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Puppy guilt

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I have a two/two & half year old Chi-mix. He's been mine & DH's "baby" for two years, totally spoiled. I've been getting really stressed out that he's going to get really depressed when the baby comes because he can get really jealous and moody. When we first got Luna a few months ago, he seemed to get into a slump even though he still got plenty of attention. And last year when we went on our vacation he seemed so depressed for the next two weeks after we got back. He's so use to being #1 in our lives that I don't know how he'll feel when I've constantly got a baby around and he won't be able to just jump on the bed or me whenever he wants. He sleeps in our room (in an open cage) and sometimes he makes a lot of noise or if he has a "bad dream" he'll wake me up and jump in bed between DH & I and obviously I won't be able to let him do this when Marlena comes. I'm just feeling really guilty over the whole thing. Anyone else? Anyone have experience with a spoiled pooch welcoming a new baby? 
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  • amberrrjadeamberrrjade member
    MosyMama said:
    There are a lot of good suggestions on the 3rd Tri board in a post titled Dogs and MILs. One of the suggestions that stands out to me in your case would be to start making changes (like not letting your dog jump into your bed) now before the baby comes so that he doesn't attribute the changes to the baby's arrival.
    Oh thanks, I never look over there really. I'll check out that thread though. DH suggested that but it's so hard because I love cuddling with Cook, especially if DH isn't home, and he looks soooooo sad when I tell him no. Ugh, my hormones and emotions are just killing me!
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    Our dog is super spoiled rotten too. I suggest putting out the baby stuff (swing, PnP etc to let them get used to it being around. If you're worried about jealousy or aggression you may want to get a baby doll (borrow one from someone who has a little girl) and "practice" with your dog and baby being around. Take small times of "ignoring" your dog. Treat good behavior. After our son was born we made it a point to set aside even 10-15 minutes of time with just the dog (while baby is sleeping). You may be surprised at your dog's reaction. I thought our dog would be upset, depressed and jealous but he loved our son from minute one and instantly became his protector. Yours may be the same way

     

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    fluttergirlmoonchild79 said:
    Our dog is super spoiled rotten too. I suggest putting out the baby stuff (swing, PnP etc to let them get used to it being around. If you're worried about jealousy or aggression you may want to get a baby doll (borrow one from someone who has a little girl) and "practice" with your dog and baby being around. Take small times of "ignoring" your dog. Treat good behavior. After our son was born we made it a point to set aside even 10-15 minutes of time with just the dog (while baby is sleeping). You may be surprised at your dog's reaction. I thought our dog would be upset, depressed and jealous but he loved our son from minute one and instantly became his protector. Yours may be the same way
    I'm not worried about aggression, I often bring him to work with me and he LOVES playing with the small children and doesn't mind when they pull his tail/ears or poke his face. My main thing is him getting depressed and I just want him to be happy. Once we get more of that stuff for the baby, I'll start putting it out. 
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  • AshleyfurilloAshleyfurillo member
    We put the pack and play together and have it downstairs (LO will be sleeping in that in our room at first) so the dogs can get use to it being there. They were curious the 1st day but they have already lost interest. I'll do the same with the swing when we get it. Our puppy sleeps in his crate on the kitchen and our older dog sleeps in our bed .... I don't think we will have any issues .... Fingers crossed!
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  • Maimes10Maimes10 member
    Our cat is queen of the castle.   She is spoiled rotten, we love her so much!  We went on vacation and had a neighbor coming in twice a day to feed and play with her and she ended up with a stress induced UTI (she is on special food for the rest of her life because of it) and it also caused her to develop a pretty significant seperation anxiety issue.  My husband is her person (she cuddles with me when he's not around) and she sleeps only with/on him, never me.  The baby will be in a bedside co-sleeper on my side of the bed so hopefully we will not have issues.  It makes me sad as well to think she is going to be depressed but I can't imagine our feelings for our Lulu (Talullah) will change because of the baby.  Hopefully she will adjust without any UTI's!
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  • amberrrjadeamberrrjade member
    rczamora said:
    I would probably start trying to treat him more like a "dog" a little at a time. Like PP's have said, maybe stop letting him on the bed, maybe get him some new toys and get him used to entertaining himself. I'll be pretty much in the same situation with our dachsund :)
    He's never really been into toys... but he does love these bones we get him occasionally, maybe we'll stock up on those because when he has one he couldn't care less about anything or anyone else.
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  • desiree1988desiree1988 member
    I have 2 dogs that get very jealous and have been our babies for the last 5 yrs. my Pomeranian is more tolerant than my yorkie. My yorkie won't let other dogs near me and size doesn't matter to her. When we moved into our new apartment we began crate training them, and they are no longer allowed on any furniture. Occasionally I'll let them on the sofa, but that's if I'm on it watching tv, otherwise it's a big fat no no. I've let them sniff the baby clothes we've gotten, told them no to the baby's stuffed animals. We are slowly reenforcing everything, I don't think we will have a problem with the baby swings and stuff, and we are getting a gate to keep them out of the baby's room. When it comes to play time they bark at me, and sometimes I play but about 75% of the time I tell them no now so they have to play on their own. They like to play fetch, so it's also getting harder to pick up their toys to throw. I think they are slowly getting the idea.
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  • jegoehlejegoehle member
    I am definitely worried about our two mini dachshunds. They are so spoiled! It's been helpful to read what everyone has to say. Time to treat them a bit more like dogs :(
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  • dobrydneydobrydney member
    We have three dogs and one of them was sleeping in our room, and we just made her move to another sleeping spot.  We let them sniff and investigate the baby stuff, and are trying to break some of their jumping up on the couch/bed habits.  We'll see how it goes!
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