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February 2013 Moms
DublinMama
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At a loss for what to do. Long, my apologies.
DublinMama
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I am starting to feel..."uneasy?" about DS' daycare situation. He goes two days a week, T/Th. I posted a few weeks ago that she planned to wake up him for naps, which I didn't like, in order to get him to nap at the communal 1:00 nap time. I decided to see how DS responded, and last week was his first week. He takes crappy naps there, often waking up without them having to do it, but his demeanor hadn't changed and it didn't impact his naps at home, so I decided to let it go. But now this issue came up today:
I went to pick him up and the DCP asked if there was any flexibility in my schedule and Jackson could come M/W instead, because she has "so many" drop-offs at 7:15, esp. T/Th, that she may have to pay a staff member to start earlier on those days (it's a licensed DC run out of her house, so she opens and greet the early arrivals each day). I said no, that our sitter on M/W/F has another job and also has her own child that she brings with her to our house, so she would probably have to find childcare for her own kid if her SO is not available M/W to stay with their DD. I also wanted to say, "No. It's not my problem that you only open at 7:15 and most people need to get to work for 7:30 (me included). If you need to pay someone to be with you, that's for you to work out, not for me to rearrange my son's routine." She kept propositioning me about it in different ways, almost like she would trick me or catch me fibbing out our flexibility, if that makes sense. I just said that we weren't able to do that.
She sends home slips of paper every day with nap/diaper/food info. on it, and I didn't see her stick it in Jackson's lunchbox, so I stood waiting. She then says, "Do you need something else....or..." I said I thought she was still filling out his daily sheet, and she said no she put it in the lunchbox. I just felt really uncomfortable, like I pissed her off because SHE'S understaffed in the mornings and I won't fix it for her by switching days. I'm starting to be confused by the multiple recs I got for her, because so far I find my experiences with her to be awkward and sort of unprofessional. I'm starting to believe this is routed in the fact that she doesn't get as much money from me as her full-time charges, so I'm treated differently in a negative way. But do I try to find someone else? I don't want DS to have to get used to all new people/faces/germs all over again, and he seems happy there otherwise. He reached out for her today when I dropped him off. I also don't want to be the entitled mom who thinks my kid or myself is more important than others. But I am as important, right? Is it worth starting over, or is this just the way of things with DC in the sense of business is business? I also admit I hate being away from my son, so part of me wondering if this is all psychosomatic on my part, so to speak, because I'm just uncomfortable with him being with non-family all day as it is.
I went to pick him up and the DCP asked if there was any flexibility in my schedule and Jackson could come M/W instead, because she has "so many" drop-offs at 7:15, esp. T/Th, that she may have to pay a staff member to start earlier on those days (it's a licensed DC run out of her house, so she opens and greet the early arrivals each day). I said no, that our sitter on M/W/F has another job and also has her own child that she brings with her to our house, so she would probably have to find childcare for her own kid if her SO is not available M/W to stay with their DD. I also wanted to say, "No. It's not my problem that you only open at 7:15 and most people need to get to work for 7:30 (me included). If you need to pay someone to be with you, that's for you to work out, not for me to rearrange my son's routine." She kept propositioning me about it in different ways, almost like she would trick me or catch me fibbing out our flexibility, if that makes sense. I just said that we weren't able to do that.
She sends home slips of paper every day with nap/diaper/food info. on it, and I didn't see her stick it in Jackson's lunchbox, so I stood waiting. She then says, "Do you need something else....or..." I said I thought she was still filling out his daily sheet, and she said no she put it in the lunchbox. I just felt really uncomfortable, like I pissed her off because SHE'S understaffed in the mornings and I won't fix it for her by switching days. I'm starting to be confused by the multiple recs I got for her, because so far I find my experiences with her to be awkward and sort of unprofessional. I'm starting to believe this is routed in the fact that she doesn't get as much money from me as her full-time charges, so I'm treated differently in a negative way. But do I try to find someone else? I don't want DS to have to get used to all new people/faces/germs all over again, and he seems happy there otherwise. He reached out for her today when I dropped him off. I also don't want to be the entitled mom who thinks my kid or myself is more important than others. But I am as important, right? Is it worth starting over, or is this just the way of things with DC in the sense of business is business? I also admit I hate being away from my son, so part of me wondering if this is all psychosomatic on my part, so to speak, because I'm just uncomfortable with him being with non-family all day as it is.
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Re: At a loss for what to do. Long, my apologies.
My DD went to daycare PT for years and they followed her schedule. They didn't start trying to get her to confirm to their schedule until she was like four- at that age the kids ruin only one nap after lunch while C was still taking two.
It is not your fault that she didn't plan well. Unless you changed the terms of your contract with her then she knew what days you needed and what times before you ever enrolled.
DS1: Quinn - 10.22.10 and DS2: Cole - 01.18.13