People touching my belly ALREADY?

CharlestonVal · September 2013

I'm a FTM...and barely showing at 11 weeks, but wow...now that I'm starting to be more free about telling people the news, it seems EVERYONE is touching, rubbing, talking to, kissing my little blump! I knew this would happen sometimes eventually but already? Seems crazy to me. It's a little weird but doesn't bug me a lot (yet!) I just shake my head....

Does this bug any of you? If so, how do you politely deal with it?

DRFleener · September 2013

Omg, my guys bro touched my stomach last night after we told them...I was like ummm, can I help you?

karacakes98 · September 2013

My in-laws did that to me a few weeks ago. We saw them again today for a pool party and I limited the problem by constantly having a towel held in front of my stomach when I was out of the water. I guess they got the point since none of them tried it today.

BrideNamedMeg · September 2013

Who the hell is KISSING your belly??? OMG, I would die if someone did that to me at this point, or you know, ever (unless it was MH or one of my kids)! If you want to be subtle, a little step back and hands over the belly might work, but seems like you might need to be a little more straightforward with these people.

Kewii · September 2013

I was just telling a coworker that I will "punch a bitch" if someone tries to touch my stomach. I wouldn't really, and I know they'll try. I think I'll actually just rub their tummies back.

My bump is for my and my husband's hands only. I didn't even like it when my mom tried to do it.

kls33145 · September 2013

Too soon!!!
I get the touching when we have big preggo bellies...the only person I think I'd let kiss my stomach would be DH.

Until it's acceptable, I say if someone rubs your belly, you rub theirs. Make them feel just as awkward.

Excitedmum35 · September 2013

Ha! I can't believe that!! This is my third baby and I have always HATED ppl touching my belly when I'm pregnant- except for my husband and kids. I have actually said to ppl "don't touch my belly, thanks" and I believe there are t shirts that say don't touch or something! I think my pure hatred for random ppl touching my baby belly comes from my ex MIL lifting my top up to show her friends "her baby" when u was 6 months pregnant. I'm also not a huge touchy feely person so it just doesn't feel right having random ppl touch me!

flows912 · September 2013

My fil grabbed my arm and rubbed my belly when we first told him we were pregnant. I was 7 weeks. I didn't even have a bloated belly back then! I was seriously about to apply some self defense moves cause I was feeling violated!

flows912 · September 2013

I also found it awkward when I was pregnant with DS when people would ask to feel my belly. You asked so I feel like I shouldn't be rude and say no, but can't people understand that it's a weird thing to want to touch?

FroeschleN · September 2013

I don't understand how people do not have the common sense to think that touching a pregnant woman may be a no-no. With all of my pregnant friends I always asked permission every time since I know some women do mind. If they didn't want to be touched I knew they would tell me no or tell me they weren't comfortable with it, which was/is their right. What I most dread is strangers coming up and touching my belly, that's most definitely a boundary that shouldn't be crossed! I don't know you! Why are you touching me as if you do?!?!

alicat85 · September 2013

A drunk friend at a party starting awkwardly rubbing/patting my belly last night. She was so far gone I just let it happen.

Edit: spelling

HKline922 · September 2013

Only one person should kiss your bump and that's your SO!

My one SIL touched mine a couple times this weekend. She even took her 8 month old daughters hand and touched my belly with it lol. As if my niece wanted to touch it. Geez.

I don't like people touching me and I know it's gonna happen whether we want it to or not.

southerncharm24 · September 2013

I had it happen twice last week. I thanked them for rubbing my shit belly. They got the point. Haha

NoelleZako · September 2013

When my good friend was Prego she would randomly yank my hand over so I could feel the little guy kick. I also used to talk to him a lot .. I spent A LOT of time with her though bc her husband was deployed and I felt like no one should be alone during her pregnancy. I still baby sit that little guy all the time and I will let her touch my belly freely along with a few ppl I am close with. I have no family down here so my coworkers have become like family to me.

