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Sister vent...long

mrscimermrscimer member
in March 2014 Moms
I went rummage saling today for random baby stuff...anything I could come across that was a good deal. I found a couple things and later ran into my sister in the grocery store and told her about my purchases. She commented that she had some stuff that I could have and said I should come over and go through it to see what I could use. My sister is a single mom. She had my nephew when she was 21 and has gotten tons of help from my parents, sister, and my husband and I in caring for him and making sure he had all the material things he needed. Anyways, so I went over there this afternoon to look through her stuff and she commented on a few things she would like to keep, which was fine. As I was finishing up she up and left. I got a call from my mom a few minutes later asking why I was taking certain items and asking I I took clothes because my sister was all upset about what I was taking. I was shocked. She only verbalized that she wanted to keep two large things. The rest she acted like I could take. Then she gets all mad and tells on me to our mom...? I put everything back, took absolutely nothing, and left. I don't understand why she would say I could have things, then turn around and tell on me like a child for taking them. It makes me so mad. We have helped her so much over the years buying things and caring for her son. I just don't get why she would offer then take it back. I understand being emotionally attached to some things and asking me not to take them is fine, but really, did she need to be such a child about it? She and I are supposed to go shopping tomorrow and idk what to do. So mad!
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  • Chelbeth1689Chelbeth1689 member
    Just call her on it!
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  • mrscimermrscimer member
    I probably should. I just hate confrontation.
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  • BrideNamedMegBrideNamedMeg member
    mrscimer said:
    I probably should. I just hate confrontation.
    Won't get resolved any other way!  Just try not to be pissed when you talk to her.  Just ask her what was up with talking to your mom and see what she has to say.
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  • ajdmamaajdmama member
    I have little sisters and while we haven't been in this situation, they've done some ridiculous nonsense similar to your situation. I have no advice because we usually fight it out, but I feel your pain! :-q
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  • NortyLeighNortyLeigh member
    bearsbearsbears said:

    Do you think that you taking things just made your sister somewhat emotional and she was just upset--but wasn't necessarily upset at you?

    I get really emotional at the thought of giving up my daughter's clothes.  Even if we end up with a boy, we're fairly sure we'll be done with 2.  I was thinking about giving the clothes to go a good friend with a daughter 14 months younger than ours and it made me serious teary eyed.

    Was she just being emotional to your mom, but didn't mean anything by it and your mom just took off and said that you took too much?  I would ask your sister and leave your mom out of it.

    I think this may be the case, too. I was putting away some of DS's old clothes and I was so sad that if we have a girl (which I could love!) we won't ever use them again. We are done at two also. I never thought that getting rid of clothes would make me sad but it really does!
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