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What would you do?

ParrytParryt member
edited August 2013 in March 2014 Moms
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Re: What would you do?

  • legallygingerlegallyginger member
    Get counseling?

    I'm sorry you're going through this, but if he's putting his hands on you in anger you have a big problem and need to take steps to fix it. Do you have family or other support system you can talk to about this?

    Part of me feels like you're overreacting telling him what he can and can't do with his friends, but I also realize I don't know the back story, and that maybe you mean he is more abusive after drinking with friends? His reaction was way over the line regardless. You and your children deserve better.
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  • qsflameqsflame member
    There is never a reason to put your hands on someone in anger, especially as an adult. It may be time for counseling for you both, and possibly anger management for him. These situations only begin to escalate over time, they do NOT get better without help. Lots of help.

    That being said, he is an adult, he should have the capability of making an informed decision. I think you did overreact to him saying that he would be going out tonight, sounds as if he is feeling trapped by something. There is nothing keeping you from telling him you would rather he didn't go, but allowing him to make the decision, or you offering up a compromise for him. Sometimes to get a reasonable reaction, you have to give a reasonable reaction. Without the back story or the whole story, your reaction does not seem completely reasonable.

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    FarmBoysWife said:

    @legallyginger, you're the first poster.. you should have quoted :) 

    This is what I get for doing thread summaries.. 

    Aw crap. I never remember to do things like that!

    Summary: her H wanted to go camping with friends, she said no way in hell because all he does is get trashed and then "act like an asshole." He flipped out on her and said some nasty things, she started crying, he started yelling, grabbed her face and then held her down and forced her to look at him while they were arguing. She says it isn't the first time this has happened. They have a 2yo.
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    legallyginger said:
    @legallyginger, you're the first poster.. you should have quoted :) 

    This is what I get for doing thread summaries.. 
    Aw crap. I never remember to do things like that! Summary: her H wanted to go camping with friends, she said no way in hell because all he does is get trashed and then "act like an asshole." He flipped out on her and said some nasty things, she started crying, he started yelling, grabbed her face and then held her down and forced her to look at him while they were arguing. She says it isn't the first time this has happened. They have a 2yo.
    She additionally refused to speak to or look at him.

    Dammit, was there not enough ....whatever in this thread? I hate that.
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  • kls33145kls33145 member
    Holy yikes.....
    No man should ever put his hands on a woman in a forceful, harmful way....ever.
    OP'er, aren't you afraid of how he'll interact with your future child???
    There wouldn't be a second time with me, I would have left his ass the first time he disrespected and tried to hurt me.
    Get out.
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