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The Endtimes...

bossmom11bossmom11 member
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I am a little frustrated today because it is the only day off dh and I get until next Sunday. How does dh spend it? On a computer game for the last four hours and started right after we came home from church/lunch. My edd is 9/7 so for all we know this could be our last opportunity to have us time before we become a family of three. At the same time I feel selfish because he also won't have time to play online with his friends when lo arrives. So torn. Anyone else in a similar boat?
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  • curlyq625curlyq625
    I go through this all the time and has only gotten worse since DS was born. My H works about 80hour weeks so I understand the need to unwind but I also get upset when the "unwinding" affects our family time. He loves to golf which always takes at least 5 hours. I just keep reminding myself when we do have family or couple time to make the most if it. I have a rcs scheduled and thankfully tomorrow is a holiday so we will get to spend one last day as a family of three and I have so been looking forward to it. I hope you get some time b4 ur lo arrives too!
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  • llybeckllybeck member
    I'm watching my fiance play a video game after coming home from L&D a while ago (everything was okay for now). Honestly, this is exactly what I want to be doing right now because we aren't going to get the down time later. If he was doing something else and I was just sitting here watching tv, that would be okay too, I'm just happy to have quiet time right now!

    But if you want to spend time with DH, why not just ask him? He's had a few hours to play, maybe ask if he wants to go out and do something nice like dinner and a movie?
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  • bossmom11bossmom11 member
    Like you I would be completely content just staying home and watching a movie. I know relaxation will be hard to come by after lo arrives I want to make sure he gets his friend time too. I will ask him in a little to hang out :)
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  • sgautschisgautschi member
    edited September 2013
    Yeah I totally hear where you're coming from. I told DH about a week ago that I really felt nervous and anxious about it not being just us anymore (even though at the same time I am so exited to become a family and a mother) and we decided to plan one more big date night. So last night we went out to a nice dinner, then ice cream and a movie. It was so nice to just enjoy time together outside of the house, and now I feel so much better about LO joining us soon. :)

    I definitely agree with PP. Let him know how you're feeling and plan something together, even if its just popcorn and a movie at home.
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  • JLMcWeeneyJLMcWeeney member
    My hubs plays video games a lot! I'm usually ok with it as long as he has helped with stuff. I gae him a bit of a guilt trip yesterday about not wanting to spend time with his son in his last few days before returning to work full time. I really don't think it is that big of a deal though. I watch my shows while our baby sleeps and he plays his games. Now if I was struggling trying to do too many things while the baby was sleeping I would have him help. Otherwise, NBD to me.
    If you want to spend more time with him tell him. If your husband is anything like mine he wont understand when you are upset. Just tell him you want to chill with him.
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  • CutieBean79CutieBean79 member
    The more DH plays video games, the more he leaves me alone and I can sleep! I love him, but if we have time away from DD (if she's asleep or with my parents) then I just want to rest.
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  • mcg512mcg512 member
    I would have said something after an hour.  How is he supposed to know that you want to do something if you don't say anything?  Maybe he thought you'd rather be on here so instead of asking you to do something with him.  Communicate. 
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  • bossmom11bossmom11 member
    He knows I want to hang out with him. Communication is not a problem. I usually mobile bump so I just check randomly throughout the day, not a constant bumper. This thread wasn't supposed to be me bashing dh because throughout the past 9 months he has been pretty awesome! I know I did say I was frustrated with how he spent his Sunday afternoon but I really just wanted to see how everyone else was handling the "unknown" time we have left when it comes to balancing time together, relaxing etc. It seems like going with the flow is the only way to do it!  We had 2 pre-term labor L & D visits around 34 and 35 weeks so I think in both of our minds our LO would have come by now :) Thanks for all the suggestions!
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  • mcg512mcg512 member
    megd11 said:
    He knows I want to hang out with him. Communication is not a problem. I usually mobile bump so I just check randomly throughout the day, not a constant bumper. This thread wasn't supposed to be me bashing dh because throughout the past 9 months he has been pretty awesome! I know I did say I was frustrated with how he spent his Sunday afternoon but I really just wanted to see how everyone else was handling the "unknown" time we have left when it comes to balancing time together, relaxing etc. It seems like going with the flow is the only way to do it!  We had 2 pre-term labor L & D visits around 34 and 35 weeks so I think in both of our minds our LO would have come by now :) Thanks for all the suggestions!
    That's not what you asked.  Had you asked that ^  I would have responded differently.  
    I read it as you were upset that he was playing games for 4 hours when it was possibly your last day together before LO is born but you didn't want to tell him not to play because he won't get to play after LO is born.  When you asked if anyone was in the same boat, I took that to mean H's who weren't spending time with us while they could before LO's were born.  
    Maybe you two can have some nice dinners this week? Watch a movie together in the evening?

    I'm not a big fan of DH rants/vents.  Communication can/would have resolved/prevented a majority of the arguments that I read about so when I comment it's usually to suggest to talk about it.  Men are certainly not mind readers! 
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  • bossmom11bossmom11 member
    @MandyCody36 I totally agree!! I should have been more specific, I was thinking as I was typing, probably should have figured that out before I started the post. It would be nice if men were mind readers though :)
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