I am still a month away from my due date and I want to punch my MIL in the vag. Seriously, if she says, "That's my grandbaby!" or "I can't wait for my grandbaby to be here!" I'm going to stab her. All of our parents are first time grandparents and they're all ridiculously excited, but she's driving me NUTS. I think she's feeling really competitive with my mom, who I'm really close to. Every single Facebook post about our baby, including pictures (of our nursery or new stroller or my bump or whatever it happens to be), she comments and manages to put the words MY GRANDBABY in there somewhere. I honestly want to delete the comments. I'm tired of her trying to claim her ownership!
Maybe I should save this for FFFC, but I almost want to keep my baby in forever so that he/she can just stay mine. Is it normal to already feel possessive when your baby isn't even here yet? Because I definitely do. I don't want anyone else (except DH) to hold him/her. I know this is petty and I shouldn't be annoyed, probably, but I am. And for the record, my own mother, not to mention my step MIL aren't much better so I'm about at the end of my rope. It's MY BABY. Leave me alone.
Please tell me I'm not the only one feeling this way?

Married: 8.5.12
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
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Re: Feeling possessive over baby (aka another MIL vent)
Try to not let it bother you so much and just remind yourself whenever she says it that she is just excited.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
My stepMIL has never said the "my baby" thing, but MIL has. Usually she says "my grandbaby" though. Thank goodness. I don't know why, but it really bothers me.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
My mom's kind of nuts though, she threw another huge fit when I wouldn't let her find out the sex of my baby before my DH and I. She thought she should be there for the anatomy scan and be the only one to know before a gender reveal party she wanted to throw later.
I think babies might bring out the crazy in people sometimes! I know I feel extra possessive every now and again and then realize "ok, obviously this is my (and my DH's) baby. No one is going to think he isn't ours and my mom is not going to run off with him." I just go through phases and chalk most of it up to hormones (a small amount of it is the fact that she's doing these things in the first place, but I'll readily admit to hormones being a large factor!)
Maybe flame is a strong word. I'm just surprised at the comments that I'm completely overreacting, I feel like most of the time when people get on her to complain about MIL issues (which happens fairly often), people are pretty understanding and supportive. I always try to be sympathetic in my responses to others because I completely understand in law issues.
Clearly I'm hormonal, I accept that (in fact, I think I already said that in a previous comment). That doesn't change that this is the way I'm feeling and it sucks. Of course I know it's my baby and that (for the most part), MIL's actions/words aren't intentionally to irritate me or whatever. But there IS a lot of competition between all three grandmas and it's getting old. Like I said, I would never be able to get into everything going on in the situation on here.
And I'm fully aware I won't be the first to hold my baby...not sure where that came from. I also know it's mildly crazy to say I don't want anyone else to hold the baby. Of course I will, I'm glad our baby has loving family. It's just how I'm feeling at this moment.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
My mom's kind of nuts though, she threw another huge fit when I wouldn't let her find out the sex of my baby before my DH and I. She thought she should be there for the anatomy scan and be the only one to know before a gender reveal party she wanted to throw later.
I think babies might bring out the crazy in people sometimes! I know I feel extra possessive every now and again and then realize "ok, obviously this is my (and my DH's) baby. No one is going to think he isn't ours and my mom is not going to run off with him." I just go through phases and chalk most of it up to hormones (a small amount of it is the fact that she's doing these things in the first place, but I'll readily admit to hormones being a large factor!)
She does sound a little crazy! The gender thing especially. No way!
We're team green but my stepMIL wanted to come to the A/S to find out the gender anyway so she could be making things for it. She promised not to let it slip, since we want to be surprised. My husband laughed in her face when she suggested that! And then we wouldn't tell her when the A/S was. She's also threatened several times to go to our midwife and find out the gender on her own, even if she has to "steal the chart." Uhh, no thanks, crazycakes!
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Perhaps we should just lock our moms/MILs in a room together until, say... November?
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
In laws are definitely tough, and even my own mother makes me a little annoyed sometimes with 'our baby /grand baby comments.' It bothers me too when we nicknamed our LO Peanut early on that everyone uses that still...it was kind of intended to be DH and my thing. Even My SIL, who is one of the meanest people to me on the face of the planet and hates me for no absolute reason is even making alot of comments about 'her neice.' I think excitement is mounting since everyone is getting so close. Try to smile and focus on the positives - and take as much time as you want for yourself right after delivery
Perhaps your DH can ask her to lay off the fb posts? We had to do this with a family member, as well as ask not to be tagged since it was constant. Good luck honey - though it's really annoying not sure this one is worth raising your blood pressure over!
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Fast forward to this spring when they came back; everything is wonderful and grand again. She loves that "bitch" wife of her son again and jumps right back on to the overly obsessed wagon. She gets back together with her husband two weeks after their divorce is final.
It is hard to explain how bad the situation really is if you don't experience it.
I think it's just normal FTM things we go through. As long as no one is putting you or baby in harms way it will all work out. If you have to put your foot down you should. It will make you feel better and establish respect to and from your family. But if you let things go now it will become a habit. Nip it in the bud.
List MIL as an "acquaintance" on FB (or list her in some other category), and restrict who sees your posts/pictures which can be done through your privacy settings or by going to the settings on a previous picture.
At least she's not calling it her baby, though. That would cross a line.