Random strangers though.. Better not try or I'll make it awkward by either going wahoo like the pilsbury dough guy or rubbing their tums back.

amandoza23 · September 2013

One of my coworkers did that in front of a client. I was 12 weeks at the time...I'm 14 now and still no bump. It's NOT okay for people to touch my stomach bump or no bump. Or for random people to touch my baby when we are at the grocery store or something....ugh.

ntdane · September 2013

I had someone rub my belly last week and I couldn't believe it. Little early for that.

When it's people I know I don't mind quite as much, but otherwise I'm really not that touchy-feely. With DS I worked with 6 women who had babies within 6 months of my pregnancy so there was a lot of belly touching there, but they were so excited and cute about it that it didn't bother me too much. Strangers, on the other hand....

Maddeegal · September 2013

Actually no one ever touched my belly in my first one, sometimes I felt like people were afraid of it, like it was something they could catch by touching it (and I looked cute) so this time when my dad touched my belly for the first time when I saw him it made me feel super happy, maybe it will be different this time.

lopezalonso · September 2013

My almost 80-year-old grandmother has taken to kissing my belly and although I love her and think she's really cute... I HATE THIS! It makes me feel so uncomfortable... especially when she does it in public and no one knows why because I'm not even showing yet. I told her that I'm very ticklish and prefer her not to but she's been having some memory difficulties and she forgets... I guess I'll just have to carry something in front of my belly for the remainder of the pregnancy. LOL.

jwls84 · September 2013

I always wear a sweater around my MIL, I hate when she comments on or touches my belly. A sweater kinda gives the don't look, don't touch impression.

peachy0709 · September 2013

My best friend did it to me around week 11 and I was SHOCKED how much it bothered me! I have no clue how to tell people not to, either!

ellajune2012 · September 2013

No. Just no. No one touches my belly, pregnant or not, except my husband.

If a stranger does, they're getting smacked. If it's someone I know, then I might just touch theirs back, or else say something. I SUPPOSE if you're a 90-something year old lady then I might let it go, but the only really old lady I know is my next door neighbor and she's not the type who would touch someone's belly.

akb1125 · September 2013

I don't mind my family or friends touching my belly but I do say its not the baby its just bloat. People keep trying to convince me my bloat is my bump.

lazyreader · September 2013

my aunt did this and (because my hands were full cooking dinner) I only said thanks for rubbing my gas around. lol she got the hint.

ceciljbrown · September 2013

I can't remember who it was right now, but a couple weeks ago someone went to rub my (fat) belly (totally not showing through the super fluff...) and I must have had a weird look on my face because she stopped and just rubbed the air in front of my belly.

Slightly awkward, but much less horrible for me than actual touching of my fluff.

Missfunball · September 2013

I've made my personal feelings about this known to those around me...I cant believe that my boss has the audacity to defend it. This was her response....

"Well I don't think its really about you, its about the miracle inside"

Do I look like a present? Do I have a bow on me? How the hell does this make it better!?

I'm pretty sure I'm going with the rest of the bumpies with a belly rub back and give them the blank stare.

lazyreader · September 2013

Missfunball said:

I've made my personal feelings about this known to those around me...I cant believe that my boss has the audacity to defend it. This was her response....

"Well I don't think its really about you, its about the miracle inside"

Do I look like a present? Do I have a bow on me? How the hell does this make it better!?

I'm pretty sure I'm going with the rest of the bumpies with a belly rub back and give them the blank stare.

you should grab her butt and say the same thing.

twinlove314 · September 2013

I think I would lose it if someone did that! Especially a stranger (or even a person that I hardly know). I'm a very private person, and I've come to the conclusion that, as a ftm, a twin pregnancy is going to draw more attention than I'm comfortable with. DH knows how I am with extra attention, and I'm sure will either give them the stink eye if they touch, or ask them to stop (he's become a lot more protective of me and the babies since seeing them at our first u/s) :-)

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