoldi member
    Why the hell was this thread from early September resurrected?
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  • katwilliams1katwilliams1 member

    Hi.. My name is Katrina and I am new to the Bump. I am currently expecting my 1st child and have struggled with anxiety since 2004. This year has been full of fun events. I bought my first house, got married and now expecting my first child. The type of anxiety I experience is not chronic. I had a bought of anxiety in 2004 when I witnessed a motorcycle crash. Then in 2009 for no apparent reason and then again in 2012 (which has been off and on since then. more off than on until recently and was due to extreme stress) I am currently taking Buspar for the anxiety but was also prescribed Clonazepam (use as needed) I was doing really well with anxiety up until the 11th week of pregnancy and was hoping that the hormones were making me anxious. I have had to take 1/2 a pill of clonazepam everyday.. I kept telling myself that maybe the vitamins I am taking were interacting with my meds. The thinking of an anxiety sufferer.

    I am going to see my psychologist tonight to bring him up to speed on what has been going on.

    I was a big in to working out over the last few year but since I have been in school and work full time, it has been rather hard to find the time to work out. I know that would more than likely make me feel better and be more healthy for the baby and I.

     

    I am just looking to see if anyone else has taking medication while pregnant. I have already spoken with my primary care dr (he prescribed the meds) and he is ok with me taking the clonazepam as long as I use my judgment as to when I need to take it. I have been praying and hoping that this will all pass or if I am anxious because this is my first child.

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  • MomtothreeloveMomtothreelove member
    @cagoldi- bc sometimes PgaL brain coupled with anxiety about bringing a new life into the world doesn't stop from month to month.
    Sorry...I should have posted "I'm having really strong contractions. Should I call my dr or go but an iguana?"
    Better?!
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